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    Good evening Nesters,

    Byrdie, today is actually the last day of summmer, tomorrow we are in fall. The rain & wind yo’re having is supposed to be here Thursday, oh well.
    I know you’re keeping yourself busy with sweet chocoaltey things

    Belle, good to see you but I’m sorry you’re having a rough time. Being someone’s punching bag or sin eater is not fun. Time to strengthen up your boundaries. There was a time, many years ago I was known for sending my husband right out the door if he walked in grumpy & growling. It used to upset me & the kids hearing that nonsense. Look out for you, this is your time now :hug;
    Stay close to the nest, we will share our collective strength.

    NS, I couldn’t be happier knowing the cooler weather is almost here. I suffer too much all summer, this is my time of the year, yay!!

    Wag, yep, I’m happy to throw on a jacket, grab the scarf & gloves if needed too & get my walking done. The colder air invigorates me. I’ve been like a slug all summer, haha!

    Hello to everyone & wishing a safe night in the nest for all.
    I just heard the bat population in Pennsylvania is on the rise & I’m OK with that becaus ethey eat all the mosquitoes the chickens miss, haha!

    Lav
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    So great to see so many nesters checking in!

    NS - I've come to expect that I'm doing well too, although I never ever take it for granted. I am a bit tired but my quit is solid.

    Belle - that sounds terribly hard at home with your husband acting like that. Is it even worth trying to talk with him and see if you can get things sorted out? I can't remember what you've said about his willingness to engage in that kind of process. And to be fair, maybe YOU don't want to do that anyway. Based on what you've described I would totally understand that. Hugs to you. Tuck yourself into the nest and post every day.

    Byrdie - holy moly that's a lot of rain for one day!!! If only we could distribute that out across all of the western US states and other regions of the world in drought.

    Hellos and waves to Lav, Slo, Kensho and everyone else stopping by the nest. Hope all is well with all of you!

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    It is great to hear from so many nesters! We’re still missing the Pav-Ava quit twins…I wonder if Ava is on her vacation now?

    I’m back from babysitting the little grandkids. Beckett has hand-foot-mouth disease, but luckily he was turning the corner right when I got there and wasn’t quite so sick anymore. Mabel is so much fun at 4 months old, so cute & cuddly!
    You’re right. Lav, my focus will be on my daughters & grandchildren now. I feel vulnerable, like I need them too much and need to draw strength from them. Well, I am helpful anyways.

    Belle, I feel like a lot of my drinking was in response to the bad marriage also. Once I quit, I couldn’t handle the feelings of feeling rejected and disempowered and all of that very well. I couldn’t numb them away anymore. This is hard when our youngest ones go off to college, and we’re left with a truly empty nest!

    I’ve been out & about. Went to the Van Gogh immersion show last week, went to an arts & craft fair over the weekend; went out looking at a few condos, went to water aerobics…
    I’m traveling today to take my mother to a doctor appointment.

    G-man, very good point that we need a foundational set-up of checking in with ourselves. I need to craft this and firm it up better so I don’t feel so unmoored.

    I hadn’t quite identified this myself, but you’re right, Byrdie: my stomach is in knots.

    Lav, how did your embroidery project turn out?

    Onwards & upwards.
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    Hello...doing my morning (oops almost noon) check-in.

    Slo, in the long run, how did you handle your feelings of rejection when you could not numb with alcohol. I try to stay away from hubs as much as possible to avoid his wrath. I go for walks in the evening (it seems I only do that on sober nights). Last night on my walk, around 9:30pm some lady yelled at me from her porch as to what I was doing there. I had stopped to answer a text from my niece. I told her that I was on a public sidewalk and had every right to be there. But it put me in such a bad mood. I should have told her I was "minding my own business and she should mind her own business". What is wrong with people. That is my pre-bedtime stress release. I shouldn't have let her ruin it for me, but it was just the straw that broke the camel's back. I came home and posted about it on the neighborhood app instead of drinking.

    I think hubs is turning into his father who was not a nice person to be around. In fact my mother-in-law never shed a tear when he passed away...and I don't think anyone else did either...sad.

    I like the Mr G-ism "if you are walking through hell...keep walking" and that is just what I'll do.

    Have a good sober day/evening everyone.
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    hi Nesters,

    quick check in after a long and stressful day.. it's only almost 9pm and I'm going to hit the hay as to be able to wake up and be at work by 5..
    Looking forward to a weekend trip to the country side with my BF.. looking after chickens for a friend who will be away. We're going by bike and will just take books to read, go for long walks.. I will have my phone with MWO at my fingertips!
    Nice to read back on all the posts and to feel connected here..
    love to you all..xx

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    Good evening Nesters on the very first day of Autumn (at least where I live)!

    Glad I got my walk in early because now we’re getting Byrdie’s rain & windy weather. I think it’s going to last all day tomorrow as well. I’m just hoping things clear up for Friday. My embroidery customer’s son is getting married outdoors Friday evening. I stitched the bride & groom’s names & wedding date on blankets that they intend to use around a fire pit after the ceremony.

    Wags, honestly I think the older we get the less likely we are to put up with anyone bad mouthing us!! I know I have lightning ability to respond to an insult these days, haha!! Being insulted by a spouse is just not acceptable. We stand with Belle & Slo, right?? Hope your day was wonderful.

    Slo, I’m glad to hear you are out & about, that’s great! Helping out with the grandkids is definitely a good feeling. I hope the little guy feels better soon.
    The embroidery project turned out great, just waiting for the busy mother of the groom to let me know when I can meet her. It was supposed to be today. Keep looking out for yourself please.

    Belle, I think of what you & Slo are going thru every day. I just want you two to tell yourselves that everything will be OK, regardless of what actually happens. I told myself that when my husband suddenly ran out a year after I quit. I think I must have exposed his flaws & he wasn’t willing to deal with them. I lived in peace for 4 years until he decided to return home because he wanted what I had - relationships with our kids & grandkids. He has calmed down & behaved himself since. Hang in there!

    LC, I hope you enjoy your weekend away. I sure could use a chicken sitter if you find you like doing that sort of thing

    Hello to all & wishing everyone a safe night in the nest!

    Lav
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    hello...just a quick witching hour check in from me. All's well. Hope all is well with everyone else too!
    BelleGirl

    Alcohol does me no favors.

    Pouring poison down your throat is just plain STUPID!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lavande View Post
    Greetings Nesters,
    LC, Mulburry - hope you are both doing well & staying on plan. Let us know how we can help!
    Thanks for the concern. Haven't been on here much the last few days. Bottom line is I'm still struggling (especially with the meds) but still AF. I have been keeping a detailed daily journal that I just posted in my Detox thread in case anyone's interested: Detox

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    The first weeks are difficult. @Mulburry; there’s no way around it. But you seem to know that and are making your way through them. I do keep an eye on your detox thread. We’re pulling for you!

    Interesting to hear about your embroidery project, Lav! The blankets…daughter who got married in Winter had those for the wedding party.

    LC, yes, definitely need to hit the hay at 9:00p if you have to be at work by 5:00a! Sleep is such an important “tool to have in your toolbox”.

    Sorry about the lady on the porch, Belle. Maybe she has had bad things happen to her, like porch pirates, so is suspicious. Maybe she can’t see very well, so didn’t realize in the dusk that it was just a walker out for a walk.

    Belle, I wasn’t able to handle my feelings of rejection and resentments very well after going AF. I too would end up trying to stay away from hubs as much as possible.

    After crying out a lot of tears on the evening of the full moon, I’m feeling better about and more accepting of the fact that I am getting divorced. And I hang onto the words of support that have been said to me here, that “Everything will be OK.”.

    I need to get a couple bike rides in over the next couple of days as I’m doing a little organized bike ride on Sunday with sister and daughter D2. It’s harder to fit in now that the mornings are so cold, and the evenings are shorter.

    Wishing all a good AF day!
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    Greetings Nesters,

    Well we have had 2 inches of rain so far today. We’re over 80 inches for the year & that’s a lot.
    Hand rolled some homemade low sodium tortillas, turned out pretty good. I just used white flour because that’s all I had but will make some with some whole grains next. I am so sensitive to salt it’s not funny & I have. To try to help my BP.

    Belle, glad you checked in today

    Mulburry, I just peeked at your thread & I’m left wondering why you chose to do a home detox. You seem to have multiple things going on at once & that’s a lot to handle on your own. Just know that after these initial days things will get much better for you, be safe.

    Slo, acceptance of any situation is the first step toward healing. I know a lot of people would agree with me that you are stronger than you know. It’s amazing the ways we are tested in life but we come through, you will too

    Hello to all & wishing a safe night in the nest for all!

    Lav
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