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    Alcoholic Parents Just a Question?

    Who grew up with alcoholic parents? I was just wondering because I did. My father was but has been sober now 35 years! And both his parents were Alcoholics. My mothers side was normal although my mother did drink a huge amount when she was younger, not so much now. Just wondering?

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    Alcoholic Parents Just a Question?

    My parents were heavy social drinkers and you could be guaranteed a party in my home quite regular,
    It was only in later years that I seen how it has effected my siblings and me,all my siblings are heavy drinkers now as are close family relations.Maybe it had to do with the social era of 1970s Ireland ?.

    Dont have to much hope for the young people now either,alcohol is everywhere, ;-)


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      Alcoholic Parents Just a Question?

      Hi Mia,
      My father is an alcoholic and stopped drinking for 21 years then broke his sobriety 10 years ago. Now he is 7 months AF again. His side of the family is riddled with alcoholics. My mother is a normal drinker who can't imagine more then a glass or 2 (barely can get through the second glass with out saying her head is spinning)... Her side of the family does not have issues with AL but have most have married alcoholics. As far as my sister goes she takes after my mother and I well... I'm an alcoholic like my father. As I was growing up he never drank and there wasn't much alcohol in our house. I think we had a full bar for when guests were over but most of the bottles had dust on them. Soooooo, this leads me to believe my problem is a physical addiction and not learned behavior.

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        Alcoholic Parents Just a Question?

        I found this
        Alcoholism is influenced by both hereditary and environmental factors. Addictions, particularly addictions to alcohol tend to run in families and it is known that genes play a role in that process. Research has shown in recent years that people who have/had alcoholic parents are more likely to develop the same disorder themselves. Interestingly, men have a greater propensity towards alcoholism in this circumstance than women.

        People with lowered inhibitions are at an even greater risk for becoming alcoholics. The two main characteristics for becoming addicted to alcohol stem from having an immediate family member who is an alcoholic and having a high-risk personality. A person with a high-risk personality is one where he or she has lower inhibitions and thrives on taking risks in most all situations. If a person comes from a family with one or more alcoholics and likes to take risks, they should recognized that they are at what is considered high risk for becoming an alcoholic.

        Food for thought.


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          Alcoholic Parents Just a Question?

          Yep. My dad died from alcoholism (liver stuff) when he was only 40 yrs old. Mum was eventually the breadwinner, and not an alky. Such a young man.

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            Alcoholic Parents Just a Question?

            x-posted Mario. Yep, that is valid info.

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              Alcoholic Parents Just a Question?

              Mario, as guitarista said great info. I read all your posts Mario so full of information.
              Hi Choice just goes to show all of us that we must be conscience all the time do not let our guard down. Thank god your dad stopped drinking again good on him!

              Good to see you are still here Guitarista. Yep I had one of my best friends die from AL She was only 40.

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                Alcoholic Parents Just a Question?

                Mia;1128619 wrote: Mario, as guitarista said great info. I read all your posts Mario so full of information.
                Hi Choice just goes to show all of us that we must be conscience all the time do not let our guard down. Thank god your dad stopped drinking again good on him!

                Good to see you are still here Guitarista. Yep I had one of my best friends die from AL She was only 40.
                Hiya Mia,

                I'm sorry to hear of your friend. It is so young, and not uncommon. Good to see you too. How are you going?

                'I am part of all that I have met, yet all experience is an arch wherethro', gleams that untravelled world whose margins fade, forever and forever when I move'

                Zen soul Warrior. Freedom today-

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                  Alcoholic Parents Just a Question?

                  I'm going great Guitarista! Day 16 for me AF tomorrow. I know I have been on this site 3 years now but this is it. No more! Something just hit me 2 weeks ago. I was sick of fighting with the bottle, so tired etc etc. But I have picked up my sword and fought back and I am winning this time round!! xxx

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                    Alcoholic Parents Just a Question?

                    Alright!

                    Congratulations on day 16 Mia. You go for it. Sobriety is so worth it. Be patient, and hang in there.

                    If you ever get stuck, p.m. me if that's any good.

                    Go for it!

                    'I am part of all that I have met, yet all experience is an arch wherethro', gleams that untravelled world whose margins fade, forever and forever when I move'

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                      Alcoholic Parents Just a Question?

                      Oh thank you Guitarista! Going to bed now sober and happy! Have great weekend Guitarista! xxx

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                        Alcoholic Parents Just a Question?

                        Mia;1128649 wrote: Oh thank you Guitarista! Going to bed now sober and happy! Have great weekend Guitarista! xxx
                        Mia,

                        Just stick with it. You are a star you know! But as long as you are doing this for you. For me, i had to be ruthless with my sobriety, and make it the first and most important thing. Even before family.

                        Do what ever you have to do.

                        Best wishes, Greg.

                        'I am part of all that I have met, yet all experience is an arch wherethro', gleams that untravelled world whose margins fade, forever and forever when I move'

                        Zen soul Warrior. Freedom today-

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                          Alcoholic Parents Just a Question?

                          Great posts from such informed, helpful people. I've lost 4 friends, family, in the last year, and all was related to, stemmed from, AL. Though I'm at an age where my older family is passing more frequently, they were more careful, more prudent when it came to AL. Unfortunately, my generation has suffered greatly from it's effects, and I am an example of that. My father 'secretly' drank for years, until his health forced him to quit, and the last 15 years of his life, sober, were the best. Momma almost never touched anything related to AL. But I lost them both at 68 and 69.
                          One of my oldest friends died a few months ago from liver failure. Her family wouldn't talk about her 'problem'. Last month I went to the memorial for a friend who, after a drunk-driving accident in 1985, became a quadraplegic. And, of course, there was our dear friend, Mary Anne, who could never resolve her battle with her demons.
                          If we truly read and understand the studies about this disease/condition, we will see what our risks are. For most of us, it's like shutting the barn door after the cows are out. We've already passed the point of no return in our drinking, and the only option is to not drink again. So WHY is that such a hard thing? If you were told you couldn't eat hot dogs, because of the reaction, would you continue to eat them? There are mental and physical reactions, withdrawals, we have to deal with. So lets do it, friends.
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                            Alcoholic Parents Just a Question?

                            Great Thread....
                            My dad was a heavy drinker, drank everyday worked for Trumans brewery. Once my sister told me he went to the doctors about his high blood pressure the doctor ask him how much does he drink every day. The doctor was shocked and said that not normal drinking. I think he relied on AL after his breakdown and never recovered from it. My mum she worked for a brewery but love a drop of port or sherry now and again, but her brother was alcoholic died at the age of 50, in a carvan, was not find until two weeks later on his own. My brother has a big problem with AL always gets in trouble but is doing alright now. My other brother had problems with mental health issues , has passed away. It funny both my parents were smokers my sis and bro's were smokers, i was the only one that was not a smoker in my family.
                            Well done on 16days af keep up the good work mia. x
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                            my desire to avoid hitting bottom again was more powerful then my desire to drink !

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                              Alcoholic Parents Just a Question?

                              My dad is and alcoholic and a smoker as were several of his siblings. My mother never touches the stuff. Me and my sister both smoke, her more than me, and both drink, me way more than her.
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