Can't handle life

[sherrie]

Does everyone else feel that they just can't handle, deal or stand their life now that they don't drink regularly? It sounds totally terrible, but I can understand why I drank!

[4theboyz]

Since you asked...Out of the box AF, I felt that way too. Not drinking myself after being in buzzland for 35 years, I have come to realize AL was simply allowing me to coexist within my world of comfortable numbness all the while letting the clutter of my life pile up around me. This clutter of emotions, added responsibilities, finances, chores has become this enormous mountain I now see clearly for the first time. My first reaction is to run and drink so it all goes away again. I can't do that anymore but what I have decided to do is first not to panic. I am taking on one thing at a time that way it is more manageable and I can still honor myself and my own emotional needs without feeling too overwhelmed.

Break it down into manageable chunks, keep it simple is my motto.

I hope your days get brighter!

[KateH1]

Honestly Sherrie, I could not handle life if I started drinking again! I really love being sober! Some days it is hard to deal with the normal feelings of daily life, anxiety, happiness, sadness, stress etc, without the old crutch. But the fact is that drinking never changed anything for the better for me, it only postponed those feelings for a short while. Then I was also left with the depression that follows drinking.

Sherrie, just remember why you wanted to stop the drinking madness in the first place! Think of what brought you here! Hang in the sweetie, it will get better!

Good Wishes,
KateH

[trixietrack]

how long have you been AF I was told that it takes a while for your system to re-adjust to being normal.
you will go through a lot of emotion and pain.
also I think that letting go of AL is a lot like a heart break but for the better.
hang in there it will slowly start to feel better.

Trix

[My New Beginning]

Hi Sherrie
This is the first AF day for me. I know that it's going to be a struggle because already I hate myself and feel sad that I won't be having a bottle of wine tonight. I don't have any wine in the house and I'm not going out to buy any. Just hang in there with me. It'll get better.

[hippie37]

I think there IS a grieving process we go through when we give up drink like we would for the loss of a loved one. Alcohol was my existence and my whole world revolved around it. So just like I mourned the loss of my father only a few years back the same could be said of alcohol and the end of a 20 year relationship i had with it!!!

Love and Happiness
Hippie
xx

[YoungAtHeart]

I think that it is important not too expect too much from yourself the first few weeks. Not drinking is your job first and foremost. If you've got a lot on your plate, please don't expect anything near perfection from yourself. This IS hard. Why do you think we all avoided doing it for so long? Things will get better, but it will take time. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other, and the days will pass.

Good luck.:l

[keeta]

Me sherrie, i hate my life.

[changemylife]

Life

I know how you feel

I too feel fed-up with my life. Anyone looking in would think I have the greatest life but in my eyes it sucks.

Hate my business, never wanted to do it but its the family. Wouldn't be able to support my house without it.

Very lonely at home. Wife has her own issues with weight. I have no issue with it but she is not happy and in turn I suffer. We are friends and not lovers.

Many of my friends are a pain in the ass.

Lots of times I just want to take off to a warm climate and be done with all the BS.

But... its not possible and I move on. Drink always got me through the day and night.

I feel stuck and don't have any ambition. I'm kind of floating in the wind waiting for my time to do what I want for a change.

for listening

[sherrie]

Well, I went 2 weeks totally AF. I decided to go the mod way...so, it's been 42 days AF and I've had a few drinks on 4 different occasions. So I don't really know how it all works as far as AF is concerned. I do know that I drank every day for many, many years.

Yep, I'm feeling like I hate my life too keeta. I'm going on vacation tonight and I don't even care. Not even excited and didn't even pack. I work full time, have 2 kids (14 and 10), have them 24/7 with basically NO help and been doing this for over 9 years. Poor ME!!! I know I'm just feeling sorry for myself. Since I'm not drinking on a daily basis I'm just feeling so angry and yucky inside about it all.

Thanks for listening everyone!!!