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      Tomorrow will be one year since I quit drinking. It has been the best decision I have made in my life. There are no second thoughts or second guesses. I am truly grateful to have achieved what seemed completely impossible the same time last year. I am here to share what has worked for me and hopefully it will help someone on this forum

      1) 30 day isolation. The first thirty days are by far the hardest and I decided to completely shield myself from the outside world. Phone off, no going out, no birthdays, parties... Just a lot of posting on MWO. It really helped to know that people were going through the same emotional up and downs as me

      2) 15 minute rule. At first it is really hard to imagine a lifetime of sobriety, so instead I allowed myself the possibility to drink again, however, I would have to sit down and think for 15 minutes before buying a drink. To be honest cravings never last that long, thinking about pros and cons, remembering all the horrible things that I did drunk put me off every time, for the duration of a year. By the end of those 15 minutes I would always decided that not drinking is a long term solution to happiness and no amount of alcohol is worth sacrificing it. The longer I went AF the more I had to lose by giving in and the easier it became to say "NO".

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      Social situations. Knowing how to react to peoples questions about your sobriety. It was very hard at first and I had to come up with excuses. However, nowadays I am happy just saying "I don't drink" "Why?"
      "I just don't"
      Most people don't ask again and those that have a problem with it are usually the people that you don't want anything to do with.

      Those are the main points that got me through the year. I am a lot happier and more level. I have more disposable income. I feel proud. People can now rely on me.

      It is a journey definitely worth taking!!!!

      Allan

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      Allan,

      An awesome post. Thank you for your insights. Love the 15 minute rule and love the comment about how people can rely on you now. That last part is huge. Over the years I felt like I let so many people down by saying I'd do something and then because of al fog or delusions of grandeur in a drunken state, I forgot, or blew it off.

      You have every reason to be proud of yourself and we are too!
      You are truly an inspiration!
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      Great words of wisdom......just ordered your one year star.....should be in tomorrow!

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      allankay;1550439 wrote: Tomorrow will be one year since I quit drinking. It has been the best decision I have made in my life. There are no second thoughts or second guesses. I am truly grateful to have achieved what seemed completely impossible the same time last year. I am here to share what has worked for me and hopefully it will help someone on this forum

      1) 30 day isolation. The first thirty days are by far the hardest and I decided to completely shield myself from the outside world. Phone off, no going out, no birthdays, parties... Just a lot of posting on MWO. It really helped to know that people were going through the same emotional up and downs as me

      2)
      15 minute rule. At first it is really hard to imagine a lifetime of sobriety, so instead I allowed myself the possibility to drink again, however, I would have to sit down and think for 15 minutes before buying a drink. To be honest cravings never last that long, thinking about pros and cons, remembering all the horrible things that I did drunk put me off every time, for the duration of a year. By the end of those 15 minutes I would always decided that not drinking is a long term solution to happiness and no amount of alcohol is worth sacrificing it. The longer I went AF the more I had to lose by giving in and the easier it became to say "NO".

      3)
      Social situations. Knowing how to react to peoples questions about your sobriety. It was very hard at first and I had to come up with excuses. However, nowadays I am happy just saying "I don't drink" "Why?"
      "I just don't"
      Most people don't ask again and those that have a problem with it are usually the people that you don't want anything to do with.

      Those are the main points that got me through the year. I am a lot happier and more level. I have more disposable income. I feel proud. People can now rely on me.

      It is a journey definitely worth taking!!!!

      Allan
      Allan, wonderful words of advice! I love your fifteen minute rule especially. Recognising the cravings, addressing them and dealing with them, for me that's key and I failed in the past because I buried my head in the sand. A whole year free Allan, you have your life back, congratulations!

      :wave::wave:

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      My happiness for you is beyond words. Well done on this one year, and here's to many more to come! I am SO proud of you! Here is your prize:

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      Your Big Boy Pants..... for moving beyond addiction and graduating to NORMAL. Keep on going!! Byrdie

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      Thank you for that Allankay, I've been following you since I joined and your advice has been absolutely first class and so very true. Many congratulations on achieving a full year, am hopeful I can follow in your footsteps.

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      Thanks everyone!

      I feel very emotional today. I had attempted to quit many times in the past but am so glad the last one was successful. I think reaching absolute rock bottom was the key and it helped me every time I was tempted.

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      spiderwoman;1550480 wrote: Thank you for that Allankay, I've been following you since I joined and your advice has been absolutely first class and so very true. Many congratulations on achieving a full year, am hopeful I can follow in your footsteps.

      Sylv x
      Spiderwoman, it looks like you are approaching 1 year mark yourself. I will be cheering for you!!!

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      In all your posts that I've read, it is clear how much you like the New You and it's been very inspiring . Congratulations on an achievement that all of us here know is hard-earned and well-deserved!

      All the best to you for your 2nd AF year!

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      Congrats on your 1 year -- onward to another year. And, thanks for your encouragement and inspiration.

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