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      haven't looked in here for awhile, gorgeous day out in ol Virginny. Steadfast, sorry about your lost. I think of my parents daily, wishing they were still here. Sometimes it is hard to realize just how physically gone they are but still clear as day in my mind.

      Off to enjoy the day
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      Hey Steady, so glad to see you around and you are doing well. I bet your dad was one very proud man of what you have achieved with your sobriety. I know my mum is since she talks about it all the time!

      Hugs to you lovely lady and damn its cold in melbourne isnt it? Thailand to melbourne, wow!
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      Byrdlady, so you were two years sober when your Dad passed too. You're right that it is the best way to be so we can do what needs to be done and support those around us. And Lavande, that's true it's better to deal with the bad feelings rather than blotting them out.

      Ava, I never told my parents just how big a problem I had with alcohol. I told them when I stopped (I had to!), which they were quite surprised at. They would have been very upset if they knew the extent of it. My Dad worked for a liquor company, and we always had a LOT of al at home. Even though there were times they came home to find me flaked out and incomprehensible and were concerned about it, I think they thought I was just a silly teenager. Once an adult it was my responsibility to deal with it. Or, as it turned out, NOT - for a very long time!

      I came across an article today on the impact of heavy drinking on the adolescent brain, and felt really angry with myself that I started getting drunk at thirteen years of age. It's a recipe for alcoholism later in life. (There's no history of al abuse in my family, that I'm aware of.)

      Anyway, on a lighter note, hope everyone has a lovely weekend. Yes, Ava, it's bloody cold in Melbourne now! Might hibernate with some DVDs.

      Enjoy your sober weekend everyone!

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      Quote Originally Posted by Pavati View Post
      Hi,

      I don't feel guilty about drinking - I just have some skeletons in my closet unrelated to drinking that I need to forgive myself for. They're not really anything I have ever talked about, but time to time rear their ugly heads. I need to help them find a final resting spot.
      Pavati,

      I'm so sorry you are troubled by "skeletons in the closet." I can relate, but I found once I had talked them through with a therapist, they no longer haunted me. I like the idea that you want to "help them find a final resting spot", that's a good way to put it. We can't change the past, but we can process it and move on. I wish you all the best.

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      Hi, All:

      Thanks for the kind words, Steady. I think I can move forward, but I wish certain thought would stop popping up. The Buddhists would say I just need to look at the thoughts and watch them float by. I am working on that.

      I am sorry for your loss. I have yet to face a really difficult situation sober (like the death of a parent). I am very happy to hear your description (and yours, too, Byrdie). The peace of sobriety is such a great thing. I am parenting two teenagers, and I am so grateful that I am doing it sober. I can be here and present for them any time of the day or night, and am free to drive, talk, or whatever they need. It feels so great to have such clarity during an important time of their life.

      Good to hear from you, Sam. Glad Virginia is good.

      Hope you all have great weekends!

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      This whole getting sober thing has been such a learning experience. It goes to show us that we are never too old to learn.
      I had a good day, I washed and ironed the stuff I am taking on vacation in less than 2 weeks. Havent had a vacation since 2004! I remember fretting about having enough booze and not being able to carry on as much as I wanted to. Very stressful. Plus while ON vacation, trying to sneak it so hubs wouldnt see me. I always encouraged him to go get ice, or go take pictures! I am so glad to have those chains off me. This time, my biggest worry is what shoes to take!
      Hope everyone is having a peaceful day. Byrdie
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      Good morning, Long Termers!
      Hope everyone is having a happy weekend. Finally some sunshine here.

      As I was getting ready this morning, I was thinking about the incredible power of this addiction. As I read around, I see just how the allure sucks us right back in to the cliffs. It is scary on several levels....to see it happen to others who have put in the hard work of breaking free AND to know that it could happen to me.

      I know I still have work to do!
      I must stay connected with a like-minded community of people and I must never take that first drink. Its as simple and as complicated as that.

      Im not a huge Oprah fan, but when she did interviews with famous people, she would ask 'What do you know for sure ?' Ive always thought about that and maybe I have finally come up with an answer: I don't have to learn everything the hard way. Many people have come and gone on this website. There are 7 years of rich history to be gleamed in the archives here. 7 years of people fighting to control AL. I have never seen anyone do it. Addiction is just too powerful. Once ignited, it is alive and well....yes, its just like riding a bicycle, you never forget how to be addicted. It scares the spit out of me just how easily it does come back. If you are considering reintroducing AL after a period of being AF, I would urge you to read back on this site and see how it went for 1000's of others who tried it. See if there is anyone who has maintained long term moderation, or just the occasional glass here and there. Long term = longer than a few weeks or months, it means for the rest of our lives. Seeing is believing, and I have never seen it.
      If I COULD do it, I wouldn't. I am DONE.
      I think my luck has run out as it relates to AL....I never got a DWI or lost my job or suffered a financial loss, but I was in the team photo. I was beginning to suffer health issues and my hubs walked out on me. Thats as close as I want to come to disaster. The next time I flirt with this stuff that nearly cost me everything MIGHT very well be my last. Im not willing to gamble with my future for the sake of a dam drink of AL.
      Life is measured by the people and places we know, not by whats in our glass.

      This message is for ME. It isnt aimed at anyone...I just wanted to get it out of my head.
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      Maybe you're posting for yourself, Byrdie, but some of us are fortunate enough to be traveling in your wake, with you making it easier for us. Thank you .


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      So there's another 100 dayer out there... Rooniferd come on in here!!
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      I know, Sam, I have been looking for her!
      Hope everyone has a good week! A busy week here...going on vacation next week! My first one in 11 years! I am ready!
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