Happy and Content Sober Living

[july232007]

Kate,
Great thread. I enjoy the words that I read here from others on the path. Some ahead, some to follow, but all on the same path of a life well lived. Simply put and honest.

Thanks Kate for starting this,

Jult

[KateH1]

July...Yes, I understand....longevity in sobriety is great....but, it is not all about accumulating time...it is about, how we live each day. There are many ahead of us and many just starting out. The important thing is that we live a sober life....a life that is content, a Life Well Lived! For that is Truly, The Prize!

XO

[caysea]

Hi All
Until you step away from al you don't realize how it takes over your total being.
If I went to a baseball game where is the beer man.
If I went out to dinner why is the waiters taking so long to take my drink order.
Do we have enough beers for the boat trip are the beers cold for after the softball game.
Everything I was involved in was secondary.
Now everything I enjoy as a Hobie is my focal point.My physical fitness level is important so I can perform at my best in tennis tournaments.I used to play thinking about the cooler of beer waiting for me. I was never enjoying fully what used to be a passion.
Looking back on my life I was passionate about drinking.How sad!
I now go out to eat and look forward to the taste of the food. I compete putting my all into my effort on the court no hangover excuses. I am enjoying life and feel I am stopping and living in the moment.
When I first stopped drinking I could never imagine I would rather be at home with a good book then out with the gang drinking.I now prefer it and enjoy the control and calm I have in my life.Yes the control over not drinking which I never had before because I thought I would miss the lifestyle that went along with it.
It was the wrong choice for a lifestyle and it had taken over control of every aspect of my life.
I have the control back . Not the control over al but the control over the decision not to drink.
No thanks I don't drink do you have a soda. Nobody I know can imagine how good it feels to me inside to say that.


Stay Healthy and Keep Fighting
AF 5-16-08

[Raven.joy]

all so true Casea. But try sitting alone in an empty room with just a drink and no entertainment,(on second thoughts please don't) it ain't much fun!

[caysea]

Hi All
I thought the tread was about the positives in a sober lifestyle? No I no longer want to sit by myself drinking.Would not enter my mind to do.

[july232007]

I like that: "The Prize", as so named by Kate. We all should desire one!

July

[greeneyes]

When I had an accident the other night, I'm sure the people in Urgent Care wondered why I walked in with a bleeding head and a smile. Because I was able to simply get in the car and drive myself there. Something so many probably take for granted.

[KateH1]

So much great stuff on this thread!! Wow! Caysea....I need to print what you wrote! So many things, many that most take for granted, we too enjoy in our new sober lives!

Greenie, sorry to hear about your accident! I hope you are recovering nicely!

Sober life......Happy life!!

[LVT25]

caysea;771952 wrote: Hi All
Until you step away from al you don't realize how it takes over your total being.
If I went to a baseball game where is the beer man.
If I went out to dinner why is the waiters taking so long to take my drink order.
Do we have enough beers for the boat trip are the beers cold for after the softball game.
Everything I was involved in was secondary.
Now everything I enjoy as a Hobie is my focal point.My physical fitness level is important so I can perform at my best in tennis tournaments.I used to play thinking about the cooler of beer waiting for me. I was never enjoying fully what used to be a passion.
Looking back on my life I was passionate about drinking.How sad!
I now go out to eat and look forward to the taste of the food. I compete putting my all into my effort on the court no hangover excuses. I am enjoying life and feel I am stopping and living in the moment.
When I first stopped drinking I could never imagine I would rather be at home with a good book then out with the gang drinking.I now prefer it and enjoy the control and calm I have in my life.Yes the control over not drinking which I never had before because I thought I would miss the lifestyle that went along with it.
It was the wrong choice for a lifestyle and it had taken over control of every aspect of my life.
I have the control back . Not the control over al but the control over the decision not to drink.
No thanks I don't drink do you have a soda. Nobody I know can imagine how good it feels to me inside to say that.


Stay Healthy and Keep Fighting
AF 5-16-08

I've read this thread, but couldn't put into words how I feel now. Thank you Caysea for saying EXACTLY how it was/is for me!

[Raven.joy]

Sorry if you misunderstood my previous comment. I meant that when we drink we delude ourselves it is part of the fun. However when we sober up we see how much fun life really is and the alcohol somehow dulls/lessens our experience of it all. Likewise when we strip away the distractions alc doesn't seem much fun anymore.