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November 3rd, 2006, 05:00 AM
G'day Abbers,

I did have to write something. Even if it's just to get Lizzy's October 2nd off my screen, ha, ha.

Mike has been relatively quiet, so I have to take the task of welcoming you to a new day in Absville. My third day off the booze. And it's Friday .... Anyway, hope all of you stay on the wagon, ok? Put your seatbelts on folks! Pop your Topas!

Have a safe w-end.

Best from this side of the globe,


November 3rd, 2006, 07:14 AM
lol! Strapped in for the weekend Paddy. Topa's popped and ready to be beamed up Paddy.

November 3rd, 2006, 07:37 AM

Hi everyone,
Thanks for getting us started today Paddy! Hope everyone's off to a great November. Today is my 30th day of abs. I feel good today, but must admit have been in the dumps the past couple of days dwelling on past issues. So hard to forgive myself at times. I have no time for a pity party today. The boys are home from school and we are taking my 13 yo's class to see "The Santa Clause 3" to celebrate his and another classmate's birthdays. Two of the girls in the class are dancing elves in the movie. Then, out to pizza after that.
Congrats to Kim on 91 days! Be proud of that chip, girl. You have worked hard!!
What's everyone's plans for the weekend? I am working. Any tentative parties set up for chat that I don't know about?
Will check back later. Love, Gina

November 3rd, 2006, 07:46 AM
Hey Everyone! 19 days AF for me! (I think)
My husband and I are attending a marriage workshop thingy this weekend. We'll go to Atlanta tonight and come home Sunday night. We don't really know what we signed up for, but are cool with whatever it is.. my only expectation is that we acquire some more communication tools to enhance what we've been doing lately..it's a nice hotel and we'll be fed good, so we'll make the best of it..who knows, we may have a thing or two to teach them..it occured to me that we've worked so consciously on our marriage for over 10 years..with other 'training (hate that word' that we may actually be the old timers there, even though we're only 47-48.

I'm rambling..but we are very much enjoying our abstinence..not just from alcohol, but from T.V. too (with the exception of rented movies)..he is getting so much done around the house and even started working on his boat, which he has only talked about for 3 years now..I'm taking care of the house, purging things and taking care of some business and planning holiday stuff...it's ALL Good...

I won't be checking in this weekend, so have a great one everybody!

November 3rd, 2006, 07:59 AM
Morning everyone.

I'm up early, need to run a bunch of errands and do a presentation for youth detention. It's sad to see kids so young already in so much trouble. Many of them are already parents, and I do a child abuse prevention class there every few months.

Then my son is coming over to spend the night since we have to be at the airport at dark o'clock in the morning. I probably won't post for the next week, unless I happen to get on one of the cafe computers.

If I do not drink today, and I don't intend to, it will be day one. I wish I felt more hopeful but when you fail enough times, you starting expecting to fail. I'm doing okay with the topa. It made me feel sleepy and kind of unwell, but I've felt kind of unwell anyway. I'm going to try taking it with food today.

I hope everyone has a good Friday and a good next week too.


November 3rd, 2006, 08:05 AM
Good Morning All!

Just having my morning cappucino and reading the threads, and saying HI! to everyone.

I am feeling very grateful these days that I am starting to see the fruits of my labors paying off financially. The money is starting to come in, and the bills are starting to get paid better than on time. It is a good feeling. To have my sister here as the days get shorter and colder is a comfort. She has helped me so much through some dark times in my life, and it is a gift to me to be able to provide for her while she looks for work in this area. To be able to do it while sober is the greatest gift of all.

This is funny. Today is my "pretend" birthday. Don't ask me how, because my mother is able to do these sorts of things, but she was able to get hold of a birth certificate and FORGE it so that my birthday was Nov. 3rd and get me into kindergarten a year early (my real birthday was just past the deadline). So I was always the youngest in my class and somewhat confused as to what my birthday actually WAS during my grade school years! I suspect that I was driving her nuts with all of my questions about EVERYTHING, and she figured that the teachers might be better equipped to deal with it. She was right on that count, because I loved school! It would be hard for your basic solid citizen to get away with something like that today:H .

At any rate, I hope that everyone has a great day today!

Lots of love,

November 3rd, 2006, 08:14 AM
Gosh, missed a few posts there! So,

Hi Paddy, and thanks for starting us off today! I'm all buckled up with Gabbs!

Hi Gina, you're such a good woman, why are you doing that to yourself honey??? Is it helping you in some way I can't see? If it helps you to stay sober, okay, but I hope you're not beating yourself up senselessly, love. PM me if you want, okay? And congrats on 30 days!

Have a great time, Di! You and your husband sound like you have a terrific marriage! I'll bet you DO have a few things you can teach people yourselves.

Good luck Tracy. Try to remember that many people have to start over a number of times before they get it right, and this onr may just be your time. Keep trying!

Again, lotsa love!

November 3rd, 2006, 09:08 AM
Good morning Absville!

Hey Paddy -- thanks so much for taking the initiative to get us started. Please feel free to do so any time you like. In fact, you can be our "standby mayor" if you like! You're doing a good job at it! By the way, I am with you, all buckled in and topa'd up!

Gina: I have often had trouble forgiving myself for things I've done (or things I haven't done). I posted the full lyrics of this song under the long term abs forum today, as it's one of my favorite songs and its theme is living in today, but here's a snippet that's appropriate for us:

There is no future
There is no past.....
Forget regret or
Life is yours to miss

Di -- I hope you get what you are looking for out of the couples weekend thingy. (I love the word "thingy!") It sounds like you and your husband have a wonderful partnership already, and it is great that you are on this journey of sobriety together.

Tracy, I echo what Kathy said. It took a lot of us several tries before we "got" it. But guess what? This just might be the time for you. You are right that we are used to failure and almost set ourselves up for it. But you also have the power to change that belief in a heartbeat. You are capable of success. You have the power to change your mind. You have the power to stay sober. Believe that. :l

And Kathy, happy pretend birthday! I love that story! :) We all just keep getting to know each other better here, don't we?

OH! And happy birthday, or belated birthday, or early happy birthday -- to GABBY and PADDY. :wd:


November 3rd, 2006, 09:30 AM
Wow! So much going on here already and I have no time to really chat but wanted to check in. So here I am. Day 4. Will check back later!

Hope everyone has a great day!

November 3rd, 2006, 09:40 AM
Good Morning!!
I believe today is AF day #6 for me

Sounds like everyone is having a busy day leading into a busy weekend.
Tracy - This will be day 1 for you- you can do it. I think that is great what you are doing - the work with kids and child abuse. It is so needed- thanks for doing it.
And Dianne - can you tell me how you managed the no tv at night? I'd like to try to tackle that habit soon too. I am slowly changing my habits of the past several years of working - coming home- drinking and smoking and watching tv till bedtime (sounds awful just listing that all out). It is taking some time but all these have to change! So, any good tips on keeping the tv off - I'd love to hear about it.
Gina - enjoy the movie...maybe you can tell us which dancing elves to watch out for in the movie!?
Paddy - congrats on day 3 for you
Mike - you stay warm!!brrr I forgot to turn my heat on this morning and woke up to 57 degrees in my house! Just a bit chilly. I do like this weather though. Are all the animals hibernating now up there?
Do you have many Moose around? I love Moose....I know they are not supposed to be too nice but they're so darned cute.
Kathy - I'm so happy your sister is there with you - she sounds very supportive and just nice to have around. I had my sister live with me for 4 months a couple of years ago. It was just nice having herhere ( a bit stressful at times- but nice). Is this an older or younger sister? Oh- and Happy Pretend Birthday! :yay: Good thing we didn't have homeland security back then :H

Gabby - thanks for the pep talks too - I think you have inspired us all to keep going down this path!

Nancy.....you up?:) Are you away this weekend? You stay warm too! We can't take too much cold in this part of the world!

I'm excessively sore this morning from my workout with the trainer yesterday - had a hard time even getting downstairs this morning! I my treat myself to a massage today - since I'm having a vacation day!

ok...bye - hello to anyone I may have missed -
Have a great day today

November 3rd, 2006, 09:40 AM
"But you also have the power to change that belief in a heartbeat."
Mike, those are powerful words. I need to think and believe them. Actually we have the power to change ANY belief in a heartbeat. It is a decision away.
Thanks for all you do here.
Love and Peace,

November 3rd, 2006, 09:41 AM
Kathy and Mike, thanks so much for your messages of hope. I'm becoming very fond of you folks.

Kathy, happy pretend birthday! I love the story too and feel a kinship. I ran away from home twice when I was four years old - once to school and once to the bookmobile - both called my mother to come get me. She threatened to turn me over to the police if I didn't quit running away during nap time. Sheesh, what a kid had to go through for a little intellectual stimulation!

November 3rd, 2006, 09:42 AM
Thanks Lisa too. We must have posting simultaneously.

November 3rd, 2006, 10:37 AM
Kathy..I love the pretend birthday story too...sounds like you might have a little of your mom's moxy as well!

The t.v. thing was really getting in the way of our marriage..but more, my husband really abused it..his mom put him in front of the t.v. from the get go..meal time..anytime, he couldn't even go to sleep without out it..I could basically take it or leave it..I only endured it because he was so attached to it. First we moved it out of the bedroom..for obvious reasons, then decided to get rid of cable..while we were cutting unnecessary expenses..granted, he has managed to watch a movie almost every night..either rented or one of our own..but the t.v. is off now..in the morning and when we go to bed..he is much more productive too...I don't like it because it takes us out of ourselves..and away from our deepest feelings and intuition and creativity..many of us abuse it..

I agree, we have the power to change 'beliefs'...I read somewhere that in order to really believe something, you have to believe EVERYTHING that it means...I started looking at that when I found myself attached to some belief to see where I picked it up, why I believed it and if there were exceptions to what I said I believed in...I've been able to drop a few things that I just kind of took on unconsciously because I knew that I couldn't follow through with that belief unconditionally...now I could claim only a handful of solid beliefs...makes the load a little lighter..

back to work..nice and cold here in Georgia..we have a freeze warning tonight.
ta, ta,

November 3rd, 2006, 10:42 AM
I love the pretend birthday thing. Happy PB-day to you my cute buddy Kath. Do you get real or pretend presents? When is your real birthday?
Oh and by the way....you all havent missed my birthday yet either. Have we missed yours Paddy?
Thanks Mike for the early wish. : )

Lizzie Mouse
November 3rd, 2006, 11:24 AM
Hi everyone - and Sorry about the month yesterday !!!! Still you know me - Dizzy Lizzie !!!

Hey Kathy - your mum sounds like a genius !!! No wonder you are a Canny Lass too XXXX

Tracy - I just want to say that it is REALLY hard - and I know that I have scrabbled around looking for an answer. I was going to go to a rehab place for 6 weeks at the cost of ?4000. Which involved withdrawal, and then a re-introduction into society - ha... They said that we would all go shopping - as a group and embark upon general life experiences... well, I decided that actually I go to the shops alone every week, , go for interviews,and generally interact with the public on a day to day basis anyway but it was the stopping that was the problem, and the maintaining of the abstinence. So I cancelled.
I have stopped LOTS of times, but only a couple of times have been able to maintain it longer that 3-4 weeks. But now... I think that it is something that I can only do alone. Without drug therapys and yes the counselling does help - although I loathe it. But I know that this is the only way that I will be able to help myself out of this. It's worked so far - but I am by no means out the woods yet.
I hope I can be sitting here typing away with 5 months under my belt.

The supplements help me a lot, and I have not been down the Topa road, although I know it helps a lot of people a great deal. I reckon it's just Horses for Courses and I hope you back a winner Tracy. XXXX
I am 100% behind you.

So hello to everyone else here, and thank you for all your lovely welcome back msgs ( sorry about the date yesterday - again !!! well that's me - doolally always have been - always will be ! ) snnnorrt .

Lots of love and thinking about you - have a lovely weekend

XXXX :l :l

November 3rd, 2006, 11:49 AM
Lisa, your's and Neil's recent posts about working out inspired me to get my butt to the gym this morning at 0530. I have been slacking this past week and it contributed to my low mood. Feeling those good chemicals circulating right now and feel reenergized. Thanks for the motivation, and thanks for the support Mike and Kathy! Mike, love the lyrics....so true!
I hope you do tell us when your real bday is Kathy! Great story!
Di~enjoy your weekend of reconnecting with your husband. That is something needed in my marriage. Will have to look into something like that.
Wishing you the best today Tracy! I admire what you are doing for our youth. That's wonderful!
Anyone hear from Lorik? I miss her posts.
Have a great weekend all! Gina

November 3rd, 2006, 12:59 PM
Hiya Chaps & Chapesess,
Just a flying visit...Like i said the other day i got my brother down for a long weekend....

He bought a game today called Singstar...I dont know if you have heard of it....Its on the playstation 2....You get 2 microphones....Its a bit like kareoke...but the more your in tune and the better your timing the higher score you get.....I've never sang sober in my life....I might be dead good.....But more realisticly i'm gonna sound like a dying cat...It should be fun anyway...

I dont have much confidence sober but i'm gonna give it a shot..

I'll pop in later....Love Macks:l

November 3rd, 2006, 01:03 PM
Hi everyone!

I love reading all your stories! It makes me smile everyday!

Kathy.........how funny! We changed my birth certifcate to get married! I was 17 and at that time you had to be 18! Went to all that trouble and then no one ever asked to see it!! Do you think I have a "pretend" marriage?:H
It IS legal though.............checked on that awhile back!;)
We did a marriage encounter week end years ago! We learned..........................................s ome things are better left unsaid!;)

I have to go grocery shopping! Be back later!
Love to all who come here....post or no!


November 3rd, 2006, 01:31 PM
I think thats great di on the weekend. And Nancy.....my ex and I did the marriage encounter thing too. I thought it was great! Maybe something I would be interested in doing before marriage next time tho.
Off to work now. Have a good weekend all. An AF one!

November 3rd, 2006, 01:32 PM

Thanks to everyone for the congrats....it is very much appreciated...and I got my red chip!

Macks--look at it this way....if you sing and it is bad at least you will know it is bad....instead of singing drunk, sounding horrible and thinking you are the next Elvis.....

Tracy--yep been down that road. What is the use, I am going to fail anyway. My misery was great enough that I just had to keep getting back up. Just keep getting back up no matter how many times it takes. Lets face it, if any of us were happy drinking none of us would be here. And if I fall again, I will get back up again..and again...and again.

Gina congrats on 30 days! Your days seem to add up faster than mine....guess its like everyone's pregnancy seemed to go faster than either of mine did.

I got my results today for the diabetes--I am fine. And to boot I have low BP and low cholesterol. Still, I have to start exercising regularly and eating better---I know I will just feel better overall. This minor scare has really motivated me.

Easy weekend for me. Nothing planned and loving it!

November 3rd, 2006, 05:57 PM
Checking in at 3 days and I remain determined to remain an Absville resident. As a new addition I feel a little out of the loop but I guess part of moving to a new town is getting to know everyone.

We have had the grandchildren for the last 2 days and now, without them, the house seems quiet. On the other hand it is nice to have the computer back. Should be a quiet weekend here - just the usual cleaning and catching up. Wishing all of you a successful and enjoyable weekend.

November 3rd, 2006, 06:05 PM

I have returned....im not to good..thought i was ok on my own but just got home from a wk in hosp...i feel shit, i love all you guys and i feel like i let you down...took tablets again..was really touch an go this time, i dunno how many times i can do this to the people who love and need me...what the fuck is wrong with me!!!
Sorry for such a dramatic return...i guess i thought id be ok...guess i was wrong...help!!


Lou Lou x x x x

November 3rd, 2006, 06:11 PM
Oh Lou. Hang in there. It's a rough battle.

Be well,


November 3rd, 2006, 06:20 PM
A huge hello to everyone..there are so many new comers since my last visits...you all sound lovely and i wish you sucess and happiness x x an to all my old pals..liz (please pm or call me..i miss you xx) macks..sweetie pie and cathy...iv finaly got the service i needed although it was through extreme measures!!! and Gabbs honey..hello, i missed you so much x x x

So much loves Lou-Lou x x x x x

November 3rd, 2006, 07:33 PM
Oh Lou, Hang in there!!!!It can be rough but you are oh SO worth it!!!Keep posting!!!!

Just a quick hello to you all!! Kathy your pretend birthday cracked me up.It reminds me that my own mother was never sure as to her real birth date as my grandmother gave birth at around midnight. So until I was 16 the birthday was Aug9 and then my mother declared her birthday was really Aug8 as it was daylight savings. OK not a big deal until I started a bank/credit card account where for security reasons you have to identify your account with your mother's birthdate. I always forget which date I originally used and when I enter the wrong date the machine shuts down or I get disconnected on the phone . That's after I've been on hold for 10 minutes!!!!Frustrating!!!

Got to get my son to a game. Have a nice Friday evening all

November 3rd, 2006, 07:55 PM
Hey Lou-Lou

Whatever you had to do to get the service you needed, you had to do, lovey! I'm sorry that you had to go through it. We're all here and still caring about you.:heart: Hang in there, sweetie!

I'm glad you all enjoyed the story about my mother and my "pretend" birthday. No real presents for the pretend birthday. Despite some of my complaints about her, my mother was, and is, and extraordinarily bright and creative woman and in some ways, way ahead of her time. The real birthday? December 3rd.:H

Poor Janet! I can relate! I actually found my pretend birth certificate a few years ago and called my mother to demand what was my "real" birthday!!

Kris, congrats on day 3. I'm happy to see you as a resident in Absville!

Nancy, good to see you. Your marriage sounds as real as can be! I'm glad that I'm not the only one who has a "pretend" birthday, though!

Macks, I'm sure you sound like Frank Sinatra, or Sting!

Dizzie Lizzie, that's a great name for you, love! I'm so happy you're here again, chixster!

I'm glad to hear that you're feeling better, Gina! Burn those buns!

Hi Gabbsters! Smooch!!!

And I saw a post from Phil, too! Hugs to you Phil!

I'm sure there must have been a post from Mike here, too someplace, so hi, Mike!

Anyway, I'm off to veg out. I came home from work and crashed on the couch and fell sound asleep. Now Maddy is out for the evening and my sister is doing her own vegging out. It's a nice, mellow
Friday night. It's really nice to feel so content.

Hugs to all!

Lizzie Mouse
November 3rd, 2006, 08:09 PM
Kathy - as always.....XXX

was going to write sychophantic words there, but you know what I think about you.:l

I am going to my bed now ( my Gosh it's before 4 am !!! )
So nighty night.

I am having my hair cut at 9 am so need to go to bed, and I think Lou is coming up to meet and greet some Rugger players tomorrow afternoon !!!!

Sorry Lou for telling tales !!!

Speak soon, and a peaceful night ( without fireworks) in Absville .

God Bless


November 3rd, 2006, 11:06 PM
Lizzie. you and Lou have a great time.!!!!
Normally I'm in bed early but my son is home for the weekend so I'm up waiting for him. Should go to bed but one eye will be open so why bother.
Enjoyed everone's posts and hope the weekend brings us back together happy,healthy and sober.


November 3rd, 2006, 11:13 PM
Hi...I checked and I cheated myself one day...I'm on day 7, not 6 !! yea
Busy day today for everyone. Thanks for the tv info dianne...I think I will have to taper down on it...maybe wait an hour after I get home in the evenings before I flick it on. It is hard because it kinda keeps me company too.

I took Zooey - one of my babies (kitty) to the vet this afternoon. I was a little worried about her because she has been sneezing and also because she has managed to lick all the fur off her lower belly :mad:

It was a mini trauma getting her in the carrier and then in the car ...but to my great relief she is ok. Doc gave her some kitty antihistimines and said she was just a little anxious thus the licking. But she is just fine.

Gina - thank you for saying that my working out was inspiring!! That helped me because I was soooooo
sore today!! I thought, ok, guess I can't quit if I'm inspiring! :H
Having a trainer has been great so far. One of the best things it that it keeps me on track - and gets me to the gym.

Lou- hang in there - you have so many people who care about you. Take care

I have to go to bed now - just wanted to check in and say hi.
Lets have a great Sat.
Goodnight to everyone - sleep well