mod squad oh my! july!

[letgolaughing]

thought i'd start this thread on a positive note...i did an AF day yesterday, June 30. first in 2 weeks!
couldn't log it in the drink tracker cause i didn't log it yesterday and you can't go back to the previous month!

so, just thought i'd log it here

hope july is kickass for all of you

[canadiangirl]

Good for you, Letgo! I'm finding that the small psychological victories are the ones winning the war.

I've had a change of plans for Canada's birthday - it's AF today, toasting with sparkly water. It just seems like the symbolism and the optics are better this way.

Happy (and moderate) Canada Day, all.

[letgolaughing]

well, glad you could get an AF day in on Canada Day.
i have not had the same scenario for our 4th of July weekend -
i drank more than i should, but way less then all the folks i've been hanging out with this weekend!

i had 3 and half drinks friday night - then Saturday AND Sunday , we had DAY drinks - for me it was 2 beers while at the pool in the early afternoon. then 2 glasses of wine at night.
so it was spread out over a long period of time, but i'm still feeling guilty about it.

what is up with the guilt? no one else around here seems to feel guilty for enjoying a holiday weekend....

[Eve11]

Hey gang,

Cute title for July's thread LetGo.

I've been busy with school and vacation so posting here is on the downlow but still interested in seeing how my MWO buddies are doing.

Here's to a successful July!
Hugs,
Eve11

[canadiangirl]

Well, folks, the moderator-bashing continues. The relevant threads, in order, are:

http://www.mywayout.org/community/f9...ber-43786.html

http://www.mywayout.org/community/f9...ere-43832.html

I really don't know what to do now. I liked coming here, and I got so much for my fellow mods. I think of you as friends. I don't know how I can post honestly here anymore with so much judgment and dislike evident towards us. Ironic? Wow. It seems likes it's My Way (or the Highway) Out. Or perhaps My Way (is Far Far Better and Nobler than Your Way) Out. What did the mods do to deserve this? We stayed in our own corner, commented little or at all on anything going on outside, never posted drunk. never did "drama"...

Like I say, I don't know what to do next. Judging by how quiet it's been around here, I'm thinking maybe some of you are feeling the same way.

Take care, everyone. :l

[Eve11]

Canadiangirl,
I've been out of the loop with homework so haven't been able to come here to support my friends.

Everyone can take things so differently and sometimes too personally on these online sites. Don't get discouraged.

The only time I ever got bothered was when an AFer would come to our mod site and nitpick everything we were posting because she didn't believe anyone could truly moderate. There would be big arguments between her and a moderator who felt very successful with their moderating lifestyle and it got to be very negative. This mod board should be our safe site so if someone is coming here and posting and putting modders down then that is wrong.

I did read the "What is sober?" site and I felt it was an honest question by someone who sounds like they're trying to go AF and get discouraged when they struggle so hard to maintain sobriety and then someone else comes along stating they drank on Friday night (as an example) but consider themselves sober. I didn't see the post as any kind of attack against moderators but just an honest question by someone struggling to go AF and wanting things to be fair in the AF world of what that definition is.

Keep coming here CG. We love you here on the mod squad. I need to try to come around more often because I miss everyone.

Take care. PM me if you need to vent.
Hugs,
Eve11

[canadiangirl]

Actually, it wasn't Road's original comment that got me. He and I have spoken on many occasions, and he knows that I "get" what he was saying. There were a few gratuitous jabs at mods after that, not much. Then the other gentleman started the other thread, there were more jabs, and I thought "okay, it's not just me" and I added my $0.02. Should've let it go, for sure. I was a bit surprised by the "if you don't like it, then leave" approach. It's not my idea of inclusivity, but it might be good advice...

Anyway, I'm sorry to anyone here if it looked like I was speaking for the modders in general. It was just for me. Take care all. And yes, I know my place now. Right here.

[Sunbeam]

CanadianGirl,
I hope you stick around, I enjoy your company. I believe when people say these things, they are projecting themselves on others. When they say things like "moderation doesn't work" they include us in the conversation because they really can't moderate, and it is easier if they believe no one can. Just keep out of the conversation. At times this dialog appears on the mods thread, and I do feel really irritated, but I'm getting better at ignoring, and it hasn't happened in awhile.

I will pm you so we can get together on our garden date. I'm hoping the weather is ready to cool off just a bit.

[fennel]

canadiangirl, just put the negative peeps on "ignore". There's so much nastiness around here lately, I resorted to that. It saves you a lot of aggravation.

[spuddleduck]

hello peeps, just popping my beak in here. hope youre all well. i just want to say i have probably been guilty of saying things about moderation. purely with the intention of helping people that are struggling. i tend to hop about the threads and may accidentally have replied in the mods section. i cant speak for anyone else but i have nothing but great respect for you modders. i would love to be able to do it but cant, maybe in the future but im not holding out much hope for myself. you never know, maybe one day ill find myself fluffing my ducky feathers here with you guys. well done to you all