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    In like a lion! Whew!

    Hey, just read my dear Crocus's note to Emmy on the Feb Mod Squad thread. Emmy! Wow, how tremendously exciting!

    I want to start this thread with a happy heart, welcoming all who come here. We have such good regular folks, and want to share our warm feelings with everyone. Lurkers, feel free to come, but please be nice and don't take what is said in the Moderation threads away and mistreat us. We are all on different places on the path, and what works for us may not work for everyone. And, vice versa, as well.

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    What a lovely message to start the month with - thanks NNG.

    I had to work on the 1st and also had stuff to do yesterday so am just checking in today. TOO cold here!! I am in work very early because I had to drop my husband off at the train station. His sister in another city died on Thursday, and he has to go and meet with her executor and go to the funeral parlour. Hubs is scared of dying (part of the PTSD that fuels some of his drinking issues), so this is very hard on him. Sorry to be so grim, but I haven't been talking to other people about this at work. It's nice to have you folks to talk to.

    So - off for a moderate March! I'll post plans on Ruby Tuesday, but send love and warm (ha!) greetings to all.

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    Wow, March already? Time flies. Again I find myself yawning and wishing I was in bed an hour ago. I get up again in 6 hrs time...eek! Thankyou all for the words of encouragement with my costume work. It is a very exciting time for me. Doing it fresher and with an older head on my shoulders is really paying off! I keep remembering all the times I went out boozing with the chorus boys after shows...then dragging myself in with a hangover next morning...so glad I don't do that any more, the work just seems so much easier this way.
    Hugs to all of you, keep up your great efforts with your own modding plans.
    Night all
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    Hi Guys.

    Glad March is here. I noticed that on my February calendar where I keep track of things, I drank way too much on the weekends. Yesterday, I kept drinking after dinner right through the oscars, fell asleep in my chair, and toddled off to bed at two.
    I am sad.

    Feeling like a total worthless loser. I'm glad Lent is this week. Lord knows I need it. I don't know what I'm going to do, but I will do something. I don't want to be an alcoholic. Maybe if I quit on the weekends, I could do better. I don't trust myself at all any more. Busy day ahead, though, so I had better get to it.

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    I just went back and read the last posts for February, and I see how badly I have let myself down. Eve, and Emmy, it is clear that I'm not doing very well. OK...so I go 4 or 5 days AF, but the bingeing on the weekend undoes everything. I'm feeling rather hopeless, I'm afraid.

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    Crocus, I'm no expert having only decided to cut back at all only six months ago myself but it seems to me that it takes more than one or two attempts to do this thing. No matter how long it takes the point is that you're trying and the more often you try the more likely is success. Please don't put yourself down so! Each human being is an amazing thing but not amazing at everything (that would be greedy!). Just keep trying and you will get way further with this than if you hadn't started.
    Be kind to yourself,
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    NNG, what a nice way to start off the month! Thank you.
    DG, sorry to hear about your sister in law.

    Crocus, agree with Em about being too hard on yourself. I did not have a very good Feb either so you certainly aren't the only one who is disappointed in oneself. Let's just move forward to a better March, ok??? We can do this!

    I updated my personal thread on here this a.m. but once again lost the entire post. For some reason on my Ipad I need to log in each and every time I visit. True of here and FB. So frustrating. So I have decided to let it go.

    Excited - my daughter, SIL and youngest Canadian grandson are coming to visit for a week. They arrive midnight Wed. Grandson is bringing a friend so we give them the whole place and move to our other condo. Kind of a pain in the neck to clean out the frig, move a week's worth of clothes, etc. but excited that they get to leave the cold & snow, and I get to see them.

    I did drink last night but was successful at delaying such by having a couple bottles of water first. The music festival was good, and you get caught up in the atmosphere. Think bright sunshine, good music, bar all set up around a sparkling pool. Had 2 wines but then came home and cooked a new recipe and cont'd with the wine. Ugh! So see, Crocus, I did it too. And we have another party tonight. And tomorrow night, (although don't think I'll go) and then company for a week who will be "on holiday". Help!

    TMH

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    Hello friends, bedtime again, I must try to visit when I get home from work. I've been trying to do some much needed housework when I get home these days, so my weekends are free for relaxing. It keeps me busy and gets the body moving but I'm sure I could log in after dinner and give myself time to read your posts properly. Let's see how I go tomorrow? Happily AF tonight. I'm going through mountains of diet tonic and mineral water these days, so much cheaper than wine!
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    My dear Crocus,
    I so much agree with everyone else. This is a process, and it doesn't help to beat yourself up. We are making it, step by step in the right direction.

    Emmy,I love hearing about your work. You inspire me!

    TMH, have fun with your family. You seem to have such an interesting life!

    DancingGirl, my sincere sympathy for you and your husband. Losing someone is very difficult, and it certainly does make us all feel vulnerable.

    All is well here. Snow seems to have turned to freezing rain, so when the 6 foot high drifts all melt, it will be one big lake, I suppose. Ah, well. Spring is coming, I hope.

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    crocus;1633686 wrote: I just went back and read the last posts for February, and I see how badly I have let myself down. Eve, and Emmy, it is clear that I'm not doing very well. OK...so I go 4 or 5 days AF, but the bingeing on the weekend undoes everything. I'm feeling rather hopeless, I'm afraid.
    Hi crocus,

    It is hard for everyone here at various times. There are those who struggle hard to abstain and then post that they relapsed and are feeling bad. And there are those of us just wanting to cut down but maintain drinking in our lives, who go over our limits of what we consider moderate. I have posted this before and just wish I could cut and paste it (but don't know where it is at the moment) but it is harder (IMHO) to moderate than abstain because we set up a craving cycle when we reintroduce alcohol into our bodies. So, I think it is even harder to moderate than try to abstain.

    Take a look at what is going on in your life crocus and try to evaluate what the triggers are as to why you think you over do it at times. For me, I learned that I should not really have a full bottle in the house if it's an occasion where I am the only one who would be drinking as hubby drinks so little. So, if he agrees we will share a bottle of red wine, I will buy one and we will have it on a Saturday night when we are having dinner at home. But, for example, the Oscars when I will be sitting alone downstairs in the movie theater room, no way would I purchase a regular champagne bottle as I know I would keep going back for "just one more". I know I have a faulty shut off valve and mine is overly confusing because sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, but I never know when it will work or not. So, I purchased a 5 oz champagne bottle for one.

    Ofcourse, there is always the option of deciding to just give it up if we determine moderation is just not working, and there is certainly no shame in that. Actually there is so much wonderful support on the AF boards, that for me personally, it's hard not to go that route sometimes. I certainly have considered it and remain open to the fact that it is an option and may be one I decide to do one day if moderation gives me trouble in my life. I do have a former friend who can not moderate and her drinking ruined our friendship, has caused some men to break up with her, etc. So, one has to carefully evaluate always what drinking is doing in their lives, is it affecting work, relationships, etc. Good luck crocus and know that we are here for you. You can always private mail me or anyone else here if you want to keep things more private.

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    Eve11

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