Newbies Nest

[Byrdlady]

Happy Thanksgiving, Nesters.
Kensho, your describing the resentment at others who drink more than their allotment really took me back. While I am still the AL Police, at least I’m not trying to keep up with, or claim my fair share of it. I do still pay attention to how much others drink, I wonder if that will ever go away? That obsession with the next drink is something I never thought I’d overcome. Thankfully, that came with time.
I finished my antibiotic and the ear drops yesterday and feeling better. Thank you all for your encouragement. I’m such a whiny patient (I hate that).
As I count my blessings, this nest and my sobriety are at the very top of the list. It was a lucky day when I googled ‘How to stop drinking’ and found My Way Out.
I cooked a full blown meal for the hubs and me. We had smoked pork chops instead of Turkey. I’m still miserably full. It’s the Season! Hope everyone has an awesome day!
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[Lavande]

Happy Thanksgiving Nesters,

Dinner & dessert done early & my family has gone home. Still hoping I can catch up with my son sometime this weekend!
My grandson turns 12 on Saturday. He’s the one who inspired me to quit drinking for good. I didn’t want to miss a minute of his growing up time & thankfully I have not
I landed in the nest way back then & have stayed here all this time. We need to take the nest out on the roadshow some time when it’s safer out there!!!

Byrdie, I’m so glad you are feeling better!!

Sending great big hellos & hugs to all the nesters & wishing a safe night in the nest for all!!!

Lav

[Pavati]

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone.

By this time 7 years ago I would have had my "pre-game" drink - I believe it was bourbon that day. Thanks goodness I don't have to go back there! Thank goodness Lav, Byrdie and NoSugar were here when I landed. I am so grateful for you all.

We're zooming with my family this evening - conveniently planned for cooking time so I'll miss some of it. My lonely mom is excited to "seeing" everyone... I AM looking forward to the meal tonight.

xo
Pav

[NoSugar]

Well, my name is Sugar tonight but it was delicious. Thanksgiving has been at our house maybe 3 times in 40 years so I don’t really know much about making turkey and all the other traditional stuff. It all turned out very well and we have plenty of leftovers.

I also am so grateful for the Nest, which is to say, all of you

[narilly]

Good Morning everyone- Yay to our Superpower!! I love being sober and being able to wake up with out a hangover (I may have said this before) haha.

I am grateful for all of you too and any newcomers that stop by or join in.

It was a lucky day when I googled ‘How to stop drinking’ and found My Way Out.

This is exactly what I did Byrdie, that was the beginning of the end of my drinking. It took about 8 years after I found MWO to actually quit.

So I did a few online assessments yesterday for Contact Tracer, who knows I may get a call. That would be nice.

Our city declared an emergency yesterday so we are being extra careful here. The numbers are not going down.

Have a great day everyone and Don't drink today.

[KENSHO]

Morning Nest. Last day in paradise today. 14 hours in the car tomorrow But home and my OWN bed sounds nice too. I spent a lot of time laying in bed last night, evaluating my life from the outside-in. We watched a movie called Art of Racing in the Rain, and it made me want to evaluate my life. I have had a long time struggle within myself, telling myself that I could be a better mom - a more present mom, a mom who doesn't have a career that she loves. So I laid awake in bed thinking, and asked myself what it would look like if I was the kind of mom I tell myself I should be. Turns out, It is not much different than the mom I am now. I decided to make some dedicated times to check in with the kids - but this thing I was really afraid of - being a bad mom - isn't real. I made a few goals for myself moving forward regarding health, relationships, spirituality... and I feel much better. I can be so hard on myself. It helps to confront those fears straight on sometimes. Especially when forced to be awake due to food-induced neuropathy!

Anyway, sorry for the "deep thoughts". Goals for today are to get outside in the sun, exercise, and plan for my son's birthday. I can't believe he's going to be 15!

Nar, I hope you get some hits on those jobs.

Byrdie, glad you are feeling better! Your spread looks like it was yummy, though I will admit, the day after, I'm still stuffed!

NS, how do you feel after sugar?

PAV, so glad your Thanksgiving massacre has never been repeated. Hope your dinner and Zoom were fun.

I hope everyone has a good day. It's fun to remember that life without hangovers is marvelous.

[Pavati]

Hi, All:

Dinner was ok - not the best but good. I realized I really like a Thanksgiving meal where everyone does something so you get to taste other people's cooking also. At least we get all the leftovers and at least I'm not hungover! Thankful for that!

Kensho, those night musings... I'm glad for your conclusion. I think there is quality time and quantity time. Working moms have to go for the quality. I work a lot of hours and sometimes second guess that, but my kids get to see a hard-working, successful woman as a role model, and that is good IMHO.

I feel like having stuffing for breakfast. Is that ok??? Haha.

Happy SOBER Friday,
Pav

[Lavande]

Good evening Nesters,

Pav, funny you mentioned stuffing for breakfast, I had the same thoughts, haha. I ended up having toast with a smear of homemade almond butter

Kensho, can I just say that being an over thinker is exhausting, been there & done that. Fortunately as you get older you just seem to stop judging yourself & your decisions. When you look at your grown kids & realize they turned out just fine despite having an imperfect mother you just relax!!n wishing you a safe trip home!

Narilly, sounds like you’re moving forward with your job application. Hope something works out.

NS, I’ve had a small slice of apple pie two days in a row now, haha. Feeling happy but a bit piggish.

I did get to see my son today, they came over for a leftovers lunch. Weeks & months go by & I don’t see him even though he only lives 7 miles away. He has a grueling work schedule & lots of things to do when he is home. So I’m grateful for the visit today.

Hello to everyone & wishing a safe night in the nest for all!

Lav

[wagmor]

Nar - fingers crossed for you on the job!

Kensho - your AZ trip sounds like it has been very replenishing for you in many ways, and then being home in your own bed will be wonderful too. I'll have to check out the movie you mentioned. Safe travels home!

Glad to hear that everyone had nice thanksgivings, whether hosting anyone live or through zoom or traveling or just being home alone. We made homemade pizza and got a marionberry pie which was super yummy, and we watched a football game with my dad. It was quiet but very nice. I'm not really much of a pie eater but I do enjoy a slice once or twice per year.

I had two online classes today, then one tomorrow morning, and then the rest of the weekend off. We took a long walk and enjoyed the crisp fall weather, happy for some sunshine even if a bit chilly.

Hellos and waves everyone. Have fantastic AF weekends!

[paulywogg]

Morning nesters, sounds like everyone had a nice Thanksgiving I felt hungover yesterday from too much food! Really sluggish, bloated and kinda bluesy, think it was all the carbs and grease, Kenshin, loved your cleansing deep thoughts I only hate the wasted time with my kids, yes I was there in person but my mind and memories are lacking, one if my biggest regrets in life and it makes me feel like a very selfish person, which I never thought I was. Narilly, I hope you land a job soon, there just isn't much out there, especially in places where the industry is basically one or two things, I'm worried about people when this unemployment runs out, they said the food banks were overrun this year and donations were down by 90%! That's huge,too depressing I'll move on yikes! Wishing everyone a happy AF day in the best, do something nice for ourselves today