Newbies Nest

[wagmor]

Jvo/Neen - I am SO sorry to hear about Ramsay. I think it's pretty much always heartbreaking to lose a furry family member, but when it's so unexpected (and in your case also tragic for your son) then it's all the more difficult. Please know that so many of us can relate to your grief and sense of loss. On the positive side, that's fantastic that not only did you NOT drink, you were also honest with son and husband and enabled them to help you stick to your quit. That's what it's all about, and you did it. Hugs to you friend

Nar - hooray for the contact tracing job going well, for being able to work remotely from home with your pups, and for cases going down in Canada (or in your Province at least?).

Ava - I hope you have a wonderful and restful 4-day weekend.


Hellos and waves to everyone stopping by the nest this weekend. Stay safe!

[NoSugar]

What did I do? I didn’t drink. I told my husband and son what I felt like and I asked them to help me stay away from it. They did. I was present for both of them, and felt the pain course through my veins. I hugged and cried with them both.

J-vo, tears popped into my eyes when I read this. I hope you are as proud of yourself as I am of you . It is great that your family is there to support you. I am so sorry about Ramsay and that all of you are in such pain. Losing any dog is so hard but losing a young dog unexpectedly is such a heartbreak. xx

[Pavati]

Hi, All:

So sorry, J-Vo! That is terrible. I am so grateful that you stayed strong in your quit, though. Good for you for asking for support from your son and husband, and I'm glad your co-workers were there for you. You flexed and strengthened a sober muscle and continue to do so through a difficult. As Mr. G says, the only way OUT of those hard emotions is THROUGH. Drinking would just put them off for a while.

Nar - I was going to ask about your job, too. Glad it is working out, and how nice that it can be from your home. And the book is called Quit Like a Woman by Holly Whitaker. Her blog/instagram used to be called hip sobriety but now is called Tempest. I think there have been mixed reviews on her book - Chrissy promoted it as something that helped her.

Ava - Wow, do the rooms in my place need painting. But we've been here so long and accumulated so much stuff - it will be challenging when we finally tackle it. The kitchen is first...

Ok, today is a break in the delicious rain we had yesterday. Off to enjoy the outdoors somehow.

Pav

[Lavande]

Greetings Nesters,

JVo, I’m so sorry about your dog, heartbreaking. We cross-posted last night so I didn’t see your post.
Not drinking thru something like that proves you are stronger than you know, we are proud of you. Please take care

Hello to Wags, NS, Pav & everyone.
Very cold & very windy here today, preparing us for snow on Monday I believe. I’m staying as much as I can.

Wishing everyone a comfy & safe night in the nest!

Lav

[Neen]

Evening Everyone,

Today there was less crying. More reflecting. And a big, long nap. Did a few things around the house. I’m kind of tired, probably from not moving my body around at all. My goal tomorrow is to get some school work done, wash clothes, and the bathrooms are so gross, need to tackle them. It’s time to get up and move.

I feel relieved that I’m not feeling as vulnerable as I was the past two days. And also glad that I have things I need to do tomorrow to prepare for the week. Another weekend without booze, and this was a big deal, this one. Thanks for your continued words of encouragement.

Nar, so glad you’re enjoying your job, and how great that it’s from home.

Neen

[wagmor]

Hugs to all nesters - the ones who are thriving, the ones who are struggling/surviving, and to everyone in between.

[narilly]

Happy Un Hung Saturday everyone. Its 10pm and I am just going to have a bath and go to bed. This is much better thatn having another glass of wine and blacking out!

Neen, I am really upset about Ramsay. I feel like he was my own little weenie because he was exactly like Elvis and we both got them in 2015. I keep kissing Elvis, he likes it
It is wonderful to see you here. I really missed you Neens. That is what I am going to call you.

Thank you everyone asking about my job, you are so kind. I like it and I don't feel like I am going to get fired any second which is nice. I am grateful to have it for now and I try not to think too far into the future about the job situation.

It is snowing here and freezing cold -13C right now but its beautiful. I get up at 6:40 and go for a 20 minute walk, it is really nice when no one is around and it has just snowed. Can you imagine getting up at that time and going for a walk on a Sunday when we were drinking? Ya Right!! There is NO way that would happen.

Don't drink today, one day at a time right!

[Pavati]

Happy Sunday,

Glad you're having a sober weekend, Neen. Take care of yourself.

Really not much to say. Glad to see you all who check in and to think about those who don't as much. Grateful for this group.

Pav

[Pavati]

Wait. Stop the presses. There IS something big today.
@NoSugar is 8 years sober!

I lurked around here for about a year off and on while I was trying to "moderate" and fix myself so I could still drink, and I followed every step of your journey. I so appreciated your scientific, research-based approach, combined with humility and compassion. THANKS for being just 11 months ahead of me forever more, and thanks so very much for supporting me when I first came (and forever more).

Hope you have a wonderful day full of celebration. You deserve it!
Pav

[Byrdlady]

Wow, Pav, good catch there. NOSugar, I wish your date was in your signature line, I’d stand a decent chance of remembering it!
I do recall when you first came into the nest. At that time, Kuya was here and she sent me a PM that she wished all nesters were as receptive as you were. You were like a sponge. That trait seems to have served you well, here you are, 8 years later! I am so proud of you! Just an incredible accomplishment.

Jvo, I’m crushed to hear about your Ramsey. Just awful. I am so sorry. God bless you all and I hope your pain can be replaced with happy memories soon. Thinking of you.

Happy Sunday, everyone! Stay the course! Byrdie