Army Thread FRIDAY 29th June

[pingu1997]

Army Thread FRIDAY 29th June

oney I think that's prob true for a lot of people who have abstained completely

I listened to you when you said modding would not work

And I am much happier now with a totally AF life

The way I see it is if people want to try to mod then that's their decision, it wasn't mine or yours or anyone else's, we can put in our tuppence but at the end of the day it's their journey and their issues really

At least we are happy with the path we have chosen

off to work now, love P3 x

[anon]

Army Thread FRIDAY 29th June

one2many;1342802 wrote: Good Morning Folks,

I have been having a little think to meself the past couple of weeks. I know I have been here less as I have been promoting my new page over on Facebook but I have been trying to keep my nose clean on here too.

I feel like I have been flying the AF flag too much maybe. I find it SO difficult to see drinking being spoken about so willy nilly on some other threads, signatures singing the praises of alcohol, people not taking it seriously....etc etc..

That is MY problem, nobody else's....It just brings me down and I get drawn into it time and time and time again....WHY should I even care? Why should I bother trying to talk someone out of it or try to explain the benefits of AF or even say what works for me? I come across Self Righteous and holier than thou and that is not who I am. But it seems that way, I cannot help it. I need to step back and just let people get on with whatever they are doing and keep my beak out.

I find myself getting into petty arguments with people on here while I try to advocate the AF lifestyle....No more, I step back and I am taking my nose and my "AF is the only way to go " attitude with me. It is causing me more stress than I need and I still cannot fathom why I actually care so much.

Everyone has to find their own way and that's the way it is but having spats with people on an alkie forum because I want to "help them" is both ridiculous and unnecessary, I won't be doing it anymore.
I would be better putting my effort in elsewhere in my life rather than constantly having "argue the point!

I have been here a long time and I feel I have been of some support somewhere along the way and I hope people will remember that, rather than the person I have become of late because that is not who I am but who I am when I am here, I need to work on that.

So hanging the gloves up here and stepping back, wish everyone the very best of luck in their journey, whatever way they choose to travel, I need to get on with mine xxx

Oney x

xpost Oney. Thank you so much for all your support and love I do hope you are not doing a "runner" from the army. Whatever you do you will always have a special place in my heart:l

[stirly-girly]

Army Thread FRIDAY 29th June

Mrs. A, I think you need to have a good talk with Mr. A, agree on what chores need to be allotted to others and then have a talk with family members. Tell Mr. A that you need him to back you up on this and that if he offers to do something, then he has to do it and not leave it up to you. He has to follow through instead of dropping out. Be firm and make him know that you are serious and that anything less is him not respecting your wishes and needs. Then talk to the family with the same tone - you aren't asking them, you're laying down some rules in your own home. If your son-in-law's drinking is causing you a problem, make it clear that he cannot drink in the house and let him go to the local pub. Same with Mr. A. If him drinking wine bothers you, ask him to take it outside or somewhere that it isn't in your face. I know it is very difficult for you that he enjoys his wine and won't give it up but your sobriety is what you need to put first and foremost and you have to make sure the others understand that as well. Make them know that it is for both your physical and mental well-being and that they must respect your needs. Period.

[kapone12]

Army Thread FRIDAY 29th June

Oney - you will be deeply missed! I love popping in an out of MWO over the weeks months and now years...you have always been a 'constant' for me here, so I personally will miss you being on the army thread in particular, with your gorgeously mad antics - and deeply wise and generous life experiences that you have shared here. Please keep checking by occasionally - you have been a true inspiration here and a guiding light for many 'new comers' - Oners, you are an AMAZING woman, and I wish you serenity and the love and fulfilment of your gorgeous family x x x Kia kaha

[tiptronic_ct]

Army Thread FRIDAY 29th June

one2many;1342802 wrote: Good Morning Folks,

I have been having a little think to meself the past couple of weeks. I know I have been here less as I have been promoting my new page over on Facebook but I have been trying to keep my nose clean on here too.

I feel like I have been flying the AF flag too much maybe. I find it SO difficult to see drinking being spoken about so willy nilly on some other threads, signatures singing the praises of alcohol, people not taking it seriously....etc etc..

That is MY problem, nobody else's....It just brings me down and I get drawn into it time and time and time again....WHY should I even care? Why should I bother trying to talk someone out of it or try to explain the benefits of AF or even say what works for me? I come across Self Righteous and holier than thou and that is not who I am. But it seems that way, I cannot help it. I need to step back and just let people get on with whatever they are doing and keep my beak out.

I find myself getting into petty arguments with people on here while I try to advocate the AF lifestyle....No more, I step back and I am taking my nose and my "AF is the only way to go " attitude with me. It is causing me more stress than I need and I still cannot fathom why I actually care so much.

Everyone has to find their own way and that's the way it is but having spats with people on an alkie forum because I want to "help them" is both ridiculous and unnecessary, I won't be doing it anymore.
I would be better putting my effort in elsewhere in my life rather than constantly having "argue the point!

I have been here a long time and I feel I have been of some support somewhere along the way and I hope people will remember that, rather than the person I have become of late because that is not who I am but who I am when I am here, I need to work on that.

So hanging the gloves up here and stepping back, wish everyone the very best of luck in their journey, whatever way they choose to travel, I need to get on with mine xxx

Oney x

Oney... have a few :l:l:l s

Personally speaking, I'm simply getting on with my AF life and sod the rest. Yes, it might sound selfish, but it works for me - I simply cannot get involved too heavily in other people's struggles. Giving support when it is needed is one thing. Getting sucked in is another.

And yes - I will always remember you for the support you gave me when I was still struggling. When I PMed you to say that I had made 30 days, I literally had tears streaming down my face as I wrote it. I hope your post doesn't mean you're leaving, but simply that you're pulliing back from certain issues.

[tiptronic_ct]

Army Thread FRIDAY 29th June

Hiya again, Army

I'm not being productive AT ALL today. The prospect of the weekend has me slacking...

[littlepinkcat]

Army Thread FRIDAY 29th June

im slacking also but i am doing some weights inbetween surfing online

[littlepinkcat]

Army Thread FRIDAY 29th June

mollyka;1342827 wrote: Pinky - you're a little dark horse --- how are you finding sober living? You seem to be sailing through everything?
Must away to friggintesco - my bonhomie could be shattered somewhat temporarily

yeah sober living is good, i feel much better, ive been sober about 2 months 2 weeks. Have intense cravings at times then others are not so bad, the way i look at it is, if i drink again i have just got to shift my arse to get sober again nd go through all that shit again, no thanks i will try my best to stay on the sober train, eaiser that way

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread FRIDAY 29th June

one2many;1342802 wrote: Good Morning Folks,

I have been having a little think to meself the past couple of weeks. I know I have been here less as I have been promoting my new page over on Facebook but I have been trying to keep my nose clean on here too.

I feel like I have been flying the AF flag too much maybe. I find it SO difficult to see drinking being spoken about so willy nilly on some other threads, signatures singing the praises of alcohol, people not taking it seriously....etc etc..

That is MY problem, nobody else's....It just brings me down and I get drawn into it time and time and time again....WHY should I even care? Why should I bother trying to talk someone out of it or try to explain the benefits of AF or even say what works for me? I come across Self Righteous and holier than thou and that is not who I am. But it seems that way, I cannot help it. I need to step back and just let people get on with whatever they are doing and keep my beak out.

I find myself getting into petty arguments with people on here while I try to advocate the AF lifestyle....No more, I step back and I am taking my nose and my "AF is the only way to go " attitude with me. It is causing me more stress than I need and I still cannot fathom why I actually care so much.

Everyone has to find their own way and that's the way it is but having spats with people on an alkie forum because I want to "help them" is both ridiculous and unnecessary, I won't be doing it anymore.
I would be better putting my effort in elsewhere in my life rather than constantly having "argue the point!

I have been here a long time and I feel I have been of some support somewhere along the way and I hope people will remember that, rather than the person I have become of late because that is not who I am but who I am when I am here, I need to work on that.

So hanging the gloves up here and stepping back, wish everyone the very best of luck in their journey, whatever way they choose to travel, I need to get on with mine xxx

Oney x

Aww my lovely, will miss you loads. :l
I will always, always be here for you.

[littlepinkcat]

Army Thread FRIDAY 29th June

mollyka;1342835 wrote: Two an a half months without a mutter!! Well fair dues to you! Sounds like you have it all sussed girl - I just found it sooooo much easier when the alternative was unthinkable --- 'keep it simple' huh??!!
Now off to the shops ' I am not reading back, I am not reading back, I am not reading back'

enjoy friggin tesco, lol

[Recluse]

Army Thread FRIDAY 29th June

Morning army

anon;1342806 wrote: Blimmin Heck! We had rain and thunder but nowt like you in the North East.

Right at the risk of this being all about me.
Very long story short

I had a lovely holiday peace and quiet and came back to the usual chaos.

Mr A offering to do all sorts for the family who then buggers off and leaves me doing it all. (Smell the burning martyr.)
Washing machine and dryer going non stop. Keep running out of food ,loo paper etc.etc.

Son in Law comes back from Paris each weekend and drinks beer by the 6 or 8.

So I laid the law down and now nobody is speaking to me and I am the villain of the piece.

I think I let it fester too long and did not handle it right-- but I am only human.

I did drink the other night and that was the last straw.

Coming last in a race on Sunday did not help:upset:

Mrs A...sorry you're having a hard time. I would post a lengthy reply, but stirly said everything I would have wanted to say (only much better than me) and I really can't add to it. I definitely agree you shouldn't have to put up with your son in law drinking beer by the bucket load in your own home.

Oney...I hope your post doesn't mean you're leaving. It's perfectly possible to come to MWO and not get involved with people who have a bad attitude. Personally, I rarely venture beyond the army thread and that enables me to stay stress-free.

Jackie...that was a great video....they showed it on the telly too! Happy birthday to Mr JC!

[Recluse]

Army Thread FRIDAY 29th June

Pinky....two and a half months is brilliant! Well done!

[littlepinkcat]

Army Thread FRIDAY 29th June

happ birthday mr j.c

[littlepinkcat]

Army Thread FRIDAY 29th June

Recluse;1342843 wrote: Pinky....two and a half months is brilliant! Well done!

cheers reccie

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread FRIDAY 29th June

Yo Reccybear,
Wish I had your strength. I'm forever lurking around other threads.

Mind you I'm loving the Newbies Nest at the moment. Haven't seen it this strong for a long long time. Some cracking posts in there.

Ach the weather was something else, but you know us Geordie's we just put on a bigger pair of wellies.