One Step at a Time - July 2012

[K9Lover]

One Step at a Time - July 2012

Hi Everyone!

Nora - I saw that about Andy Griffith...sad.

The other day one of the original members of "I Love Lucy" died, she played Lucy's neighbor Caroline. That is my favorite show EVER, I have the entire series on DVD and my bedroom is decorated with Lucy stuff. My daughter and I can sit around for hours and watch it....so funny! That "Caroline" character was a hoot, she was always putting Lucy down in a "nice" way. LOL

They don't make TV like they used to (boy do I sound like an old fart).

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time - July 2012

ohhhhhh....that made me gasp
I love Andy Griffith
chili chocolate sauce???

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time - July 2012

K9 - I saw that about Caroline. Sad.


So - I've had a couple of bumps in the road this past week. Tired of this crap. :upset: To be honest, I wasn't even going to mention it because I'm sure everyone is tired of hearing of my struggle. But, I need to be honest here. Time to start taking that one step at a time again.

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time - July 2012

ok Nora....spill
no one will judge...
what's wrong honey??

[Tipplerette]

One Step at a Time - July 2012

Back from the lakehouse. Seems like you guys were having a lot of fun without me. Day 14 and loving my sobriety. July has begun. On the 20th I'll have my thirty days. Lots of stress coming up with pressure on me to fly across the country to care for my hospitalized, sick, alcoholic mother as she is alone too much. She took ill while visiting my super busy brother. He has too much on his plate and the family is looking my way to go save the day. Don't want to go. Feel selfish saying it but I don't want to go at all. She is now turned abusive and has some dementia; lashing out at people, kicking out, throwing water, swearing, etc. Good recipe for a stiff shot of something ... don't want to go ..

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time - July 2012

Tip - great job on Day 14. :goodjob:
Really sorry to hear about your Mom. I'm sure that is going to be so hard. Sending you lots of positive energy. :l:l

[scottish lass]

One Step at a Time - July 2012

Can I join in - see some old friends here and really looking for the support.
It has been a really hard couple of months, and I need to put them behind me, I need to start afresh - and one step at a time sounds doable.
Day 2 today. Feeling really down and sad and know that drinking has not solved any of my problems, not drinking will give me the strength to start to solve them........

[paula]

One Step at a Time - July 2012

A good place to start Scottish Lass, we are all in or have been in the same boat, so you will get plenty of support on here. I like the idea of one step at a time, and it's certainly helping me. When I first came on this thread I was completely lost, but gradually I have got stronger more able to cope, once I stopped drinking I realised that that really was the root of all my problems, they haven't all gone away but are much easier to deal with without the alcohol blurring everything. Good luck.

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time - July 2012

Welcome Scoittish Lass!!
Sorry about your mom Tipp
Crazy busy at work
will check in later

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time - July 2012

Welcome Scottish Lass! Happy to have you here. This is a wonderful group for support. :welcome:

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time - July 2012

Hi Paula! How are you doing?

I feel like I've been away. I've been so busy here at work & home that I'm having a hard time staying connected. That's probably a lot of my problem right there. I NEED you all. :h

[Wildflowers]

One Step at a Time - July 2012

Yest, was a hard day still feeling low. Had some thoughts of drinking, but didn't. Hubs often seems to be a trigger. Was in the past & still is today. I member reading what Lav posted on Newbies Nest. Printed it, (but was at our girl's new apt.). Also member things Sober Vistor said & those pics she posted, along with so many posts here, helped me fight the battle, or more like my tears. Had to go outside & take walk, while fantasizing running away to the beach on my 50th later this month. Alone drinking, hitting up the casino for some excitement, even thought of having a fling. Shame on me!.... :-(

Then I read how others here are struggling not just this thread & realize I'm not alone!... Almost didn't post, but have been told over & over.... thru the yrs not to isolate when I get like this in my head. So telling on myself, writing it down, releases it in away, it helps some.

Then I read Tipps post & think what do I have to complain about? Geez I'm so sorry for what your having to deal with. My heart go's out to you! Sending you strength, courage, love to get thru such hard times with your Mom.

Can't member & see everyone's posts. Tired, ya all know about this sleeping business in early sobriety. Took natural stuff, helps some. Been using sander on empty bedroom, so I can re-stain hardwood floors soon. Look like a dust bunny ~ ragamuffin lady. hahaha there I am, need ta laugh. I always respond good to laughter.

Mama we painted our house 3 summers ago, it's alot of work, esp the prep work. I don't envy u peeps. Hope ur boys help. You folks will be up early in am, as u poor folks r getting hit by heat wave over there. It was raining here in July off & on when we planned & painted ours. We also had a big camping rafting trip planned & almost cancelled. I told hubs no feckin way, need to go, or else, me blow a stack.

Blueberry pickin & bakin yum We have 1/4 acre in r backyd. Lots of trees, but back corner gets sun have 4 bushes. Cut them wrong way one yr no berries, must have cut the boy part out. LOL Gave them some ash from woodstove & got lots last couple yrs, think they like the alkalinity. Chili yum, made a tailgate batch one yr with chocolate, chk broth, but put some adobo type chipolte peppers in the batch & holy cow. :upset: The recipe never said it was 5 alarm.

Not much happening here on the 4th, kids heading down to the water front for celebration. Other friends out of town. Others we know drinkin. Hubs is a grump, he texted me to ask if I was better. Crap maybe this is part no female calling for over a month. Or he's feeling guilty. Anyway back to sanding, in a few.

Nora hope u feel better! I will check in tom or maybe later. I member Wed, u will have more kiddies in ur house. That can be good & also so overwhelming. Not sure if ya are or :upset:, or maybe a combo of both.

Didn't know Andy Griffin & Carolin passed So liked them both!

Waving hi to everyone else! Hang in there we can do this sober thing, one step at a time

Happy Fourth Everyone! God Bless Our Troops! Hope & Pray ~ They All Come Home Soon! Big Thank You To All Of Them !......

PS. Not proof reading for sp, grammar errors. Part of my one step plan is practicing not havin to be perfect. Stupid illusion of mine never worked any way!...

Take care & be safe! :h

[Sunbeam]

One Step at a Time - July 2012

Wildflowers, it is good to just let those words flow. I have often used this forum as a public journal, a place to write down my thoughts to see what I am really thinking, and to hear others' thoughts so I can clarify my thinking. Remember that each of us has their individual battle, that is why we are here. Learn from others, but don't compare yourself because we are all different, doing this for our own reasons.

Tipplerette, is good to hear you are still being successful. My MIL is frail, we are blessed that my SIL looks out for her. MIL is still in assisted living, and SIL hires additional help as needed. Fortunately she has the funds to pay for this.

Scottish Lass, welcome, this is a great thread. Keep posting and you too will take steps. Remember that all AF days count. You aren't really starting all over if you are learning, reflecting along the way.

We also have no big plans for tomorrow. I believe there will be a lot of tipsy drivers as the day goes on. I usually have Wednesday off, so it is not seeming like a real holiday. If the showers hold off I will take a long bike ride in the morning.

Oh I love Lucille Ball, but I don't remember Caroline. I visited her hometown once, Jamestown NY. They have a museum and a festival I think every year.

OK, my dinner is waiting in the microwave beeping at me.

[A.J.]

One Step at a Time - July 2012

me too

NoraC;1345254 wrote: K9 - I saw that about Caroline. Sad.


So - I've had a couple of bumps in the road this past week. Tired of this crap. :upset: To be honest, I wasn't even going to mention it because I'm sure everyone is tired of hearing of my struggle. But, I need to be honest here. Time to start taking that one step at a time again.

Hi Everyone , I'm still here. I have been working so much at work & at home building fences I'm toast , now I think I have broncitous , or something ,my lungs are on fire pain in my upper back and I cough like a 2 pack a day smoker and I don't smoke, going to the Dr. in about an hour.
Nora I have had a few bumps Too , Im glad I read your post because I was not going to mention it eigther, then I realized these people have been there ,done that ,and are here for me. So I have to be real. I had 6 great days under my belt and blew it on Sunday& Monday, although I must say for a chic who used to put away a bottle of scotch a day ...a week and a half ago not so bad. I had a total of 6 coolers for those 2 days. We were invited to a Canada Day party sunday night and I caved and had 2 coolers , then yesterday working on the fence with my husbans and him with an I cold beer every time I looked at him I caved again. Now today I'm home from work alone and not even thinkg about a drink. It does'nt make sence, I did not get drunk ,nor did I intend to , acn some one give me some feed back please

[Sunbeam]

One Step at a Time - July 2012

Aj that has happened to all of us. You need to keep fighting, maybe connect with thoughts here to gain strength. The tool box thread under monthly abstinence often offers me some inspiration. I think this battle requires a package of tools for many of us.