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      Well put LB. Never heard the phrase "I drank at them for years." But it is in fact what we do.

      Sake - welcome! If you were AF for 8 years, then you know you can do it again. What was the reason you went back after so long being AF anyway? Just curious, if it was an old or new trigger or if the beast just caught you off guard. I think that's in the back of my mind anyway and only 30 days in, always leery of how the temptation is going to present itself and will I let my guard down. Hope not!

      Can definitely identify with you on the messy house. Mine was dirtier than usual as well, not just messy. Clear eyes and a clear head allowed me to own up to all the things I denied over the years. I lied to myself about being such an organized person. Used to brag about "a place for everything and everything in its place". HA. Not true the last couple of years. Then the AL depression sets in and the lack of self esteem that goes with it, which then fueled the anger and frustration so a drink was in order to help me escape. The cycles just goes round and round.

      And, why not a Thursday? My first AF day was August 8; a Thursday too. Who does that? Those of us that have had it. Those of us that have been embarassed for the last time. Those of us that are serious. Like K9 says, it doesn't matter what day of the week it is. You know when enough is enough.

      Take care - and keep us in the loop on your progress. Great place this MWO site.

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      Thanks for your input and understanding. I love the idea of an "anger garden" and I love the idea of once again owning up to cleaning the house instead of just doing it when someone comes over.

      Sanchez - I started drinking again when I was around 28 years old. It was over something very stupid...a boy was cheating on me. LOL! Looking back on it now it's all so ridiculous but a voice came into my head and I went to the bar, sat down and had tequila straight shots. I think 2 or 3. They drank "socially" maybe a little more than socially for years. Then maybe over the last 6 or 7 years all the sudden I was drinking daily. So..There you go.

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      I'm still trying to start to clean my house it needs a good clean from top to bottom

      I never really drank until I was in my late forties and my brother-inlaw was killed suddenly and my husband developed bi-polo depression and refuses to admit that he has a problem and I took everything personal and drank and that made the situation worse because when I had too much to drink I had the courage to tell him what i thought and of course it came out all wrong
      I would then take the blame for my drinking causing the problems
      but now i know its not all me but his moods still bring me undone
      but I cant drink for I will black out and give him a mouth full
      for some unknown reason he is the only one that has coped the brunt of my alcohol

      sorry rambled off then

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      Witts end - I am sorry to hear about such a tragic death in your family. and the aftermath because of it. But it sounds like something good came from all of it in a round about way. And I understand what you're saying. My husband gets the ugly brunt of my alcohol abuse as well. Everyone else thinks I'm full of sunshine and roses!

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      i am so glad i found this,specially the messy house and dogs!!! my house is a tip,the dogs aredriving me mad,both malting and in season,i started to hoover and gave up,im weak from constant drinking,no enthusiasm etc,every morning i wake up and think rte todays the day,ill blitz house,go for a walk etc...then i think sod it and have a cider..soo fed up of it xx

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      Good job Sake! You're a good example to the rest of us out here, who are about to quit - and need some motivation. I'm not a heavy drinker - at least not real heavy - but I'd feel so proud if I would just get the whole drinking out of my life. I've heard: to quit a bad habit, replace it with a good habit ...I'm working to consistently make a delicious protein shake in the afternoon when I start feeling down and tired - which is some of why I like to stop on the way home from work and get a few beers - and some cigs - and sit in my car and listen to talk radio to unwind....what a bad habit and a waste of time and health and dreams - I'm ashamed - but I hope to get the resolve....
      So you're good to be that good example for the rest of us out here...

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      Good Morning Bimble - I think what works for me (and this is hard to do). Is just picking ONE project. IE ok, laundry..or load the dishwasher or vacuum one room. My natural tendency is to tackle the whole thing and that just doesn't work. I wish you luck!!

      Good Morning Honey - Thanks for the compliment, I feel about as far as a good example as you can get. But I am trying and I thinks that's the first step. My husband has an awesome home made protein bar recipe..everyone loves them and it takes some time to pull it all together. I can share the recipe if you're looking for something else to do.

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      Journal - Day 3
      I feel like I got hit by a truck and didn't get up until noon!!! I did not drink last night but did take one small hit of pot. My husband smokes...I'm not a smoker but wanted something to take the edge off. Bad mistake!! I quit smoking a couple years ago, just stopped one day. Wasn't for me. And now I remember why. Last thing I need is the munchies, dry red eyes and feeling tired!! Anyway - this is just my journal...not a confessional and I'm sure there are folks that will frown heavily upon this. And that's totally ok. I'm just keeping this real for me. Anyway - lesson learned..no more toking for this girl.

      Friday night out of the way. Saturday night...here we come.

      Oh and one other random thought. I've been watching all the alcoholism documentaries. So depressing, how these young people die from the addiction. I feel so sad for them. But here is the scariest part, I watch these documentaries and can't relate!!!! I don't throw up and I certainly eat..far too much and I'm not downing anywhere near that much booze in a day. I watched one last night...it was just heart wrenching. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_dJ97Vwoup4[/video]]

      But here's the bottom line. If I'm having to struggle to quit now, it's only a matter of time until I reached the point these people were/are at. I have already shown signs of liver damage. I think that's enough, right? It certainly should be.

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