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    Congratulations Jane on 500 days. What a journey huh.

    I read many of the posts here but don't always respond. Although the theme is generally the same it does bear repeating. In fact I am struck by the thought that folks that have gone a long time AF still seem to feel the need to repeat why they wont drink today. It almost reads like we are talking ourselves into the concept...in fact I think we are and its a testament to the power of addiction and just how prevalent alcohol is in our society. I've had two occasions where I've had friends who have dangled the offer of sitting down over a bottle despite the fact that they know I don't drink anymore. It's an offer that isn't made with malice its just commonplace to these folks and I find myself thinking somehow I'm letting my friends down by not jumping at the chance to get snookered over a good bottle of scotch. To be honest , I am tempted by their offer as something that maybe I can do in the future despite all that I know about my own addiction. I find myself saying, "why not" even though commonsense says otherwise. I know I wont but that fantasy still lurks in the background. So.....keep repeating the mantra...its good for the soul and necessary for the present!
    Happiness is neither virtue nor pleasure nor this thing nor that but simply growth, We are happy when we are growing.

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    Hi everybody, I just saw all these nice posts now! Thanks so much for thinking of me. Each one of you has been mission critical to keeping my head in the right place. TJAF, both this and your last post on NN really got to me. I counsel myself daily on the importance of staying quit. I cant think of a single case when someone dangled their feet off the edge of the boat without falling in. And the boat keeps sailing. The mindset to begin a quit is like a $2 bill- rare. The folks that fall of the boat are treading water until the next boat comes around, and even then there are no guarantees. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the why not stuff. We all have them, and the only answer is to fight them with whatever it takes.
    AF since January 7, 2014 *Never, never, never give up. ~ Winston Churchill*

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    I think we are kind of brain-washing ourselves, TJ. Keeping up with that in sort of a maintenance mode seems necessary to me because we live in a world where alcohol consumption is considered normal and is encouraged, like you've experienced. It is human nature to forget/minimize negative experiences. In fact, most people with some amount of AF time behind them don't feel like they were "that bad". I certainly don't feel like I was - I have to really think about it to remember and even then it is pretty much an intellectual, not emotional, memory for the most part. I liken it to labor - I don't remember it being that awful and I hadn't seen it in action for almost 30 years. I recently was involved and wow - the memories of what it was really like came flooding back. I don't want to become complacent about something that was wrecking my life - reading and posting here is a pretty easy and even fun way to do that.


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    Hi, ALL:

    TJAF - you hit the nail on the head there for me. I AM tempted by the allure of feeling cured, and while I can remember that last horrible hangover pretty well, it is just like NS describes. But no worries - I DON'T DRINK!

    Pav

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    Happy June 2015 to everyone
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    2 years today folks! Where does the time go? I hope you're all well, I'm going to try to drop in more often I miss you all!
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    Good job on 2 years 3June2013!
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    Yay, CONGRATS on two years AF 3June
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    I'm right behind you June!
    Happiness is neither virtue nor pleasure nor this thing nor that but simply growth, We are happy when we are growing.

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    Congrats, June. Perhaps your new life is still not perfect, but much better than before.
    My life is better without alcohol, since 9/1/12. My sobriety tool is the list at permalink 236 on the toolbox thread under monthly abstinance.

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