July Mod Squad

[ToMyHealth]

Good morning. :day4: 3 days done, on to day 4, and holiday and party to go to tonite. Not worried in the least. Now don't mean to be complacent, just feel confident and truly hope it continues.

FF - hear you on the 2 days in a row - and so nice to "hear" your gratitude. That's huge.

Trix - :good: on cutting down. Bet you feel a whole lot better. The NA beer in U.S. isn't bad IMO. Wish you had it. What FF recommended I don't think is billed as NA wine, although it's a lot more expensive than soda. Found it in the "new age" section, not wine aisle, in grocery store. Sorry to hear you don't have alternative in Aust. I think it helps psychologically. I know when dh has an O'Doul's he just calls it beer and enjoys it especially with pizza or hamburgers.

DG - :wow3: you did get po'd. Understand I am not a dog lover and do get irrate over irresponsible dog owners. In your situation, that would not have caused a reaction in me; I would have noticed then thought well, at least it's in a field, etc. etc. You let him know you would take care of it, just get the dang bag. And yes, there are A-holes amongst us. Hope you're feeling better today.

Happy July 4th to all in U.S. Wish it were better times - maybe next year. eace:

TMH

[Stewarts]

TMH, that is an amitious plan, go for it! I hope you make it. Summer months I think are though g al free. Today I was at the beach, and had three beers thought the entire afternoon, say 3 to 4 hours. It feels nice, but I have no desire to drink tonight, maybe a glass of wine before dinner, but I had a snack just now and feel full.

I had a slip up, it really wasn't, I did drink over my limit July 2, old childhood buddies took me to an iron Maiden show, yes, you heard that right, immature, but awesome. I knew I really didnt have to go into work the next day, but I like to, usually, before the holiday. I did some smart things though, first, I'd didn't mee them eary o hang out, I met them on a private bus right before we were about to leave the city, so they all had a big head start, but still, I chugged down four tall boys kind of quick. We didnt go right in, we hung out for awhile. I know I had another two, maybe three inside, they shut off alcohol at 9:15, I was kind of glad...there's something about spectacle music and booze. When we got back to the city, my buddies wanted to hang out, but I ditched them to catch up with a girl I'm dating. I meet her at some bar, she orders me a beer, maybe I drank 1/2 if that, she told me this. But it ended up being late because she wanted to go home with me and well, stay up awhile. She left my place around 2ish, I walked her out and decided to get some breakfast at the diner on my corner, got to bed around quarter to three. Getting up for work was an ordeal. I felt bad, but I took Xanax an went back to bed. This was July 2, well, now it was July 3, the next day. She came over. I was feeling really down, like a failure. She asked me if there s anything I really needed to do in the office I couldn't do at home, there wasn't. I just had l go in to pick a few things up for the weekend. She also told me I was very well behaved last night. Which didnt surprise me, like I said before, I rarely do dumb sht anymore drinking, the next day just triggers my depression and anxiety sometines if I consume too much. I felt better by the afternoon and did what I had to do and then drove to summer home where I am now. I'm not trying to make excuse for myself, I did the best I could consideing the circumstances. I think the issue was more I was up too late and as we all know sex releases endorphins so I had a hard time getting to sleep, did the drinking didnt help. I guess in an ideal world I just wouldve went straight home and not met up with my girl.

Good to read about you all..Happy fourth!

[Trixiebelle]

Happy 4th July to all you in the US,

Its the 5th here now, and another day.

Cutting down went out the window last night, we went to the local club to watch a football game and the drinks flowed. Every time I go out I do this - at home I can control it, so I understand why a lot of people trying to cut down or quit just stay home.

Out again today for lunch and I guess there'll be wine etc, but I ain't going there - wine/champagne is my poison, goes straight to my head, and I know that I can never stop at one, so none for me today.

Stewarts, I know what you mean about the anxiety the next day, I'm having it now, though I didn't really over do it in a big way I did drink more than I wanted and it just seems that the drink affects me a lot more these days. Might be the time of my life - Just a few can make me feel out of it, and things are fuzzy the next day.....

[drinkingal]

Thanks TMH I don't usually get angry like that but I couldn't understand the guy's attitude, the only thing he was interested in was ranting and raving and arguing, even after I quickly offered a solution, and I think people like that just rub me the wrong way. Feeling better today though

[ToMyHealth]

Success! :day5: Clearheaded and well rested this am. Hosts of party hired bartender and chef from our club; bartender said more booze at this house than there was at our club. Huge home, realtor said even in today's market, over $3 million. Watched the sunset over Gulf of Mexico. While driving there we saw a police car every 2 blocks. When we thanked hostess she said be careful out there. She didn't hear me when I said, don't worry, we're sober. Gads, it felt good to say that. Understand a group hires a limo to go/come back to our community. Smart.

Stewarts - thanks for encouragement. Upon decision dh decided to join me which makes it easier. On way home last night I asked him what brought him to decision. He just wants to see if he can do it and even if "he" goes back to his old ways he will know he can quit, plus it's breaking the everyday habit which we got back into after entertaining. Our house is now stocked with many alternative beverages not just the usual O'Doul's and tonic water. It's good you are trying to be responsible in your swinging, partying, single lifestyle - or at least that's how I perceive it being in NY and all. :danthin:

Trix - isn't that next day anxiety the pits! Hate it. That and headache and slight queaziness, just got so sick of it. Found myself wanting to go home much earlier than normal last night. The band made talking difficult; noise started getting to me and just wanted peace & quiet of home. Enjoy your AF lunch.

DG - new day for you. New day for all of us :cheering:

Beautiful day here in Paradise. Can you believe that yesterday it was 18 deg hotter in MN (my home state) than FL?

TMH
Day 4 Done

[Trixiebelle]

Well done TMH, you are on a roll - I admire you. Its great when you don't have to fear being pulled over by the cops after you've been out. That's freedom. I can tell by the way you write that you are feeling very confident and happy. :wd::applaud:

After 4 days AF, you say you are feeling much better - doesn't take long hey. The book I was reading said it takes between 7 - 10 days to get AL totally out of your body - seems a long time doesn't it. I guess thats why it takes 2 - 3 days just to get over a big night these days.

I had a good night last night, not AF, but only about 2.5 standard drinks, so I'm pretty pleased with that, no anxiety today. As you say TMH it is the pits and I am sick of it too.

I live in the Top End of Australia and its not unlike your weather in Florida I think. This morning I got up to 12 degrees (sorry we do Celsius) btw that's bloody cold for here. Just converted it - around 53 degrees F. It's kind of nice, but I can't wait for the nice warm weather again - can't believe I'm saying that. I guess you are in your wet season now.

DG, Stewarts and FarfallaP - how are you all doing???

[Stewarts]

more july thoughts

TMH, that's great keep up with it. Trixie, yes the anxiety situations came about later in my life and it happens to a lot of people for various reasons. There's a good article I can point you to if interested. As I am up in my summer house, I've been modding very well, but, for the most part I'm by myself. I am family and nephews up the block from me, but necesarily a drinking crowd, excfept a little wine with dinner. I sat on the deck of my boat and had a beer, realxing, earlier, like I said modding, well. Now, I have the girl I'm dating coming up, this could be interesting.

Trixie, I think you said this, but yes, myself included when I wanted to drink nothing, I pretty much sheltered myself from everyone else; even my therapist said that is not a way to live.

Well, I got a long training run tomorrow before I pick up my "friend" at the train station tomorrow. Be well and good night.

[Trixiebelle]

Have a nice time with your "friend" Stewarts.

[ToMyHealth]

Hi Modders ~ 6 days down but tonite was close. I'm sure it was because of being overly hungry. Played golf w/o eating lunch, had a few nuts, had to quit after Hole #16 due to rain. We went in to have an O'Douls and by the time we were finishing our drinks Happy Hour folks were starting to arrive. A couple sat next to us, lady ordered a beer, no big deal, I had what looked like beer in front of me, guy ordered a gl of wine. That looked inviting to me. When we got home, I realized it wouldn't have taken much for me to agree to have a drink or gl of wine. Instead we quickly made a simple supper and now I am very full and have no desire for alcohol and will be so happy in the am when I go for my 5 mile run.

Trix - 2.5 drinks is modding! That's a far cry from getting "stupid". And yes we are in rainy season. It's rarely a washout, usually a late afternoon thundershower. Is it warmer in Aust now?

Stewart - sounds like a nice romantic weekend. Enjoy!

TMH

[Trixiebelle]

:applaud::applaud::applaud::applaud:
Well done TMH, so very proud of your progress. You are inspiring - might just have to join you.

Well done not caving in, it could have been a very different story and so often is.

We are in our 'dry' season now, quite cool with very little humidity. It's been very windy here and we had a big bush fire here yesterday, luckily we were out of harms way, but it's very smoky here this am.

With such cool am/pm's I am looking forward to the temp rising a tad, so I can ditch the long sleeves etc - I'm not a cold weather person. Our rain should kick in around Oct/Nov, which will be nice again. I miss the storms.