February Free

[bird]

February Free

xpost sun as usual

[mama bear]

February Free

Birdy - boredom is a bug trigger for a lot of people. I remember someone here said they clened their house from top to bottom when they first went AF.
Bordeom and stress do it for me.
Everyone sounds good, Thanks for making me think of my buddy Bud Light in a different way. Ya'll are right, and if...no wait, no if, but WHEN i have more AF time under my belt, I know I won't romanticize it.
Fleas?? Ewwww. Bird knows how to kill fleas!!!

[GingerDust]

February Free

Caper, your story made me giggle at your husband, but it?s neat that he is supporting you.

Sun, it?s great that your husband quit with you! But shame on him for making you miss a doctor appointment.

I went out to warm up the car early yesterday and there was a bottle of wine on the seat. A friend of my husband?s fancies himself a fine winemaker, and since he learned that I love wine, he feels compelled to share his creations with us. That?s sweet, but he makes the most horrid dreck! :eeew: He adds sugar, it?s really watery and it turns out to taste like some lightly poisoned, grape-based Koolaid. He?s put a lot of effort into making his own attractive labels for the bottles, and this one said ?White Merlot.? It was a completely white wine, and if it was made from Merlot grapes, it should have had some pink in it. I guessed that he must have taken gross liberties with his white grapes and decided to call it Merlot. :yukko:

When I came back in the house after starting the car, my husband seemed embarrassed, like he had been trying to hide the wine from me, and explained that it was another gift from our friend. He need not have bothered. Even if I wasn?t on antabuse, I wouldn?t have started a binge with that treacherous abuse of grapes. That wine is it?s own deterrent!

Anyway, the executions of our SO?s plans may be lame, but it?s pretty precious of them to try to help in their own flawed ways.

UW, super congrats on three months. I am watching your posts and love your energy.

Bird, I hear you on feeling suddenly hit with old griefs from the past. That happened to me this morning too! It was like, ?WTF? I?m sober and feel great not being hung over. Life is pretty good, overall. I?m here peacefully making coffee and almost start crying over somebody who died a few years ago!? It surprised me that those feelings just came out of the blue. People say that time heals all wounds but I wonder if that?s really true. I?ve almost come to the conclusion that there is some pain that?s never completely heals. The only thing I can think to do is befriend the pain instead of fighting it or trying to escape it. I guess that sounds kind of Buddhist but for me it?s a matter of practicality. It?s the only sane choice I can think of, but I don?t know exactly how to do it! Hang in there, bird. :l

I also ditto MB, I think I?d almost rather be in pain than be bored and stressed.

I guess this is part 2 of getting sober. Part one is the quitting and now it's figuring out how to do life without booze. We'll all find a way.

I hope everyone can find a way to have an interesting, happy sober Sunday.

[Unwasted]

February Free

Good Morning Febbers,

Just checking in and saying Yay, I made it 90 days - three months!

I guess that sounds kind of Buddhist but for me
Ginger, I think so much of Buddhism makes sense - I credit it with helping me stop drinking. Just changed my perspective. It's very hard to explain, but it really struck a chord with me.

MY LIFE, hope you're still with us and just not posting? I know you're waiting for your Antabuse.

By the way, someone posted on the meds thread (from another country). They were put on Antabuse, and part of what the medical people did was make him take a very small amount of alcohol so he could understand what it would do to them if they drank. Here is the quote --
i did an implant is serbia(belgrade)for alhocol.and the last day they give you to taste a little bit of drink.it was horible.i stoped brithing and i could not move.living hell..the point of that is to show what will happen to you if you continiun to drin..i think i did that outside of hospital i would 100 % die!

good to know just how powerful it is!

Sounds like everyone here is doing well........keep it going.

Take care everyone!

[NoraC]

February Free

Good morning all.....really interesting posts this morning. Sounds like me. What to do now? Remembering things....etc. Guess this is called real life, huh?

Ginger & Caper - I have read warning about too much caffeine with antabuse. I have never had a problem but I wanted to let you know. I have the same problem with caffeine when I stop drinking & start antabuse but I am making a conscious effort this time to force myself to throw in some water or other non-caffeinated drinks. I tried to find what I had read but, of course, can't find it right now. I don't think it was major but it increased the effect of caffeine, etc. I'm still drinking my Diet Cokes though.

UW - So happy for you. You sound wonderful!!:goodjob:

Have a great day everyone.

[mama bear]

February Free

yep....don't play with antabuse....
it's no fun.......can't catch your breath and heart races and rash all over.....

[mama bear]

February Free

xpost Nora
kisses

[sunshinedaisies]

February Free

UW - I think that is an awesome idea, under strictly medical settings, to give them a tiny bit of AL to show them what it will do - what a great idea. !!

[scottish lass]

February Free

Nora, UW and everyone else, still around, reading lots but not posting...just checking in to say thanks for the care and concerns, too much going on, too tired....will get there, I know I will.
Will read often and lots, will not be posting much, but am ok....thanks all, your support means everything...

[Unwasted]

February Free

SL - big hug. Glad you're still reading. We miss you but know you have to do this on your own terms. :lilheart: Sun, I agree - I think it's brilliant! Sounds like even that small amount was pretty traumatic!

[NoraC]

February Free

Scottish Lass - So happy to hear from you. You have been in my thoughts. This is not an easy journey. But, please know we are here for you. :l
I understand you wanting to just read & not post. But, I do just want to tell you one thing......I distanced myself from this group for several months. I felt so lost - alone in this struggle. But, once I came back here again, it felt like coming home. I am not over this battle by any means but it sure helps having people that really understand by my side. :h

[WineWrangler]

February Free

Hi everyone, unwastwd congratulations on 90 days, thats my first goal also. GD thats a lot to think about "how to do life without booze?". The quitting this time has not been as difficult as times past. I'v been fishing, taking photos, signed up for a photoshop course, reading, eating well and taking vitamins, and now I need to start getting some exercise on a regular basis. Springs around the corner and thats my favorite time of year. UW in days I'm half way behind you, not really counting just want a normal life.
Take Care Everyone

[bird]

February Free

Hi all
Ugh Nora I do diet pepsi. Have tried to get off it several times and is harder than al I think!!.....UW that is wonderful 90 days, way to go.,,,,Ginger that wine sounds awful....had a rough day yest. Didnt want to drink but didnt know what I wanted either. Ended up going to the Y and making soup later...almost glad it is Monday since I am very busy during the week...later

[Unwasted]

February Free

Good Morning February Friends,

I have to say, I feel like I went to a party yesterday with the celebration of my 90 days. Thanks everyone for the accolades.........I feel very proud. Really, I feel better about this accomplishment that anything I can think of.....sounds hyperbolic, but it isn't. I would never have dreamed how hard giving up alcohol could be. But, I've definitely turned a corner and am feeling confident that I can keep it going! Onward to triple digits!

WW, you sound like you're doing all the right stuff, but yeah, exercise should be at the top of all our lists. I don't think a day goes by that I don't see an article about its importance. I try to walk or jog but it takes some doing especially where I live in the winter. We don't have snow, but the weather isn't "inviting" like it is in the summer and spring. I think you're in CA, though, so you have great weather!

Nora, I didn't realize you had left MWO and then come back. Isn't it amazing how much reading and posting here helps? I think it has to do with acountability and knowing other people understand our plight!

To everyone else visiting the thread today, wishing us all a super AF day!

[GingerDust]

February Free

SL, I understand just wanting to be quiet and read. I did it for months before I started posting. I hope you join us before very long though. This is an awesome group of people to chat with, so if you need an ear, please don't be shy about posting.

WW, it's good to hear that you're having an easier time this time around. I'm with you on getting some kind of exercise regime going too. I've thought about joining a club. When I go I love it, but I'm afraid what will happen is what has always happened before. I'll sign the contract, pay out all that money, and then not use it.

Nora, I looked up what you said about antabuse and it was spot on. It can intensify the effects of caffeine. I'm going to cut back on the coffee and tea because of that and to try to sooth my always unhappy, fat stomach. It's crankiness is not due to antabuse. It's just very tempermental lately.

Bird, I hope you have a great week. Busy is good.

I hope everyone has a good monday.