One Step at a Time - April 2014

[Zenstyle]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

mama bear;1646752 wrote: Glad you are enjoying The Tudors Zen. It might give you another hot flash ! Look out!

:ey: :schmokin:

[fennel]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

Zenstyle;1646722 wrote: Gosh... he's a handful. It's making me wonder if his family simply couldn't cope with him... (

Zen, this is the saddest story I ever heard. He was an articulate, intelligent accountant. He was staying at home for ages, but his condition deteriorated. He was shifted to a skilled nursing facility, but he has had violent episodes and was shifted then to a home for the violently insane. His partner couldn't stand him being there, and fished around for facilities that would accept him.

In all honesty, he simply does not belong at the dementia home he is at. He does get violent, and his pacing interferes with physical therapy, television watching and all other activities of the residents at the home.

My employer will soon realize that this is a lost cause.

[fennel]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

Due to my gayness, and fitness, I think the staff thought I would be ideal for this patient...and I was! The only problem was that I didn't have the toileting skills for him, but now I do. And so does my dykey, much younger co-worker. I think she will do fine.

I would be willing to take on this guy one day a week, tops...maybe two. I honestly do not think he will last at this home, though. Dementia is the loss of one's self...and he is very far down that path. So sad.

[Zenstyle]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

Ahhhh Fenny... :l

That's really tough. I think what's upsetting you is you can't see how one could make him fit in somewhere if he's violent. Does he have moments of lucidity and that's why he's angry/violent... frustration?

Have they any other options... another facility they could move him to?

Sorry you have to deal with this. Stay strong. We can't save everyone... all you can do is your best, right?

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

Just about to read back. You all have been busy today. I'll be back in a couple of minutes after I find out what's going on with everyone.

My Great Niece started her period. :upset: My baby girl is growing up.

[Zenstyle]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

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[Zenstyle]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

Hi Nora! OMG... I'm on the other end of the spectrum from your niece! ;o) (Thankfully.)

I'm going to go and grab something to eat from the kitchen. All this pizza and popcorn today is making me hungry.

[fennel]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

Zenstyle;1646761 wrote: Ahhhh Fenny... :l

That's really tough. I think what's upsetting you is you can't see how one could make him fit in somewhere if he's violent. Does he have moments of lucidity and that's why he's angry/violent... frustration?

Have they any other options... another facility they could move him to?

Sorry you have to deal with this. Stay strong. We can't save everyone... all you can do is your best, right?

Zen, he has zero moments of lucidity. All he does is pace. His care plan states that he loves x-box, playing "bejeweled"on his ipod...nada. He can't turn on his ipod, much less play a game on it. He is very far gone in dementia. His care plan is way old and no longer applies to who he is today.

In my honest opinion? He belongs in that home for the violently insane. As hard as it is for his partner, it is the safest place for him. He is no longer the man his partner knew.

What I do know is that the other seniors in the facility are at great risk of injury from him. He already knocked down one lady in his pacing.

You are so right...we cannot save everybody. And that makes me so sad. Because, if I could save anybody, it would be him. :upset:

[fennel]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

NoraC;1646762 wrote: Just about to read back. You all have been busy today. I'll be back in a couple of minutes after I find out what's going on with everyone.

My Great Niece started her period. :upset: My baby girl is growing up.

Oh gosh...so sorry, Nora!

[Dottie Belle]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

fen I worry about my dad becoming violent..he had such a bad temper and the dementia/Alzheimer's surely doesn't change that does it??? Haven't been to visit for a week..have to save myself first...

[Lizann]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

Good night all. Dancing was fun tonight. Working early and putting in a ten hour day, ugh! My son is getting a scholarship tomorrow, so off to watch him receive that tomorrow! So proud of my boy. Long day for me tomorrow, so off to bed I go. Good night

[Zenstyle]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

That's really sad Fenny. It's life... but it doesn't make it any easier.

His partner feels worse than he does. Poor guy. Does he have any say in this guy's care plan?

[Zenstyle]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

Night Liz! Good luck tomorrow... )

[fennel]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

Dottie, the dementia only exacerbates the violence, mostly. If you have arranged for people to care for your dad, that is only a good thing. Please don't feel badly. You must save your sanity first. :l

[Zenstyle]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

fennel;1646771 wrote: Dottie, the dementia only exacerbates the violence, mostly. If you have arranged for people to care for your dad, that is only a good thing. Please don't feel badly. You must save your sanity first. :l

I agree. The living shouldn't suffer on behalf of the dying... as harsh as that sounds.