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**startingover** · February 7, 2009, 11:30 AM

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Hey Mrs Donovan, A huge welcome to you! Thats how I stopped initiially, no plan, nothing to help, but I just stumbled across this site. My drinking was also probably a similar level to yours..
So, I went cold turkey too, then after a week or so, I got some supps, they helped immensley. I had anxiety for a while too, but I simply decided that my life was awful the way it had been and I was going to deal with any feelings as they arose and not return to my previous ways..I think it was making that decision that helped me. Dont worry too much about how you think you might feel in the future yet, just concentrate on staying off the booze for now..get the book, read posts and ask questions. Thats what really helped me.
I look forward to hearing more from you...and dont worry, everything is going to be all right,

**A Work in Progress** · February 7, 2009, 11:30 AM

I'm an alcoholic Mum

Welcome, and I agree with Wally. This is a GREAT time to stop drinking! You can purchase and download the MWO book today, if you want (go to the "Health Store"); and, for free, you can read the "Tool Box" thread (go to the Forums listing, to "Goals" > "Monthly Abstinence" and it's the first thread on the list) to get yourself some help, encouragement, and good ideas about putting together a solid plan. Stick around. Many of this have changed our lives, and you can, too.

**matthen** · February 7, 2009, 11:35 AM

I'm an alcoholic Mum

Hi Ms. D -- so glad you found us. This is a great site to help you get sober and to give you some new friends and lots of support as we struggle with AL (alcohol). Funny, when we come to MWO most of us are very alone and frightened and disgusted with ourselves. I guess that just goes with being a drunk. We tend to be very hard on ourselves and blame ourselves unmercifully.

I found MWO some time ago, and was drinking about the same as you. It is a struggle to get out of the rut, but I am amazed to find myself about 8 months AF (alcohol free) now. Lots of slips along the way, lots of sadness and anxieties. But the future is bright. Come here often and :welcome:

**Mrs Donovan** · February 7, 2009, 11:38 AM

I'm an alcoholic Mum

Thanks everyone - thanks for your replies that's made me feel more hopeful - looking forward to getting to know you all better.

I'm going to get through the kids dinner bath and bed routine sober tonight and then have a nice bubble bath myself tonight when they're asleep as a reward I think!

Looking forward to a clear head tomorrow

**upnorthgirl** · February 7, 2009, 12:09 PM

I'm an alcoholic Mum

/welcome Mrs. D

We have all been where you are now, so you are not alone in this struggle. this is a grat place to start finding the new you. I know you love your children, so they can be your motivation.

Several weeks ago I posted a thread that detailed how much money I spent on booze over the last five years, and was shocked that is was nearly $13,000 !! That in itself should motivate you, especially if you are struggling financially. Think what your family could do with that wime and beer money instead--maybe a nice holiday with the kids??

Come back and chat with us often.:welcome:

**jamieaz** · February 7, 2009, 04:59 PM

I'm an alcoholic Mum

Hi Mrs. Donovan,

I understand your story, so much it is scary. I’m also an alcoholic mom with a husband that leaves me home alone all the time. I also thought I didn’t have a problem because I didn’t wake up drinking, I started later in the day and it went all night. I also started to binge every few weeks, so bad that I would be hung over for days.

This last Tuesday night I drank so much I don’t have a clue how I drove home. I made an ass out of myself with my friends, and spent way to much money at the bar. Wednesday I spent all day on the couch or in bed while the TV babysat my 20 month old daughter. Wednesday night I started to google AA and help and found this website.

You just get to the point in your life where you can’t do this to yourself or your family anymore. I have tried so many times before to stop drinking and would make it 1 day without a drink. I hope you stay and I hope you like it here. Everyone is so nice.

Jamie

**Mrs Donovan** · February 8, 2009, 06:46 AM

I'm an alcoholic Mum

Hi Jamie and everyone - thanks for your replies again. It's so reassuring to find people in exactly the same position as me. Well I made it through Saturday night without a drink. Felt a bit nervous and shaky at times last night but distracted myself with a nice bath and a film. Was quite sweaty in bed which I have felt before but never associated with AL. All in all it was bearable.......beginners luck??

Didn't really sleep that well, the baby was up a lot last night as well actually as she's teething. I can't believe I used to be almost blind drunk and in charge of a baby in the middle of the night. I never considered myself a risk as I felt in control but of course I wasn't. It's disgusting and I feel really shocked at myself.

I lay thinking about all the future social occasions I'm going to have to get through without drinking. With some I felt positive - others I was gripped with dread 'I can just never go out again then?'. I stopped smoking by avoiding smokers as I just didn't have the willpower not to smoke if people smoked around me. I found by associating cigarettes with certain people I didn't crave them if I didn't see those people.......well, that's not really practical with drinking as I'd have to go live alone on a remote island somewhere and grow a beard.

Got To Learn WillPower and Take Things One Day At A Time

**Seacailin** · February 8, 2009, 07:01 AM

I'm an alcoholic Mum

Hello and Welcome Mrs. D.
You have been given some great advice already, so I will just say welcome, and I look forward to getting to know you.

**matthen** · February 8, 2009, 08:41 AM

I'm an alcoholic Mum

Good for you Mrs. D -- you are on a roll!!

**river0123** · February 8, 2009, 08:51 AM

I'm an alcoholic Mum

Welcome Mrs. D ~ good for you on your AF night! It is shocking when you look back and realize all the risk you put your beloved kids at. I remember waking up many nights with baby between us and feeling her to make sure she was warm, as drunk hubby would be laying right on her. Some nights I couldn't remember putting her to bed. There must be very special angels for children of alcoholic parents. I'm finding there are many activities (such as bath time) that just aren't fun - peroid. I also was buzzed at every bathtime because I hated that chore. Cooking was also a dreaded chore that I thought was made easier by drinking. I hate cooking, always have, always will - drunk or sober

It's just one of those tasks I will have to just "grow up" and do.

It struck me the other day how many of us are shy and AL brings us out of our shell - just to do stupid stuff we'd never dream of doing sober! Now that's embarrassing! I'd rather be thought of as the shy lady that the goofy drunk. Anyway, keep up the fantastic work - you can do this! And Welcome!

**LOST AGAIN** · February 19, 2009, 03:38 PM

I'm an alcoholic Mum

:new:
great to hear all you all have to say. i feel like Mrs Donovan is me! the not remembering going to bed is the scariest for me and the feeling that i might not wake up if they started crying. you are all a great help

**patricia** · February 19, 2009, 03:46 PM

I'm an alcoholic Mum

Hi Mrs Donovan

I too found this site by accident - I was trying to find out the calorific content of gin because I wanted to lose weight - my search threw up the thread 30 day challenge (something like this anyway) and I found myself on a thread and successfully completing 30 days - it also coincided with some blood tests that the doctor was running. By the time my 30 days was up my liver results etc. were brilliant - but I bet they wouldn't be now. I got complacent and have reverted to drinking about 10 units four five or occasionally seven nights a week. This site is brilliant because if you want support - it's there - you are among people who really understand and don't judge. Good luck to you (and to all the other and to me!) Px

**j-vo** · February 19, 2009, 05:27 PM

I'm an alcoholic Mum

Hi Mrs. Donovan,
I see you posted on Feb. 7, and I haven't been around much. There are so many people here that will help you as well as great tools and ideas. Read the book, check out the supps and you'll find your own way. Take care.

**hope10** · February 24, 2009, 08:14 PM

I'm an alcoholic Mum

mrs. donovan...I don't know if you are still out there but if you are, I hope you are doing well! I was reading over this thread and what river0123 said, "There must be very special angels for children of alcoholic parents." really struck a chord!

I am a mother to an amazing three year old and I don't know how many nights I have been drunk when putting her to bed...or on those same nights not even remembering how I even got up to bed myself. God has really looked out for my baby girl!

I am so incredibly devoted to get this right this time in my life! I hope all of you mothers out there, mrs donovan included, will band together and get sober not only for ourselves, but our little ones!!! :hug:

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