Newbies Unite, June 08'

[rachel]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

what do people drink

what do people drink at night if they are not sucking on a glass of wine?

[Captnjack]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Cranberry Juice "splash" and lots of soda or mineral water all night and the last sip before bed a glass of water with a B vit.
works for me experiment
love cap

[rachel]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

thanks renewal for reminding me to keep positive in my quest to stop drinking--it has just been such an ingrained habitual pattern for so long

[rachel]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

thanks captnjack that sounds doable don't love anything too sweet

[Doggygirl]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Just wanted to pop in and say what a wonderful thread this is!!! WE CAN DO THIS!!!

I love Tawnys' brush your teeth tip!! I will remember that one!

My evening strategies are two fold:

I never ever have smoked or drank in our master bedroom. So that was my haven when I quit smoking cigarettes if the urges got overwhelming, and is my haven now in the evenings if the urge to drink gets strong. So if you have a place where you never drank, use it to help get booze off your mind.

Also, for me sweets and booze never went together. I've learned the hard way to avoid real sugar, and I do limit artificial sweets. BUT...for the evenings, I have a box of sugar free popscicles in the freezer. One of those helps fend off cravings - I just don't want vodka or wine after a popscicle.

Whatever works!!

DG
Celebrating 30 Hangover Free Days!
:award:

[JMT]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Morning (((HUGS))) to all! Well, Day 3 here we go, usually my day to slip, but I honestly don't see it happening. Then again we usually don't but I'm trying to be positive. Reality struck me though last night. I was doing laundry, putting it away (amazing what you can accomplish sober) and I found a few beer bottles and a wine bottle in several "hiding places." Am I the only person that has done that? The kind of funny thing about it, is where I stashed them was SO obvious! Hubby is use to it so he just throws them away as he finds them....sigh how embarassing is that?
Anyway, had a fairly good night outside of a headache and OH YEA, a tumble down the stairs..go ahead laugh, I did after the pain went away. I said to hubby, do you know how many times I've gone up and down the stairs drunk then, I go down sober for a COOKIE and bust my arse! I have a HUGE bruise on my right butt cheek, right arm, elbow and I"m sore as all get out, this getting old stuff is for the birds.
Having some problems sleeing though, also dreamt about having a drink at a party and was VERY upset at myself in the dream.
Oh what do I drink at night...hot tea. That detox tea I bought yesterday is great! The brushing your teeth idea, that is GREAT I will try that when the urge hits, because I know it's bound to happen sooner or later.
I hope you all had a good night, I'm keeping all my dear new friends in my thougths and prayers at night for the strength and will to beat this thing!! Well off to work out then get my munchkin up and take her to the Zoo before it gets to hot. Hope you all have a good Friday!

[LVT25]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

I just wanted to pop in here quick and tell all you newbies how proud I am!!

You have united for support and that is great!

i drink a lot of iced tea, club soda w/ lime, tomato juice, and diet pop now. Next I suppose I should work on my diet pop habit!

doggy--I really like your idea of a room to go to. I'm like you, never smoked in any room except the kitchen and basement luckily, so there are quite a few rooms I can go to. Coming up on 4 months Nicotine Free (except for a couple of slips) and this month I'm AF after trying to moderate at first.

Keep up the great work guys!!:h

[Tina Desparate]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hi All,

Sounds like everyone is so positive this morning. I am too!!! Today is Day 5 for me and I did great last night. Of course I spent too much at the grocery store, but my daughter was with me and now I know why I usually go alone . Usually I will get something to drink on Thursday nights because I think of it as the beginning of the weekend so I made it through the night. Tonight will be a challenge but I have already planned when we go out to eat to order unsweet tea or water with lemon. If I have a plan then maybe it will work. My hubby wanted to invite some friends to ride on the boat but she drinks and I had to say that I am trying not to drink. He was happy with that but I told him that I am trying so if I do slip up, then maybe he will not yell at me so much. Anyway my plan is not to slip up.

I will be checking in today. I look forward to reading these positing.

Tina

[whitemarshmom]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

I just cant seem to get my first AF day under my belt....the temptation wa too great last night, We are having a pool installed, and my husband and one of his buddies were drinking beer when i came home. and then a couple more people showed up with their kids, and I just wanted to have fun. My son was having a blast, I was rushing around trying to make burgers and dogs, and get the kids their dinner and I just didnt and usually dont have time to get online to chat. I dont get home til between 530 and 6pm Of course since there wasnt any wine (since I'm not buying anymore) I had Jack and Coke and some beers.. I just dont know how I can do this...I feel like i have no willpower and when i am drinking and smoking outside, and so is everyone else, it feels so normal and ok

[Tina Desparate]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Sorry, looks like I am replying to myself. I am so looking forward to waking up on Saturday morning and not having a hangover so I am going to keep that thought tonight and for the rest of the day. :H I will be able to enjoy the water and sun tomorrow without a headache.

[whitemarshmom]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

GREAT JOB TINA

You are doing great! and so is everyone else, I am envious that you all are able to get a handle on this so quickly

[Tina Desparate]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

I am sorry Whitemarsh. I do not have that problem. My hubby does not drink so it is easier for me. I just have drinking friends at the lake dock. At least you still feel that guilt and remorse the next day. That is a sign that you want to quit.

Just don't give up. Keep trying. Have you told your hubby you want to quit?

[JMT]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Tina good for you! I hope you enjoy your weekend!
Whitemarshmom, I know EXACTLY what you are saying, the craving is so difficult to deal with and when you get distracted it's just habit to fall back into it. You'll know when you are ready and say "enough" it may take some more time?
I'm suddenly having a BIG issue with myself all of a sudden this morning. I have our day planned but munchkin is still sleeping and I thought about last night. Hubby was/is VERY distant. Last weekend some really BAD things happened between him and I, things I'm uncomfortable with. Unfortunately I think his anger and frustration came out while we were being intimate and well, lets just say it was bad. Anyway, the last 3 days being sober he's come home and is just, I don't know is it him or me? Am I seeing him differently? He stayed downstairs last night with munchkin while I did laundry, read and watched T.V. he didn't even seem to care when I fell down the stairs.
Ugh, just talking about this makes me want to "numb" it all over again but I don't really want to do that.
Sorry this is so long, I just needed to get this off my chest.

[renewal]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Good morning all.....it's 6:30 a.m......which when you go to bed at 3:30 a.m., is waaay to early. Oh well...great posts yesterday and fantastic tips!
-Doggygirl & Don, great info and support from a couple people who have enjoyed much success....
-Cuddles, CONGRATS on day 2.....I have no doubts about your success today, day 3. We believe in you and are with you today. Now, let's work on your balance (ha) down the stairs.....
-Loewe, great day 1 for you!
-love the teeth brushing idea Tawnyfrog.....
-LVT25, appreciate your support and kind words too
-Rachel, hang in there girl....you can do this......Whitemarshmom, same with you. Hope your new day 1 was a great success....regardless, we're here for ya.
Have a wonderful day everybody!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Renewal

[Tina Desparate]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hi Cuddles,

I am sorry you are feeling down. I know how you feel. I get those same feelings with my hubby sometimes. But he is so sensitive. Our intimate life is always more relaxed when I am drinking. That is the only reason he likes me to drink.

My problem is I need to work on me and I have been a little selfish this week. That is ok though because when you are trying to fight an addiction, you deserve to be selfish for a while. I am not a selfish person and I always try to give and that is bothering me.

Just try to work on you for a while and if he really loves you, he will be there when you get better. I consider myself having these flu days like someone else mentioned in a posting and I know that I am getting better every day. It is still early for me and I am really worried about slipping this weekend, but I am going to try hard not to.

Hang in there girl!!!