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    It looks like things are really not going to work out with my husband. He says he will never let me have the kids b/c of my drinking. I really think this program will work for me. But does anyone know how long you have to be sober to be able to keep your kids?
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    I don't know the answer to that, twins, but that is heartbreaking. Stay sober, prove you are changing and are commited to that change. Of course I know nothing of your situation but if you feel you are worthy of having the kids then fight like hell for them. Your husband could be using your drinking as his "excuse" to gain control over you, but again I do not know the specifics. I am really wishing you the best.

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    Twins,

    I don't know the answer to your question, but my heart goes out to you....

    Be positive for your family, they are worth it.

    Love and hugs

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    Thanks

    Thanks so much both of you. I am just feeling so hopeless. Last night was my 1st night of hypno and today was 1st of meds & supps. It seemed pretty hard. Plus when I tried to talk to him about the way I feel about one of our situations it snowballs and of course THAT gets thrown in my face. There is never any defense. It hurts and just makes you feel defeated every time.

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    Twins, I would just try to concentrate on getting the drinking under control. If you know that things are not going to work out, then the best thing you can do is conquer this problem. I don't know much about divorce, but I do know that lots of people on this website can offer better advice than I on this issue. Might I suggest posting this question on general discussion. More people will see it there. Good luck, twins.

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    Pansy

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    Sorry twins I can't answer that question. However I can say that I am so proud of you for keeping with your goals and getting your life in control. Keep going and show the world that you have changed and that you can take care of those kids. Show them that those kids are number one to you. Stay focused on what matters.

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    Good evening Twins,
    You are in the midst of some very trying times, I'm sure..I'm a child of divorce, child of an alcoholic (maybe two) and have been through a two divorces with the same man..my drinking came after the pain of divorce, and wasn't the cause. I agree, that the most important thing you can do for yourself and your children, and possibly for your husband is to be confident in your efforts to get control of the drinking..no one will have confidence in you until you have confidence in yourself...you have much at stake here, it should be enough to keep you focused..if your motivation for your own life and well being, we can always default to doing it for our kids...whatever works, right? Just keep posting, follow RJs recommendations to the T..especially for the first month, if not longer, and you may be amazed at how everything in your life looks in just a few months.
    Much love and hope for you and your family.
    Dianne

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    Thanks much!

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    Just saw this thanks for the encouragement

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    Twins, So sorry, you are trying can't your ex see that? how old are your children,If you don't mind my asking. I have a sister who literally abandoned her 3 boys for a party lifestyle and they adore her. And here you are trying to get straightened out and you may loose yours. Dosen't seem fair. do you live in a state that favors men over women in divorce proceedings. I live in Va. it's definetly a man's world here. I wish you well, I care and so does everyone else
    Mary

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