Hey guys,
Lisa Happy day 11 to you! Sorry, We don't have any anniversary gifts or anything like that. You just keep track of that yourself. If ya wanna do the 10 is paper thing and 20 is popcorn and movie thing.....its up to you. So my question is.....did ya do it? I mean did you give yourself something with paper on it? What was it....just curious.
Anyway, were pretty self sufficient around here. When we are struggling with our cravings we tell each other. When we slip up we still count our AF days and just move on. When we want help we ask...when we need to vent we say we need to.....and all along those lines.
So I guess if ya want paper and popcorn.....your on your own! But ya know this is a good thing too. We need to learn to do this stuff for our self. So often its our instinctive reaction to something we want or need. "No! I can't afford it" Or "I shouldn't spend it on myself".
Especially us moms. We get so used to spending on our children and it may not ever stretch to us.
I bet many of us have learned to habitually deprive ourselves of anything we might want, and often things we need.
Sometimes we can misuse the concept of gratitude to keep ourselves unnecessarily deprived.
Gratitude for what we have is an important recovery concept.
So is believing we deserve the best and making an effort to stop depriving ourselves and start treating ourselves well.
There is nothing wrong with buyin ourselves what we want when we can afford to do that. Learn to trust and listen to yourself about what you want.
There's nothing wrong with buying yourself a treat, buying yourself something new.
There are times when its good to wait. There are times when we legitimately cannot afford a luxury. But there are many times when we can.
So today lets try to combine these principals of gratitude for what we have with the belief that we deserve the best. If there is no good reason to deprive ourselves, then lets don't. So Lisa, I would say that you need go splurge and get your self something for your Day 11 dont ya think?
Happy AF day to you all. gabby
Lisa Happy day 11 to you! Sorry, We don't have any anniversary gifts or anything like that. You just keep track of that yourself. If ya wanna do the 10 is paper thing and 20 is popcorn and movie thing.....its up to you. So my question is.....did ya do it? I mean did you give yourself something with paper on it? What was it....just curious.
Anyway, were pretty self sufficient around here. When we are struggling with our cravings we tell each other. When we slip up we still count our AF days and just move on. When we want help we ask...when we need to vent we say we need to.....and all along those lines.
So I guess if ya want paper and popcorn.....your on your own! But ya know this is a good thing too. We need to learn to do this stuff for our self. So often its our instinctive reaction to something we want or need. "No! I can't afford it" Or "I shouldn't spend it on myself".
Especially us moms. We get so used to spending on our children and it may not ever stretch to us.
I bet many of us have learned to habitually deprive ourselves of anything we might want, and often things we need.
Sometimes we can misuse the concept of gratitude to keep ourselves unnecessarily deprived.
Gratitude for what we have is an important recovery concept.
So is believing we deserve the best and making an effort to stop depriving ourselves and start treating ourselves well.
There is nothing wrong with buyin ourselves what we want when we can afford to do that. Learn to trust and listen to yourself about what you want.
There's nothing wrong with buying yourself a treat, buying yourself something new.
There are times when its good to wait. There are times when we legitimately cannot afford a luxury. But there are many times when we can.
So today lets try to combine these principals of gratitude for what we have with the belief that we deserve the best. If there is no good reason to deprive ourselves, then lets don't. So Lisa, I would say that you need go splurge and get your self something for your Day 11 dont ya think?
Happy AF day to you all. gabby
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