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[drylifeahead]

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Hi ladies,

Tonight was very tough. Broke up with Boy/f. A long time coming but extremely painful nonetheless. I'll stay strong.

I won't be online until my internet is hooked up at new place..so see you then. Will miss you all!!

Be good, DLA :l:l

[ladyjan]

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hI DLA, hope I haven't missed you & hope you're not offline for too long, sorry about the break, sometimes it is for the best, no use staying in one if you're not happy, chin up, good luck & come back soon,
LJ:l:l:l

[tawnywitch]

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hi there , sorry to hear that, but sometimes you just have to move on, I managed to be AF last night after my horrible hospital scare on Thursday, will be tonight too,I have to do it this time, stay strong girl's love and hug's Tawnywitch.

[rubywillow]

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Hi, Girls. Missed everyone yesterday, but I'm working on a new phase of my new me: clearing out the clutter in my house. We live in a big old antebellum house, 13 rooms plus baths and porches, and over the last almost 30 years we have become packrats. I'm ready to downsize and enjoy myself, not take care of this white elephant and all the outbuildings and acres of grass, plus my in-laws cottage in the back. This was a great place in the country to raise my children, but now it's life consuming. Plus we own 13 other houses, (tenant, vacation, family) some of which I've been begging Hubs to sell since before the crash. You know that old saying 'Be careful what you wish for'? It's SO true. This may sound like something I shouldn't be complaining about, and I'm not in the sense that I know I'm lucky, but a lot I have came the hard way, through an inheritance when I lost my parents, and through a lifetime of hard work by Hubs and me. Plus, there is CONSTANT upkeep, not to mention taxes, insurance, tenant problems, etc. It never stops. We just had a young couple we had helped many times move out of Hub's childhood home 3 months in arrears after they had trashed the house. Anyway, I guess I'm saying when you look at someone else's life and feel jealousy, stop a moment and realize there are problems no matter where you are. That's why I HATE these 'reality' shows that show such a distorted view of life to our teenage girls, especially. OK, my rant for the day. Todays Ruby factoid: My Daddy was a house-mover, and between he and Hub's (my first real boyfriend at 16) they taught me to drive in a straight shift 5-on-the-floor.

[dancelot]

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Hi ya'll!

DLA - Hang in there, stay strong, we're thinking of you and hope to see you back real soon. I'm sending lots of positive vibes your way. :h

Tawny - Stay close. I spent many a night here in my first days. Keep doing it minute by minute even. That worked better than thinking in terms of days. I never count my days until until they are over, even now. That and keep whatever wake up call you had front and center in your mind, especially when the demon raises it's ugly little head. Stay strong, and much, much love and positive vibes to you too. :h

Ruby, I live in a little that house that was moved here. That's why I'm living in a what looks like a little country house in the middle of a sprawling metropolis. I was always fascinated by houses creeping along on trailers - there was a place I used to drive by where they set them down during daylight hours. The best one though was a vacant corner lot I used to pass on the way home from work. One day, a huge 3 story house appeared. I had no idea they could move one that big. I was always amazed. I heard a story of one being moved, and the cat didn't even wake up. This one had all the furniture and everything still in it. I always like driving in the country and seeing those places where these little houses are for sale. I swear I saw my house's twin one time.

[drylifeahead]

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Thanks TW, LJ and dancelot...

With him almost 8 years...he put up with sooo much of my crap. I feel sick. I am sorry..but just have to get this out.
I am not strong enough to handle a long distance romance. Long distance the last 6 months or so..

We should have a relationship forum on this site so as not to hi - jack a thread.
Thanks for putting up with me...at roomies tonight...hope to see you soon..
DLA

[rubywillow]

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Dry, it's not a hijack, it's what is happening in your life. Tell us about it, get it all out. That's what we're supposed to be here for, right? :hug:

[irish eyes]

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Hi Ladies,just found this thread and dropping in to say hello. I dont know what to say u all seem to have loads of children and grandchildren u can love and bitch aboutI dont have any children just me and and a very nice good man who shares my life 50% of the time.The other 50% is purely mine By the way, I dont like the title 'Men no pause here' it conjures an image of disempowerment or something akin to it for me!(why bring a man into it?) I think 'me no pause' would work better for me. That is my rant over for the day, hope I havent offended anyone

[ladyjan]

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irish eyes;770668 wrote: Hi Ladies,just found this thread and dropping in to say hello. I dont know what to say u all seem to have loads of children and grandchildren u can love and bitch aboutI dont have any children just me and and a very nice good man who shares my life 50% of the time.The other 50% is purely mine By the way, I dont like the title 'Men no pause here' it conjures an image of disempowerment or something akin to it for me!(why bring a man into it?) I think 'me no pause' would work better for me. That is my rant over for the day, hope I havent offended anyone

Hiya Irish..
dunno if you got the funny meaning of it or not ????? wasn't meant to"disempower" or be of any insult to men, just a play with the words as most of us gals in this thread are menopauseal age and really just want it to be girls together to say things that really only females can understand and relate to.
males of this world seem to have the painless side of lifes various stages of growing....

you hear them moan of "how would you like to shave every day" or "how would you like to have to wear a shirt & tie every day" ...!! for sure there are many morethey moan about...!

But can't be anything like us gals have to endure...

At first the messy business of first periods, at first we think whoopee..I'm a woman now..!!

Then get to learn the of inconvieniance with towels or tampax, plus the cramps, pain & moods each month..!

By now we are starting to shave underarms, legs & maybe bikinni line with cuts & scraps from razors or machines that pluck hair by hair... ouch..! or hot wax or smelly cream and once started cannot be stopped without thick regrowth...!

Then we have the loss of our virginity, even that can be painful..!

And why is it for many times we get left in the wet patch of the bed ..!!

Falling pregnant (for as much as we dearly wish to be) our bodies get stretched out of recognisable shape, back pain, swollen legs, breasts itch, feet hurt, (some of us maybe lucky to get a foot rub..!) then hormones going nuts..

THEN the birth........I would love to hear from just one woman who could honestly say it didn't hurt..!! mine did.. I don't think there is a swear word left that I didn't use during my labour and the f'ing Gyno saying "you're doing good it doesn't hurt, don't push just wait till I tell you..! how the hell can he tell me it doesn't hurt ??????????

But then we have our beautiful babe, yes it is worth it, but it does bloody hurt...!

Then as life should be getting kinder to us, as things are not as easy to do as when we were young...
BANG ..!
MENOPAUSE... !
some have it very easy, but for the majority of us it is a very strange time, we can feel like aliens our bodies doing such stange things, sweats, chills, moods, hair loss, hair growth where there shouldn't be, bloatedness, heavy periods sometimes lasting weeks lumps of blood like liver, which can be quite frightening if you didn't know that was part of the norm.
The whole process can last for several years..it can even come back after 5 years.. thats what my doc told me recently when I went to here with hot sweats etc, I told her I had gone thru the menopause 3years ago..

She said all matter of a factly.."No it can last about five years and symtoms can show up some years later, nothing to worry about.." !

Thats why it's realy a place for us gals to chat, rant, sympathize, commiserise, without the fellas putting their twopennyworth in !!!!!
LJ:l:h:l

[dancelot]

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Good afternoon, my little Menoprincesses!

DLA - I agree with Ruby. This is a place to talk, vent, discuss whatever. Regarding relationships and breakups - I believe we are coming from a different perspective in our age group (compared to a twenty or even thirty something). So I think it's entirely appropriate.

Irish - I don't have children, grandchildren, or any man at all (other than the one taking up space in my house, but that covers half the rent and bills, so not a total loss :H), so don't feel left out! I take the name as a humorous play on words, and mild compared to some of the suggestions we came up with. :H And no offense taken by me.

LadyJan - You are right on! Don't get me started on the waxing BS! Yeah, putting hot wax WHERE??? Back in the Victorian era ladies used to rub arsenic on their skin to get that fashionable pale skin. What is wrong with these young chicks? Who comes up with this shit? Who's fucking stupid enough to believe it?
I have a theory - when we are younger, it's a hormone or instinct thing to do whatever we need to get and keep a man, to keep the species going. Then as we get older, the hormones change, and we go "What the fuck?" At least I did! :H

Also, for the record, I don't dislike men. Just the older I get, the less tolerance I have for flat out stupidity (male or female). Bitchy, bitchy, bitchy! Ooh, I sound downright menopausal today, don't I? Well, that's my rant of the day! All in good fun! :h

[RejuvenateBodyMindandSpirit]

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Tipplerette;768419 wrote: I want to stop every morning and every evening around 4pm I want to drink... badly.

I totally identify with that...
I found MWO about a month & half ago...still doing pretty well. Stopped the tapes about two weeks ago though. Mr Rejuve & I went AF for the first 2 weeks & started Modding two into our 1st month & did really well. Still doing pretty well... I think he's doing better than I...but the last several day I find I'm not sticking to " my plan " quite as well as I'd hoped. I now plan on going back to the tapes for awhile! out:

My resolve is perfect every morning as always .... but the pattern above I recognize as the "booze brain"

I found an article I posted in mid November I think it's still out in the monthly abstinence toolbox section. or you can find it at this website.

How to Quit Drinking without Alcoholics Anonymous - [pre]http://www.wikihow.com/Quit-Drinking-without-Alcoholics-Anonymous[/pre]


a couple of excerpts:
"If you don't understand how the booze brain works, it can easily trick the human brain (you) into drinking. ....You can outsmart your booze brain by learning to think of it as something other than yourself. ...."

& Then tell it to shut up.

" Technically, the "human brain" is called the "neocortex," and the animal brain (booze brain) is called the "midbrain." The neocortex is a complex, conscious section of the brain. It is the part of the brain that gives you a sense of individuality - a sense of "being you."

rejuve

[rubywillow]

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Good morning, girls! Just a fly-by for now - will check back later.

[PhoenixRising]

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Hi everyone!

How are the menoprincesses today?

I am going out to dinner with a coworker tonite. I will limit myself to ONE glass of vino!

[dancelot]

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Good afternoon, everyone!

Rejuvenate - That's interesting. I did that too, and on reflection, the only reason I did stop was I decided to in the late afternoon/early evening. I did the "today I'll stop" lots of mornings, but by afternoon when the hangover cleared, I was right back to drinking. This is why I never count my AF days until they're over - there's no such thing as even Day 1 until it's done. I can't tell you how that applies to modding, since I never could do that long term.

Interesting looking link - I'll check it out - knowledge is power in my opinion, whatever your plan.

[RejuvenateBodyMindandSpirit]

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PhoenixRising;771392 wrote: Hi everyone!

How are the menoproncesses today?

I am going out to dinner with a coworker tonite. I will limit myself to ONE glass of vino!

Good to have a plan! :goodjob:

Let us know how it goes. :l

Rejuve