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    6 months sober - here's my story!

    Looking forward to your next update Sausage...coming soon??? xx

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    6 months sober - here's my story!

    9 month update

    Hello again

    An update on here is long overdue so I suppose I'd better get typing!

    I had been writing monthly on this thread, but at the 8 month mark I was struggling psychologically quite a bit ( I was close to the point at 8.5 months where I gave up last time, and now I think I understand why) and I almost felt like it was tempting fate to write on here plus I didn't really know what I wanted to say! Around this time I started to fantasise about how wonderful it would be to be a "normal" very moderate drinker. Some of you may remember or even want to search (amongst threads I've started) the thread I began about this and I found the responses I got from everyone really helpful. I used to envy other people (especially normal drinkers) see their lives a perfect, but no one knows what inner problems / turmoils they are going through. Another thing MWO has taught me, when people open up on here about their past drinking lives, is how good people are at putting on a front when really they are going though an inner turmoil of hiding their drinking hell.

    I've now passed the 8.5 month mark but to be honest I try not to count the number of days or even months now. I know its been debated frequently on here, the benefits of counting v not counting days. I've thought long and hard about this and have come to the conclusion that although for me in the early days counting is very motivating, after a significant length of time it is not helpful to me. It's almost as though I'm putting my life on hold, counting every day I pass in anticipation if something......what exactly? And with this mindset I am set up for eventual inevitable failure. I feel I should be looking at things differently now, developing a healthy mindset on living the best life I can, both health wise and in what I achieve. Instead of counting days past I prefer to look forward as seeing my future as an empty blank book with endless opportunities to create my story. Devoting myself to alcohol and depending on it daily will not help me create my story - well not a good one anyway! It is only since stopping drinking, and after many months of AF time that I began to see things more clearly and articulate my thoughts better, particularly with what I want out of life.

    Christmas is fast approaching and I do feel a little anxious about this. Interestingly I'm quite organised this year ( I have more time on my hands now!) have wrapped all the presents I need to mail and written most of my cards. Normally in past years it would all be fairly last minute and I would work my way through a bottle of wine whilst doing it, but this year I didn't and didn't feel remotely tempted and I had so much more energy and felt better for not doing so!

    I will write again and update this thread when inspiration strikes and I feel I have more to add / more thoughts on this process / journey although I can't say it will be in exactly 1 month, maybe sooner, maybe not, I don't know. But I'm looking forward to the future.

    Thank you again everyone for your continued support and great comments on here, they mean such a lot.

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    6 months sober - here's my story!

    So glad to hear you got through that eight month panic and are now cruising on with life.

    Like you I am apprehensive about Xmas .....ironically I was sober all last Xmas then fell just after ....... But I know why so should be OK

    Have a great Xmas BTW

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    6 months sober - here's my story!

    Sausage, you have been an inspiration, and one big reason why I have come back to MWO!

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    6 months sober - here's my story!

    It's almost as though I'm putting my life on hold, counting every day I pass in anticipation if something......what exactly? And with this mindset I am set up for eventual inevitable failure. I feel I should be looking at things differently now, developing a healthy mindset on living the best life I can, both health wise and in what I achieve. Instead of counting days past I prefer to look forward as seeing my future as an empty blank book with endless opportunities to create my story. Devoting myself to alcohol and depending on it daily will not help me create my story - well not a good one anyway!

    Sausage, what you say above is so very true. I couldnt agree more - not counting days has definitely worked for me. If you're counting days you're thinking about alcohol. If you're thinking abt alcohol you're on dodgy ground! When you stop counting days only then do you start to feel free.

    Anyway, I just wanted to say that I so look forward to your story updates & posts on Janet's 30 day thread because you're one of the people on here whose words always inspire me and I'm sure we'll both be "popping in" to MWO over the Christmas period to prop each other up!! Well, not "prop each other up" like we would have needed last year lol..."encourage" is what I shld have said!

    love to you & your family this Christmas....hope its the best ever! xx

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    6 months sober - here's my story!

    SAUSAGE;1418659 wrote: Hello again

    But I'm looking forward to the future.
    Sausage - love this line - that is why I am here and continue to try to make it stick, looking forward to the future is a huge gift to us - I know I have spent too much time fearing the future long term. Thank you for posting, love seeing you on the 30 day . Thank you for being such an inspiration!

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    6 months sober - here's my story!

    Sausage...good to read....and def well done to reach where you are now..an inspiration

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    6 months sober - here's my story!

    Thanks Sausage. It's really helpful to read the back stories of people here on MWO. You have accomplished an amazing thing and you are an inspiration.
    ~nurdl

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    6 months sober - here's my story!

    Thanks for sharing.

    Iam never going back, ever.

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    6 months sober - here's my story!

    I found this thread really interesting to read back on today - thanks Sausage:l
    There are quite a few with anxieties about Christmas looming. I think that we need to support eachother, and realise that we AREN'T the only ones in the whole world not raising that stupid glass of bubbly or mulled wine or whatever other muck we drink on that day and that day only and think it's lovely I've done plenty of sober christmas's but not so many sober Januarys - riddle me that one
    Re. the counting days - like 199, I too count my time until my year anniversary - it is something I've accomplished - and I'm very proud of. There's no sneaky hidden 'slip' or 'relapse' in there, it's pure continuous unadulterated sober time - and it makes me feel good. After the year - that's gone, I'll move along into long(er)-term sobriety. That's just me tho - WHATEVER works for you is right - as long as it's not booze
    Molly

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