Newbies Unite, June 08'

[renewal]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Happy Sunday friends....day 20 AF for me today.....a milestone of sorts I guess....last night was very tough to be honest. I learned my best friend from childhood attempted suicide a couple days ago...he did not succeed and is in the hospital. We were inseperable up till the early teen years, then went our different ways for almost 30 years. Saw him again a few years ago as he visited me in Arizona. Played some golf and got caught up on 30 years......still, while we haven't been in close contact for a long time, the news hit me hard....and tempted me to drink as a way to help cope.....I didn't drink....still tempted today...but won't drink today. .....thanks for listening to a personal note, and hope you all enjoy your weekend.
Renewal

[SunDaisy]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Welcome Seto and Juley,

I think you'll find this site so helpful. I've been with MWO for almost 4 weeks and although I haven't stopped drinking completely, I have cut my drinking WAY down. I used to drink every night (at least a bottle of wine or more). I am now ready for a good long stretch of no drinking now, starting today. We can all support eachother.

I have young children too (4 altogether) so I have good incentive.

Keep checking in daily so we can see how you're doing and I will post how I am doing (good or bad). Everyone is so helpful and supportive.

Happy Sunday,

SunDaisy

[me145]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

doing day one tomorrow, with antabuse. lets be in touch ,, im nervous.

[debruce]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Well done everyone, lots of positive stuff going on.
I had a good weekend, socialised till 2am on Sat night and not a drop. Had fun. Bit annoyed though, felt like I had a huge hangover yesterday, headache and the works.....not sure what is going on there.
Good luck everyone
:l

[jeanrenee]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Need help with posting

I am definitely a newbee, but can't figure out how to access individual threads. Help, because I really want to communicate with a section of folks on this web site, it must be too big otherwise. Advise and help is welcome. Thanks.

PS. Sober for the nite...............................

[SunDaisy]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hi jeanrenee,

I can try to help you....but I'm not sure what kind of trouble you're having. First you choose which Forum, then which section, then which thread. For example this thread here is:

Forum: Introduction and General Discussion
Section: General Discussion
Thread: Newbies Unite

One of the things that tripped me up was I wasn't alwasy sure which page of the thread I was on, they can go on for many pages, there is a page counter in the upper and lower right side of the window.

Send me a PM (private message) and I can try to help you further. To send me a PM click on my name, then highlight "send private message" then type me a note and I'll reply and try to help you.

Or, you can join the live chat and someone there will surely be able to help you!

Good luck!

SunDaisy

[SunDaisy]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Oh, and great on being sober for the night....ME TOO!

[WaitingToExhale]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Back Again

:upset: Hi all. I can't believe I am back here again, but oh so grateful you are here.

A year and a half ago, in the depth of depression over drinking and having it contribute to losing a relationship, I came here and wrote "my story". Ordered the book and CDs, starting taking all the supplements and tried moderation. Some days/months were better than others.

Than just a little under a year ago, a new love came into my life. The most amazing man I could ever imagine. For nine months we had this world wind romance of falling in love, traveling to exotic places, all of it. And any moderation I was doing went right out the window.

Long and short of it, because we had not moved in together, I could keep my dirty little secret of excess hidden from him. But drinking made me do and say some really stupid things, and it made me keep him "at bay", or as he referred to it I would "banish" him at times of trouble rather than look to him for help. Six weeks ago, after I did it again, he walked out for good.

There was never any discussion of my drinking, but I know in my heart it would not have happened if I had been sober. I am just sick over losing him. And in the process of the pain, have managed to lose most of the past 6 weeks in bottles of wine.

I live alone and have no kids to care for. I've managed to put my business on auto-pilot because we were to spend all of August in Italy. I have a weekly housekeeper and gardener, so don't even have those responsibilities. I've have nothing but time and wine.

I'm done. I have to be done and I need all the help I can get here please. I've realized I can't moderate, at least not now and perhaps ever.

I want to make tomorrow Day One of AF. I'm terrified. I have been going to a therapist just to get over this break up, but have been honest with him about my drinking. He suggested a limit of 2 glasses per day. I couldn't do it. So of coarse he says "Stop".

I am already in severe cravings after drinking a few glasses this afternoon, but then tossing everything out. It was not uncommon to drink 2 bottles of wine a day, everyday . Juice in hand, and once again determined, can I hang with you others that are fighting the battle of giving this up for good?

[SunDaisy]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

WTE,

Welcome....I'm so sorry to hear how much pain you are in. And without a doubt you can "hang" with us! Since you've already been here and you have many of the tools you need you're one step ahead of where many people are when they first find MWO. But you sound like you definitely need the support of some people who have been and are where you are. We are here for you.

Keep posting and chatting and checking in EVERY day. Use your tools. Read your book again and get rid of your AL!

This Newbies Unite thread has helped me quite a bit.

Hang in there, we're here for you....

SunDaisy

[renewal]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Welcome waiting to exhale......and absolutely, you can be with us. As sundaisy mentioned, try to check in every day!! Plenty of wisdom can be found, plus, it's time to hold yourself accountable to a group of people who understand where you are at. You won't be judged, just understood......you gotta start somewhere, so let's get through day 1 together. Sounds like you have plenty in life, but an emptiness in a couple areas that mean most. We're here to help....fell free to private message me should you wish to share more. All the best,
Renewal

[WaitingToExhale]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Thanks renewal -

I'll post in the July thread since I realized I somehow lost a month. Awful ...

[renewal]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

No no no.......WT exhale, I hope you'll stay on this thread....of course feel free to post there if you like, but 'all of us' are on this thread.....don't let the fact it says 'June' worry you......that's just when some of us started....this thread is for all newbies...
Renewal

[Seacailin]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

So sorry about your friend Renewal

But Congrats! to you. I would always find some excuse to drink, but can you imagine? It never brought my dead loved ones back or fixed my marriage. Hang in there. You are doing Great. I am on day 3, starting to feel better. Hoping I can get the courage to attend an AA meeting this evening. I will be checking in tonight.:l

[SunDaisy]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

I'm won't drink today. Nope.

[LookingToGrow]

Newbies Unite, June 08'

Hi everyone! I have tried another way to stop drinking and it did not work for very long. I want to make tomorrow my day 1 AF with y'all. What can I do today to prepare? Thank you for being here. Have a blessed day!