View Full Version : So, MWO works, but?...

October 27th, 2007, 04:13 PM
I'm wondering what other people do in ADDITION to the MWO programme and this site... I know RJ would not mind if I asked this question.

Of course, this site is major, but in addition:

--I have used "Seven Weeks to Sobriety" as an additional nutritional guide.

--I have used other meditation cds.

-- I have used Buddhist readings to guide me

-- I have become more deeply involved in art and music.

I'd like to know what you others do (in a nutshell)...

October 27th, 2007, 04:43 PM
in a nutshell/melonrind......
I listen to hypnosis cds
I sleep more
I've stopped watching miserable crap on tv
I am more choosy about wot I read...not just any old mind numbing drivel...just starting 'What the bleep....' and enjoying the way I have to REALLY think deeply and differently, although it does make my brain ache a bit
I eat faaaaaarrrr better, and have cut out nearly all processed foods and red meat, and take really good nutritional supps.
I no longer have anything to do with people who make me feel low if I can possibly help it...I tended to try and please and then feel exhausted and depressed afterwards...I am a lot more selfish now.
I take a lot of time out for myself doing exactly what I want to do without loading myself up with guilt....massages, walking, NOT doing so much housework, going out with chums that uplift etc etc

I don't think this is quite wot you meant, but I do not really have anything to do with any other programs or anything.....I like mugging along on my own

October 27th, 2007, 04:55 PM
Hey melon, that's exactly what I meant.-- and you just keep mugging (whatever that means!). I got some good advice from you.

October 27th, 2007, 05:24 PM
Amen Melon...

October 27th, 2007, 06:37 PM
I run
I eat well (as best i can)
I try new stuff as much as I can to keep life interesting
I separated myself from the bad influences in my life.
I let myself come first often enough to remind me that I am vital in creating my own happiness
I live

October 28th, 2007, 11:02 AM
I'm sorry to hear that about your neighbour tk. I read obits a lot. Obits make you think-- who was that person? what did they mean to the people around them? Where are they now? How can I feel like I want to die if I am so sad about others dying? What will MY obit say (if there is any ha ha).

October 28th, 2007, 09:03 PM
*The book "Healing the Addictive Mind" was hugely helpful for me - maybe even a major breakthrough.
*I ended a relationship with serious drinker.
*I have joined a non-profit group and gotten a freelance job, in addition to my full-time job - gives me more to do, and some extra "sense of purpose".
*I have begun working EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) to deal with issues.
*I am more attentive to my daughter.
*I'm on a candida cleanse, to get healthy and clear out my body.

November 13th, 2007, 05:03 AM
im totally with you on the keeping away from toxic people Melon, I have a few of them im shakeing off one by one . There is something about me that attracts these idiots who seem to love telling me how to live my life ,raise my kids ,who tell me how I should handle my other half!!!! F**k off!! I dont like confrontation you see and the drink makes me even more mellow and I just listen to them and later I hate myself for it! Enough! 10 days af and counting ...

November 13th, 2007, 05:06 AM
Unfortunatly its turned me into a bit of a loner for the time been but my new way of life will hopefully introduce me to some friends worth having!

November 13th, 2007, 08:52 AM
Melon-I love it when you said NOT doing so much housework! I drive myself crazy trying to get it all done. But with a DH, two kids, and a dog who sheds all year it is quite impossible! I've got to let it go!


November 13th, 2007, 09:47 AM
I exercise much more
I eat better
I take dietary suppliments
I got back to my meditation.
I listen to more music
I read more
I just "do" more stuff in the evenings rather than numbing out in front of rubbish TV.
ie Mess with computer, modify car, work on guitar I am currently making, work on house, spend time more with kids, just talk to my wife more, go out for meals more often
I search out new experiences so I dont fall into a "rut" of boredom which might lead back to drinking

etc etc etc.

BUT - I am not sure whether these are the things that helped me to stop drinking - or if they are the result of actually having stopped drinking :confused:

Kind of chicken and egg scenario!



November 13th, 2007, 09:57 AM
how long are you af ,Satori?

November 13th, 2007, 10:21 AM
I spend more time at home and not at the bars

I have used Seven weeks to sobriety, and determination

I work out more

spend more time on my own working on ideas for my art

I am eating well, and not missing a day of supplements and vitamins.

ended a relationship which was draining me, both financially and emotionally.

and yes keeping clear of negative and self absorbed people has really helped me.

I am still in the process of clearing myself of emotional crap, so things are still difficult but no where near as horrible as when I was drunk or hungover.
(taking a deep breath)

November 13th, 2007, 10:58 AM
Hey cool thread.

I was just sort of taking a personal inventory of my arsenal and I think that the more customized, diverse and full your arsenal is, the better your chances for success - whatever your goal is.

At the risk of stating the obvious - I went to my doc and told him the truth. Honestly, it was one of the toughest for me personally, so - bam, it goes on my list. Also, it lead to some other good things...

Got on Prilosec for heartburn, heading for ulcer. Worked like magic and took away so much pain and discomfort. When the pain went away, the realted anxiety and background noise in my brain went away, too.

Antianxiety meds (mine is Zoloft). I was reluctant at first, but now I'm a poster child for them. Don't care if I take them til the day I die. Without them I'm a train wreck; with them I'm human, irrespective of my alcohol consumption (brainy jane, where are you?!?! - I need a usage and grammer check on 'irrespective'!!!!)

I went to a therapist for a bit - very helpful, but I think you should be open to shopping around. Sort of like speed-dating or choosing a pediatrician. If you don't feel fully comfortable, move on.

And my new favorite is the Wendi hypno CD's. Soooooo coool.


November 13th, 2007, 11:34 AM
Yes - cool thread...

I exercise more.
Stopped sitting in front of the tv!
Rearranged the furniture in my living room.
Finding new friends. When I mentioned that we should start doing non-drinking activites they looked at me like I had two heads.
Learning to be stronger as a person and setting new boundaries.
Lovin life...

November 13th, 2007, 12:14 PM
The biggest thing for me, besides MWO, is that every day, before I get out of bed, I decide what my day will be:
Today I will encounter only the most uplifting people and situations

Today I will rejoice in living sober and happy

Today is the first day to creating the life I desire etc. etc.

At the end of the day, I write at least 5 things that I am grateful for.

Also healthy diet, exercise and staying clear of all negativity! This includes, TV, people and situations......

and....REAd, Read Read!!!!

Oh! I am also doing the Sedona Method, a course to learn to raise our vibrations and thinking process! I am really enjoying this!!! Getting a lot out of it!


November 14th, 2007, 03:56 AM
limers;223810 wrote: how long are you af ,Satori?
Sorry Limers away from computer overnight!

119 days today - and feelin' GOOD!


November 14th, 2007, 05:41 AM
Hey Limer,
sometimes it takes a bit of loner time to re-assess who the people are in your life and whether or not you are making good choices.. that is how I look at it. I've surrounded myself by people who were not good for me my whole life. These day I am very cautious and selective. With a bit of time I think I will feel my way better and be more confident.

however, it's been a big realisation just how bad my judgement has been and I've really been re-evaluating very carefully.. and taking plenty of time too.

IT's easy to just blame everyone else.. so I'm not going that road.. I'm looking at each relationship and trying to weigh up what it all means so that I can go forward and not make those same ole mistakes again.

Great Work!! 10 Days!!

November 14th, 2007, 07:13 AM
Congratulations Satori ,I hope thats me in a few months .Day 11 ,feeling strong but in quite a snippy mood...hope it passes soon.Thanks Fickle, I understand where your coming from.

November 14th, 2007, 10:48 AM
Limers, - you will get there - if you can do 11 days - you CAN do it for good - just depends on how much you want it.

Go for it! If someone had told me when I was on day 11 - how good it would feel several months down the road - I would have had a hard time believing them.

But - it IS true - I am loving being free of all the negative sh*t that comes with drinking.

Best of luck ;)



November 16th, 2007, 11:11 PM
one theme that has come out to me thru these posts, is t.v. I looked on it as an escape, maybe is just another part of my trap.

November 17th, 2007, 04:46 AM
sleep more go to bed early. still do.
Have a long hot bath stay in there as long as possiable turn the lights of and light the candles and listen to music.
Try to eat a good balance diet to get through the day.
slow down remembering that there is always 2morrow.
Reading - buddhism book at the moment called endless path. my friend borrow it to me (enjoying it not to indepth) love the pictures and scenery in this book, love to visit the places.
meditation - Find time on my own to relax, focus on a burning candle just to clear my thoughts in my mind.