It's been a while

[-143]

Today I'm attempting my first af day in quite sometime. And I don't feel afraid like before. I think I was setting my goals too high! :sun:

[frances]

Hi 143 - how are you doing...how did it go yesterday? Taking it "one day at a time" really helps make things less scary. It also helps if you are ready for things that make you want to drink so you can have a plan for how you will avoid drinking - there is a toolbox here where there are some really good tips for this. Here's the link:

http://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html

And if at first you don't succeed, keep trying, you can do this!

[little beagle]

Yes you can do this. Using the tools from this site helped me do it.

[-143]

Thanks guys....I didn't drink yesterday! I posted a thread in general discussion if you'd like to know more. It didn't seem like anybody really visited this group but guess I was
wrong...so I will continue to post. Going for day 2 af....but my friend is suppose to come over and bring some wine but she probably won't come.... I kinda don't want her to come. I didn't plan on not drinking today but I'm feeling some kinda way.......

[MartyCarter]

-143;1643583 wrote: Today I'm attempting my first af day in quite sometime. And I don't feel afraid like before. I think I was setting my goals too high! :sun:

Good luck mate Please update us on your successful AF journey

[SoberSoul]

143- you are so wise to stay close to these boards. You can try to quit a thousand times and one day it will stick. Relapse is part of recovery. Only you can choose which quit is your final one. Someone said around here that no one can make us drink except ourselves. You girlfriend with the wine showing up or not should not be your indicator of whether you will drink or not. Let her drink, sip on a lovely cool A/F drink and enjoy her company. We have to start smiling and saying "No thanks." It's hard because, as drinkers, we are so sensitive to other's feelings. Remember, alcohol is the only drug society not only advocates but we're judged for NOT taking it. How crazy is that?

[Roadside]

Marty, I tried setting my goal at double digits days sobriety and very angry/ confused when I fell flat like day 2. Be kind to yourself and be grateful for even one or two days AF.

Sober, yes it is repugnant that today's society condones AL at such a high level and adds various stereotypes to the kind of drink, the kind of drug, the 'occupation'of the user, etc. doesn't send a proper message and it doesn't treat all sotuations fairly.