November Mod Thread

[Stewarts]

HI Guapo and Sunbeam...yes, I am doing well, now that I think about it. Sunbeam, we sound like we have similar situations, or had similar situations...I can go out and just have one or two...hell, I can go out and have none, I've done it before. I'd have to say though, like 90% of my friends drink. The new friends I make, it usually is around something like that as well. Perfect example, was the last weeknight in question....well, one, I totally ran myself down...I had a client that wanted to have a few drinks, then I had to meet up with Grad school friends to go over some stuff, then they wanted to go out, well, some of them. We are all getting to know each other, and we have a "cool" group of people that like to go out and socialize and we were reflecting on that in a very positive way...of course with AL. Then three of us that lived near each other took the party uptown, and I was out a little too late. I also remember, when I was out with my client, much earlier, the bartender bought us a shot...I don't do shots...occasional vodka here and there, but that's it...I think doing that and staying out, may have had something to do with my mood the next day.

Anyway, I found a picture from that night in my phone. I vaguely remember asking someone to take it, it was of the three of us. It's actually a very nice picture, it's of course in a bar. We all look...fine. None of us look sloppy or anything like that, we all looked good actually. I even posted in FB and people liked it, even female friends.

I'm not saying this to reprieve myself...it's just a reminder that I really am a good person, and just need to still, while I have come a LONG way, watch some old habits.

j.

The rest of my weekend was AL free...even when I went to dinner with my parents and sister. I could've had a glass of wine, but stuck to my no AL weekend.

[guapo]

Good post , S.

All I know, is that beating yourself up about drinking, or feeling that you're hopeless, is just going to lead to more drinking troubles. Having a good attitude about this makes all the difference.

[Stewarts]

Good post , S.

All I know, is that beating yourself up about drinking, or feeling that you're hopeless, is just going to lead to more drinking troubles. Having a good attitude about this makes all the difference.

Thanks Guapo, yeah I know what you mean. So last night I met one of my buddies, one of the one's in the picture to go over some grad school stuff. Oh, how times change; a little preamble is necessary, I was always right brained, math was not one of my strong points in school, I actually really never liked it; however, I am acing stats in grad school which is actually, really hard math, especially for someone that has never taken any advanced math like calculus, etc. So, this one buddy, didn't do so well on the Midterm and the professor let some of them take it over and asked some of us to help some students out. My buddy wanted to know if I would sit with him and do it, which I said yes, but was extremely shocked, still, because, the fact someone is asking me for Math help is just bizarre in my brain.

SO, after we were done he asked if we'd should stop by for a few drinks at this spot we go to. I kind of knew that was coming and told myself I wasn't going to drink, but I agreed. I knew I'd watch myself and I did...I just had a few beers. I feel fine. I am more upset that I got pizza on the way home last night... LOL

Anyway, we were talking about that night. Again, nothing bad happened, but now I know why I, or we all felt bad...apparently we were out to like 3am...???? I rarely do that on the weekends, let alone weekdays... I can't even remember the last time I had a week day excursion like that, years; I can't even remember the last time I had a weekend excursion like that (oh, the third guy with us, was a young buck, like 26, so I'm sure he was fine). He then said we were also doing shots...again, something not in my wheel house....So, yes, this was a pretty big slip up.

The good news, well, at least now I know what happened. I'm also not concerned about this happening again. I don't think this is a precursor to things to come for me in the future...it was just a weird night....making friends in school again, even grad school part time, is kind of like being in college again...just need to be reminded of that mindset.

We are meeting to go over more stuff today...tonight though, even though I don't think I'm coming to the office tomorrow....it will be an AL free night, simply because, I want it to be....

j.

P.S. last night, we saw some big time messes come into the bar...females too, I hate to say the "I'm glad I'm not that," but in this case.......

[Lasha]

Hi all,

What a hassle resetting my password, never mind.

Almost lost my wee dog to a mouth infection, where did he get that from? Thank goodness for vets and steroids, didn't drink over my limit during it all but was perilously near.

Now he's back to normal I'm so relieved, postman might not agree though.

Has everybody moved on? NNG, Eve, etc. etc.

[nonamegirl]

HI, all,
Though it is now December, I wanted to post on the November thread. Yes, I am still around, though I haven't been coming to MWO anywhere nearly as frequently as before. Lasha, always good to hear from you, and I am so glad your little dog is doing better. Our critters are family, aren't they?

Stewarts, you are always in my heart, you know. Take care of yourself and keep your feet on the ground.

I have been moderating well, but will set myself up for the holidays now by going completely af for awhile. This is not to say that there will be an over-indulgence once the hols get here, but rather the waistline is definitely suffering, and I simply can't allow myself to get any plumper. All is well.

Take care my friends, and know that I will check in once in awhile.

[Stewarts]

HI NNG, yeah, with the holidays coming up, NNG, I agree I think should be AF as well. I had something strange happen to me Friday at friends cocktail party, I am not going to sweat it, I can't, I'm not even sure he'll remember. Anyway, I noticed I was forgetting what I was saying so I stopped drinking. My friend, his place looked somewhat annoyed at me. He told me I was saying some weird sh@#$, I don't remember what he told me, all I know is I felt shocked and embarrassed, he definitely seemed annoyed, he was though pretty, I don't want to say bombed, but, he was far from sober. I just remember feeling embarrassed and saying, "I think I should leave." And I did. I don't know what I said, and I am not going to stress it, I don't want to know. I'm sure whatever it was, I embarrassed myself...or my buddy was so far gone it wasn't as big deal he was making it out to be...I honestly, did not recall any of it at the time, and really don't now several days later...like I said, once I was ashamed, or felt ashamed, I went home...I remember being like, "I said, Wha????" And looked at him really confused...I think I even said, "Really?!?!" That was when I said, "I think I should leave..."Anyway, I am looking at this as a little warning for the holidays. I knew my rationale, drink red wine, because you won't drink a lot of it, but I didn't eat, so apparently, it effected my body chemistry in a weird way....

I know I am not a bad person. And like I said, I did the right thing by leaving, ....knowing me, I probably said embarrassing..not mean, not malicious, just foolish and stupid.... Anyway, I don't plan on contacting my friend. We've only known each other about a year, and I'm a little embarrassed...and for all I know, he kept on drinking and doesn't even remember....(or was making a mountain out of a molehill) We can't beat ourselves over things like this... I should've known better....I shouldn't have went to something like that myself... I think I'm still more insecure than I think, as of lately... I actually wasn't going to tell anyone this, but I find myself sharing here.... I'm not tying to condone myself, but we all have bad days, and considering, I probably handled it quite well...I knew something wasn't right and I knew I needed to get home...

This things are always tough to figure out when everyone is drinking and on top of that.... it's really not worth it... last time I checked I didn't hurt anyone, I didn't do Ray Rice and started beating on someone in a rage...I probably may have embarrassed myself, like I said.

If this person is a real friend, I think they'll get over it, if not, perhaps it was a warning to me that this is probably a friendship I shouldn't have...

j.

[Stewarts]

....continued from my last post...come to think of it...I think my friend (the host) was pretty bombed when he approached me...in my experience with situations like this.... just let them fade away a die.... for all I know, he was being an ass and I didn't do anything...

Story reminds me of a guy I know from the neighborhood, being really nasty to one of the bartenders at our local spot, and this guy is not a nasty guy, he's actually a nice guy, I don't know what was going on...too much cheap scotch I guess... anyway, all I kept saying to him was, "What are you doing? This isn't you, you're a good guy."

Anyway, I obviously never held it against him and chalked it up to a bad night for him...and he was being a REAL jerk...

j.