90 Days AF for MM, Mya, Believe, livingfree and Wonderworld!!!

[livingfree]

90 Days AF for MM, Mya, Believe, livingfree and Wonderworld!!!

Whoop

Whew!! I love you guys!!!! What a ride this has been ! To all this awesome family at MWO and to the awesome Queen Bee RJ - I say Thank you a million times over. If someone would have bet me one dollar 6 months ago I would be AF 90 days I would have bet them a million NO. This is huge for me and not with out Sweat and Blood and your unconditional support! Love you guys!!!!!!!!!!!!!


To WW Believe Mya S8 Mm - you are champs - were in the race for 120 - here we go!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Liv

[Thankful]

90 Days AF for MM, Mya, Believe, livingfree and Wonderworld!!!

Noelle, hun....here we go....ready.....

1) MM (aka Meditation Mama)

2) Mya

3) Believe

With me so far, hun? You hanging in there? You doing ok? Let's continue then....

4) Livingfree

5) Wonderworld!!!!

Tada!!! All present and accounted for! Do you need a nap, sweetie? I didn't mean to tax you. You go take it easy now. You've had a tough evening. Sending you lots of love and hugs!

Love, Me
:l

Boy, am I gonna get my ass kicked in Sunday's Rumble or what! uchy: :boxer:
Love you, Noelle!

[LVT25]

90 Days AF for MM, Mya, Believe, livingfree and Wonderworld!!!

Congratulations to you all!!

:wow3:roud::wave:

[lushy]

90 Days AF for MM, Mya, Believe, livingfree and Wonderworld!!!

Can I interject on this thread (no, I am not being an attention whore, really) and ask what has worked for each of you? I think it would be so helpful to people who are needing a boost to hear.

Congratulations to all of you. You have my deepest admiration!!!

[wonderworld]

90 Days AF for MM, Mya, Believe, livingfree and Wonderworld!!!

Lushy I think this is a perfect time and place for that query. I want to really think about what was different for me this time and give as thorough an answer as I can.

Back in a bit !!!

WW xx

[Sunbeam]

90 Days AF for MM, Mya, Believe, livingfree and Wonderworld!!!

Hey, groupies! You are truly great. Such collective personal power. Watch out world!

[Cinders]

90 Days AF for MM, Mya, Believe, livingfree and Wonderworld!!!

Congrat to all 6!!

MM, Mya, Believe, Livingfree, Wonderworld, and SK8TRGRL,

90 days is HUGE!!!

It truly is. Magical chemical things are starting to happen for you that will make the next 90 days even easier.

I am happy for all of you and chasing like mad behind you.

Yes, I think all of you should post a bit on how you got to 90 days. What a wonderful group!! It is so heartening to hear of the successes because we have all had our share of falls and slips, too. Your success will feed on more for others.

:groupluv:

Love,
Cindi
XVIII

[wonderworld]

90 Days AF for MM, Mya, Believe, livingfree and Wonderworld!!!

Here's what I came up with-

I knew I wanted to be AF completely, so that’s how I approached things. After reading the MWO book, and getting familiar with the MWO approach, and this board, I started with the 30 day AF commitment. That was my first goal. I had several false starts over a couple months (some VERY upsetting), then drank at 29 days. By then, I was starting to feel so much better AF that I was pretty desperate to get back on track. I drank a few more times (of course), and then started this 90 days. And again started with the focus on 30 days AF . I just wanted to get that over with! And had to fight pretty hard, especially the dreaded days 3 and 4. By day 9, 10, 14, it’s gets a million times better for me (though not home-free!).So I felt pretty ready and motivated, and here’s what else helped


1) Supplements! (especially kudzu and glut for cravings,)

2) Making the commitment and buddying up MWO-style :l.

3) Getting all the alcohol out of the house and staying away from it all together as much as possible until I’m ready (I have had to be around it in a couple of work situations, but other than that, no). For me this included things like staying out of the beer aisle in the grocery store for about 2 weeks. Especially on a Friday, or if I was hungry and/or cranky:upset:.

4) Being gentle with myself. Forgiving myself.

5) Taking care of myself physically – getting rest, good food, lots of water.

6) As I was ‘ready’and in the mood – adding light exercise (I like to walk with music on my ipod)

7) Staying away from negative people, or people who would rather I stay warped, if you know what I mean. And if I have to be around them, not defending or explaining myself or trying to get their approval.

8) When I wanted to drink, I tried my best to come here first and scream for help. Whenever I did that, I didn’t drink.


I think the healthiest change that has occurred this time around (and since I’ve been on MWO in general) is my sense of myself as a ‘non-drinker’ rather than an alcoholic (even though I am an alcoholic! But it’s an old term with A LOT of baggage, including in my own family, so I don’t like it). I think of myself as having an allergy to alcohol, really. If eating sesame seeds had the effect on my life that AL does, I wouldn’t eat them, right? I also like that ‘non-drinker’ implies at least SOME choice! And that’s been a big shift too. AF feels a little less like a “have to” and a little more like a “want to” these days . That’s much more comfortable for me. I don’t like rules!

That’s all I can think of for now!

Love WW xx

[lushy]

90 Days AF for MM, Mya, Believe, livingfree and Wonderworld!!!

Awesome post WW! I really hope to hear more from others.

[mya]

90 Days AF for MM, Mya, Believe, livingfree and Wonderworld!!!

I also had a few false starts and then on Jan 6th I knew I needed to go AF or moderate I really didn't know. On Jan 7th I went to work after being on vacation for 2 weeks hungover as hell ( you would think I would have done it when I was on vacation) first few days were hell started taking vitamin B's like crazy and drinking alot of water until my topa came in 2 weeks later.

My DH also is not drinking which helps alot. I just recently started going to functions where there is alcohol and haven't been tempted.
But I did have to stay away for a while and alot of my friends thought that i didn't want to be around them because they were drinking I just needed take my time and now i see my friends all the time.


I have been off kuduz and topa for 3 weeks.
The only thing I take now is a multi vitamin, B-complex, calcium, flax seed and fish oil.
I get up every morning and work out and have so much energy now.

[meditation mama]

90 Days AF for MM, Mya, Believe, livingfree and Wonderworld!!!

I just love you guys... :h :upset: :goodjob:

I have a house full of little thespian girls and have a very full weekend of theatre volunteering, so I will get back here as soon as I can.

I am so proud of all of you and feel blessed to be in such inspiring, amazing and truly loving company. Thank you all for your support, I could never have done this without you - really!

RJ.. words cannot describe how much gratitude I have for you... Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Namaste, my dear friends.

MM

[livingfree]

90 Days AF for MM, Mya, Believe, livingfree and Wonderworld!!!

hummm

Lushy - Since I have been trying to quit drinking for over 15 years and have been a "problem" drinker for over 25 years I can honestly say I am "to early" to claim total success yet. But I do feel more "confident" and hopeful than I ever have in my life.
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Success #1 - Don't get overconfident with even one AF day. Everyday is a brand new Non drinking day
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I started lurking on MWO in December 07. I was to scared to even log on - as I have hidden this problem (like hiding in the wide open ! Hee Hee) for so long that I wasn't prepared to even admit to a stranger that I had a problem.

Success #2 - Admit you have a problem. By admitting it here - I gained strength to tell my husband what was REALLY going on with me. He knew - but didn't realize the full extent.
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I went AF January 1st - started taking the glut a week later - read the MWO book that week started the CD's by mid - January and waited to start taking TOPA until I was 6 weeks AF.
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Success #3 - Have a burning desire to quit. I needed to know for myself that I could do it without the med - I can't explain that .... it was just me. I started the topa mid Feb and took it for 7 weeks. I am now off topa 1 week - but still taking the other supplements.
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By late February I was still having thoughts of weather or not to moderate at some point; and about that time the "drama" broke out on this site. Being fairly new to this site I was first drawn to read out of being curious. Soon I found myself very depressed with all the the drinking and posting - and was considering leaving the site for my own health. I was finding myself feeling like AL was something that shadowed you forever and I couldn't shake the depressing feeling. At about that time Thankful read "my story" and posted for me to stop in at the 30 day thread (I was just over 30 days AF). As if God had dropped real life friends into my lap - I instantly connected with those on that thread that were abstaining successfully - and I found the support I needed to pop out of the depression.
Wonderworld, Thankful, Believe, Mya, KateH1, Med Mama were all encouraging each other in ways I really needed. Others who are choosing Non drinking as their motto have joined that thread - and I find it a safe haven when I need help.
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Success #4 - Find a group right here that you can team up with. You still will want to plug in everywhere - but a small group (even if it grows bigger in time) really makes it happen.
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After this there seemed to be a lot of crisis of drinking going on in the MWO site - and I found my self reading with a sense that if I even took that one drink - I may never find what I have found in becoming a non - drinker ........ The most amazing peace of mind I have ever known. I do not ever want to give up this amazing feeling of freedom. I don't take it lightly and want to guard it with my life.
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Success #5 - really evaluate what you WANT. I don't WANT to drink anymore. Moderating isn't even interesting to me at all. But I only came to that conclusion by reading other peoples stories of TRUTH. .......... which leads me to
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Success #6 - This web site is truly the main difference in why I have abstained. I've tried everything before. I haven't become a "subscriber" yet - because i thought ... I'm already spending to much time here - but now I know why I will ... to keep this site going for all who are here and come here in the future.
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Thanks Lushy for asking - I really hadn't been able to put it to pen until just now.
I really do LOVE YOU ALL

Living free (Liv)

[Roberta Jewell]

90 Days AF for MM, Mya, Believe, livingfree and Wonderworld!!!

Hi

Just a quick hello to tell you how thrilled I am for each of you. Thank you so very much for sharing your stories of success and your strategies for getting there. You've helped and inspired more people than you can imagine.

Wishing you all the very best.

RJ

[wonderworld]

90 Days AF for MM, Mya, Believe, livingfree and Wonderworld!!!

Why thank you Mizz Roberta. That makes it all the sweeter . I forget sometimes that we are not just talkng amongst ourselves.

I hope to hear from others too - I'm learning alot from reading these. I thought I knew everything about these people!

WW xox

[livingfree]

90 Days AF for MM, Mya, Believe, livingfree and Wonderworld!!!

Thank you RJ ! In more ways than one!! You are such an inspiration. :kudos:

Liv