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    Of course, you are right! My husband got up, and I said, "OK- I have had two drinks already." He is rationalizing it, and making excuses. There are no excuses. I need to make my plan, and see my doctor. I am trying hypnosis, too. Not really a fan of the drugs- although if my plan doesn't work (Doctor, hypnosis, etc.) then I will be on one of them soon.

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    Hi tryingtoohard,

    I'm glad you found this site. Even though I only have 74 days today, I've been slowly killing myself, my soul, and I finally did what Mollyka said. I just surrendered. I'm not going to win if I fight with alcohol. I've tried that for years, and what happened was that there were so many disappointments in myself, disappointments for my family, and I'd done enough damage to all of us. It's true. It doesn't get better and it doesn't go away. We have a faulty off switch, and no matter how hard we try, it's broken. Surrender and acceptance of what we need to do, which is to have a full life (ain't too bad!) is what sobriety will give you. There are so many good threads and support here, that you'll find where you're comfortable and post, read, post, read, post more. There's a thread called the 3 Principles that I've just begun to dip into. Take a look at that thread, as this might not be as hard as most of us make it out to be. Also, I found excellent support in the Newbie's Nest in Just Starting Out. Incredible support everywhere on this site. There are so many long-timers here with great wisdom, just like Mollyka. I want what she has, and I'm getting there one day at a time. Good luck to you!
    Sometimes what you're most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set you free.

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    Hi there and welcome To MWO. I don't think it ultimately matters what kind of drinking pattern you have - slow all day drinking, binge drinking, nightly drinking after a full days work or whatever. And as Molly says we have to leave our brains at the door to realise that it's the problem we share - the problem with AL. Many people on MWO are what are sometimes called high functioning alcoholics - well we might be good at managing our jobs and families but what we have really excelled at is managing to procure, rationalize and consume AL. Remove the obsession with AL and you still have a busy and active person but it's so much better and guess what - you get to like yourself as well. A lot lot better.
    I said it doesn't matter what patterns we have but actually it is important to be very self aware of when and where we drink. That's where making a plan is important. I would say that speaking to your GP is an excellent move but before you try drugs, hypnosis or whatever - why not start with the no-brainer - remove AL from your house. You can't reach for those small drinks if they ain't there. If that's a problem for you to do then you at least get to see the magnitude of the problem. Change your daily routine. I did that and slowly my Pavlovian associations of time and place were broken. It's not easy but that's why it really helps to be accountable and MWO is a great place for this.
    Best of luck but it's not luck is it. - it's action and support now.

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    Hi Trying,
    It's great that you told your husband and are going to talk to your Dr. Your already taking the right steps. The next one is as TT mentioned is getting rid of all alcohol from your house. Pour it out. Don't worry about waisting it... It's waisting you. And not your friend but an enemy. I like hypnosis myself. It's comforting. Molly is right, you will never regret the 30 days. It's not easy, but so worth it and you will learn a lot about yourself. Mostly good to be honest. Alcohol is cunning so stay close to MWO, read post... I began a personal journal because my mind was racing so much with all types of thoughts, memories, theories you name it! Take care of yourself, you will be alright. You won't be if you continue to drink. But it sounds like you know that.
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