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    Re: Newbies Nest

    Another quick fly by, Nesters..
    without even having read all the latest posts..
    I have a terrible head cold and feel like about a buck-o.nine..
    but have to go to work anyway.
    will check in again later..
    hugs to all..xxx

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    Young daughter is on her way home from college right now! She hasn’t been home since she left for college!

    Lav, how wonderful that you shared a holiday activity with your grandsons (baking gingerbread cookies), and taught them some skills too. I always baked cutout Christmas cookies for the kids to decorate, as did my mother for us growing up. I’ll have to remember to be that kind of grandma as they grow.
    And putting your exercise bike in your embroidery room to use while the machine is running is an excellent idea!

    Part of the reason I was fragile over the wedding weekend was that it was full moon time, and a blood moon and with an eclipse to boot. I am on a detox diet, and supplementing minerals & such to push detox and heal my liver, and detox always ramps way up at the full moon time, causing turmoil with both physical and emotional symptoms. So it was just a hard time for me. And hard to be at a wedding when I’m getting divorced, hard to have the DJ calling couples out on the dance floor based on how many years they’ve been married, etc. I’m finally getting back on a more even keel, and relieved that Thanksgiving and Christmas do not land at full moon time, and neither does the divorce date in January.

    LC, I don’t envy you your cold! Thanks for checking in.

    Heading into a drinking event tomorrow here in the U.S.with Thanksgiving upon us. Stay strong!
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    Greetings Nesters on this Thanksgiving eve

    Looking forward to going to our daughter’s house for dinner tomorrow. She’s a pretty good cook too which is wonderful. I’m putting together some appetizers & a dessert to take along. There’s no drinking at her house, never has been which is awesome.

    LC, sure hope you feel better soon! Take care.

    Wags, haven’t we all been pushed too close to the edge over the past year or two? Geez, it seems to never stop, one thing after another. We’re collectively worn out I think. Here’s hoping teh new year does indeed bring us some kinder & healthier vibes.

    Slo, the grandchildren have always been drawn to my kitchen, which is where I usually am, LOL. They’ve always been interested in what I’m cooking or baking & want to help. It really is a great opportunity to show them what you love to do.
    Glad you’re feeling better about things & hope the new year is an excellent one for you. Enjoy your time with your daughter.

    Hello to all & wishing everyone a safe night in the nest!
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    LC - hope you feel better soon!

    Slo - enjoy the holiday with your daughter. That's wonderful she's able to come home.

    Lav - some of my favorite memories with my grandma are of shared time in the kitchen when she taught me how to make a variety of things (especially baking). I'm sure your grands will treasure these memories with you as well.


    Happy Thanksgiving to all in the U.S. and happy Thu/Fri to everyone!

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    Evening nesters

    Happy thanksgiving to you all and i hope you all have a lovely happy day with your loved ones.

    Slo, you have a lot going on but at the end of the day, it will all be ok. it may take time to heal but we have lots of time now and i bet you turn out happier than you ex hubs does. At least we are working on a better life instead of being stuck in the unhappy one we used to be in.

    i had a reasonable nights sleep last night which was good. today i had to take carl for a groom as he was so furry. As i have a manual car this was a challenge but i managed it. Also had the dentist where they took moulds for my teeth that will now go in January 2022. one implant has to wait until February to be moulded but thats ok. i do need root canal on a tooth which i am so not looking forward to but i know it has to be done. At least the knee pain distracted from the dental work.

    Now taking it easy as i think i did too much. A man came up to me at the chemist today asking what i did to injure myself, he was telling me he does physio for elite athletes etc and i said wow i am right up your alley then with my eliteness. he laughed, not sure why! will definitely give him a call when i start physio which will be next week.

    no more news for me, enjoying the chooks, Lav. Bob loves them and just sploots in front of their cage and watches. cant wait to have this brace off and i can let them wander after cutting their wing.

    take care xxx
    AF free 1st December 2013 - 1st December 2020 - 7 years of living and it just keeps getting better

    Ava is a SHPFFFDU ! (Special, honest, practical, fantastic friend from downunder) - thank you NS

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    Hello Nesters! Happy Thanksgiving to those who celebrate it. The news IS very depressing and downright disgusting... but there is a whole other piece of humanity that is not being covered, and that is good people doing good things. It happens all the time, and that is what I am trying to do. A bigger smile for the person who holds my door, an extra "how are you today?". I think we can spread the love.

    Anyway, it sounds like you are resting AVA - sorry to hear about your knee! I'm glad your kids helped you with your shower situation. It's so hard to be forced to slow down.

    Slo, you are sounding stronger and stronger. It's hard to watch people we love go down bad roads. Keep taking care of you - you're sound great.

    Wags, hugs to you. Do you take vitamin D? It help me a lot this time of year. I also see the difficult stories and find it hard to smile. I've been trying to show extra kindness to others lately. It surprises them and makes me feel good. My spirituality leads me to believe that we are all here to ride the ride and do the best we can. There are a lot of people NOT doing the best they can, and that is disheartening. But all I can do is my part. That's it. I believe it will be good in the end. We got this!

    LAV, I just wanted to say that I appreciate every single thing you say in the Nest. Your calm, strong, no BS contribution sets me at ease every time I log in. Thank you for that.

    LC, I'm glad you are here.

    I missed a lot. We have been on a little mountain getaway that has slowed me down and I feel relaxed. We made our traditional gnocchi last night without "Grandma", and we will see how it turns out! Not feeling totally confident! I did try a gluten free batch too. Time to pack up and drive to my parents house and then finally home to our own beds. I miss it. It did snow up here though yesterday and it was a magical winter land for a day. Still too early to open the ski area - which is not normal.

    Take care nest. I remember some hard Thanksgivings and this place got me through. I do NOT regret skipping the booze. Life is so much better. Thankful for you all!
    Kensho

    Done. Moving on to life.

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    Thanksgiving day is drawing to a close here, it was nice
    We just got home from a lovely dinner at our daughter’s house & there was absolutely NO drama, haha. Can’t ask for anything morE than that!!

    Wags, yep I love to see kids interested in learning to do homey things so they can grow up & be functional adults. My goal when raising my two was to make them self sufficient & there certainly are that.
    I hope your day has beEn nice as well.

    Ava, glad to hear you’re doing better & getting around a bit. I bet Carl is looking good after his grooming. You have a lot happening too with your knee, dental work & everything else. Take care of yourself.
    When you’re ready to clip the wings do yourself a favor & get someone to hold the bird for you while you clip. Those girls can end up scratching you (been there & done that), Lol

    Kensho, glad your back from your trip & I hope your Thanksgiving was good.
    My life has not been perfect but it most definitely has been calmer since going AF. I’m only too happy to spread that feeling around the nest & elsewhere

    Hello to all & wishing a safe night in the nest for all!

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    Hello again, Nesters. I've been MIA for a while and not totally AF. Not anything over the top, but honestly any AL is bad for me. I need to start like a real newbie again. Set up a 30 day clock. Starting today. And commit to checking in every day.

    I've been in a depressed mood and 1) weather has been cold damp and windy, not conducive to getting out 2) my dr readjusted my thyroid meds saying I was "overcorrected". That might be true by the lab numbers, but since the reduction I have been feeling like a slug. I had no problems like this before. I'm going to get a retest (on my own dime) next week.

    The kids are home which does bring some light into life. Son did the bulk of the thanksgiving cooking and it was wonderful. He worked pretty much all day at it and was a great way for him to focus.

    There have been other minor crappy things going on in life which pushed being totally AF to the back seat. I now have to make being AF #1 as it clears up so many of the ways I process the bad things.

    I maybe going to babysit my pseudo granddaughter tomorrow night. Of course I will be sober for that...It is like I am sober when I need to be and drink "a little" when there is no reason to be sober.

    But now that all has to stop. I know I have said this so many times before. But it ain't over if I keep trying. And I will.

    Reading back, so many of you are going through your own difficult times, and staying AF in the midst of it all. So many people to look up to here.
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    Pouring poison down your throat is just plain STUPID!

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    Hi, All:

    Wags, I feel you! Tie that knot LARGE. I, too, have been focusing local and doing what I can here - as Lav says, focusing on what I can change.

    Slo, glad you survived that wedding. There is actually research about how will power doesn't work. You can say no and "be strong" only so many times before your brain caves in. That's why it takes brain re-orientation to stay sober. Sorry your sister caved and you had to catch the fallout. So glad you stayed sober even though it was difficult.

    Lav, glad you had a drama-free Thanksgiving. Did you cook anything? Do they accommodate your food needs?

    Ava, can't believe you're driving again. That's great. When do you get to the doctor to see the extent of what is going on? NS, sorry you're in pain, too. I have a foot issue going on. I still get out, but pay the price after. I told my doctor if I was a pro basketball player they would have figured it out by now...

    Belle, sorry you're drinking and in that place. As many here already know, I got sober after what I have come to call the Thanksgiving massacre. It was basically four nights of drinking at Thanksgiving parties with some day drinking sprinkled in, followed by regret and the biggest hangover I've ever had. It was then I knew that I couldn't keep drinking and have the life I want. No way. There are many tools in the toolbox and posts all over this site to get you inspiration. Acceptance is the key, and getting your ego out of the way to let others support you. It is absolutely no over as long as you're trying - you got this!! The hard things are harder in the very moment, but ultimately you have to experience the hardship anyway, and it is a lot easier when you're sober.

    Kensho, snow sounds lovely! Hi LC, Mr. G and everyone else!

    Happy Sober FRIDAY.
    Pav

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    I’m just in so much turmoil over this divorce and saying goodbye. I had a wonderful Thanksgiving at HB’s brother’s house yesterday. It will be the last time, after all these years. Sister-in-law said to my daughter D2 that “We’ll need to talk about Christmas plans”, but said nothing to me. I can tell HB hasn’t told his one sister & her HB yet that he’s divorcing me, nor has he told his uncle yet! So it was one last time to be included as a long term family member before the boom gets dropped.
    Still trying to say goodbye to my house & home of over half my life too, but getting there with that as I ride the waves of grief.

    Acceptance is the key to sobriety, Pav. So very true.
    There you are, Belle! I was hoping you’d return!

    Ava, hooray, the time has finally arrived to move into the next phase of getting your teeth worked on!
    Nice that you may have found yourself a good physio for your knee too.

    Kensho, sounds like it was a restful time in the mountains for you, and living with natural rhythms.

    Lav, I wanted to get my kids interested in doing homey things so they could grow up to be functional adults too, but HB wouldn’t let me. He’d be angry if I ever wanted them to help me clean their rooms, because he wanted them cuddling with him while watching TV. He wouldn’t back me up if I’d have them fold some of the laundry, laughing at the mess of half-folded & unfolded laundry left all over the living room while they all watched TV together. Kept them so busy swimming that they could never cook with me. I can see that the girls are at quite a deficit in their adult lives in these areas as they have no know-how and no cleaning & organizational skills. A couple of their husbands are frustrated with the messes too. I am doing what I can to catch D1 up to speed when I’m up there helping with the kids.

    Happy Friday to all as we head into the weekend, and Christmas!
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