Sobriety and Loneliness..

[Skinned Knees]

Sobriety and Loneliness..

I, too, am single,but not looking right now. Never met anyone decent in bar nor from internet dating sites. I'm done with both. I live in an apt complex, and found it's pretty easy to meet singles here. If I see someone who constantly walks their dog, I go up and talk about the dog, then introduce myself. It's a great way to start a conversation. Also, when out and about running errands like grocery shopping, I'll say hello to the clerks and workers there. It's a great way to make new friends, and who knows, what may happen?

SK

[fairdinkum]

Sobriety and Loneliness..

yeah loneliness is a tough one I have been sober for a lot longer than I drank now and am amazed at how many lonely people there are, as already suggested volunteering is a great way to meet genuine people who hopefully have similar interests to you, I have volunteered in the local ambulance service and the bush fire brigade and am always meeting good single people with good intentions, but not much good to me since I've been married 13 years come 13th of january lol. I also learned that I'm no good in a relationship till I'm alright between my ears I need to have a good relationship with myself first and a higher power cause my drinking days really made a mess of those things, be good to yourself volunteer because you want to help and good things will happen.
happy new year

[UKSean]

Sobriety and Loneliness..

Thanks,

To everybody for all the great advice.....So what am I going to do?

1st, I'm going to start by having a more positive outlook on life.
2nd, I'm going to start volunteering more.
3rd, I'm going to sign up for thr gym.
and 4th While I am not trying to hard I'm going to say hello to the store clerks and all others I come in contact with.
Once again thank you so much. You people are AWESOME.
Happy New Year everybody,
Sean...

[startingover]

Sobriety and Loneliness..

Sean, I am going to pinch your ideas 1,2, and 4...a very happy new year to you! Its great to have you here..

[A Work in Progress]

Sobriety and Loneliness..

This is a lovely thread. I just read it all the way through. Common themes, each of which struck chords with me, were: the isolation that goes along with alcoholism; how hard (and how important) it is to get out of that pattern; and something I heard somewhere: "If you do interesting things, you will meet interesting people."

Oh yes, also the one about meeting people in bars: if I ever again have the misfortune of meeting someone who seems "interesting and attractive" in a bar, I hope to high heaven that I will have sense enough to run SCREAMING away. Ha! That one has cost me dearly!! Not likely to happen again, though, I have NO interest in going to bars to meet people...

OK, onward, to do interesting things in 2009! Takes a lot of work to break out of ruts... but I am determined to do it....

Thanks for the nice thread, Sean!

[Sunbeam]

Sobriety and Loneliness..

My husband and I met in community theater. They can use all kinds of people behind scenes: building sets, costumes, sound/lights, props. It is a different kind of volunteer work, usually a very social group. BTW, I was a nun in the Sound of Music when we met! It is a great "how we met" line, especially when I deliberately leave off the Sound of Music part of that line.

[Rags2riches]

Sobriety and Loneliness..

I am so comforted by this post as I thought I was the only lonely alcoholic. After all, to hide my drinking problem, I drank when I was alone and that means that I was alone ALOT (usually at night after I put my children to bed). I am a single mom, which complicates matters a little bit (my girls are 4 and 5) as not alot of time for volunteering, etc. I am counting on the fact that I will bump into the right person while either on the way to school, work or the grocery store!!

[UKSean]

Sobriety and Loneliness..

LOL

That is a great story. (would be even funnier if HE were playing the nun)
My Sister in Belgium suggested the same thing about a local theatre group. If one person suggests something, listen carefully, If two people suggest the same thing, Consider it, If three people suggest it, DO IT.
The thought of the day I will be incorporating in my actions today. It takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile, so smile more
Sean...