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**abcowboy** · February 14, 2015, 05:49 PM

Any way, just got in from snowblowing and shovelling, and of course, playtime with Hank. He loves the snow as much as he loves water!

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**paulywogg** · February 14, 2015, 05:56 PM

So cute,he looks like he's having a blast

**abcowboy** · February 14, 2015, 06:35 PM

I don't know why pics uploaded from the computer need to be clicked on to make larger, I might have to set up a photobucket account lol

**Lizann** · February 14, 2015, 08:51 PM

That's one cute picture cowboy. Thank you, I feel safe and accepted here!

**BeachGirly** · February 14, 2015, 11:05 PM

HI Gang,
Great chat today and wonderful support for Liz. You guys are all fantastic!!

Liz, I have seen this from both sides. My adult son was an addict from 16-28. I went through so many emotions. I was so frustrated (because I did not understand). I was hurt, worried, scared - angry - all of it. But I was there at every turn and every phone call. My immediate family thought I was enabling him. In the end, he did come clean and it was extremely hard work for him. It was hard for me as a mother to watch him suffer, and start again. I think when I found and called his dealer, and begged him not to sell him anything else - it hit home with him how serious this was. Now he is a nice young man, clean and has changed his life. He thanks me often for standing by him and believing in him. (whew)

Now I have seen it from this side. I can't believe it came to this, and I am mad at myself, after knowing what he went through that I could become addicted to AL. It never became as bad as he was, but one day I saw myself and thought how disgusting I was after all my talks and "preaching". That was my turning point.

I do not have family watching me or trying to get me help. I have the opposite. They do not see that it was a problem. How well we hide some of the things we did...

So I know your family means well, and loves you. Can you talk to one of them, and explain what you need? Have you told them about this site and the support you are getting? I bet they would be very proud of you. If they knew how much you want this change, they might be able to support you the way you need.

As everyone said, we are all here for you and we get it... it is ok to be yourself here.

Ginger - I hope you are safely home and visiting with Mom now.

BG

**BeachGirly** · February 14, 2015, 11:05 PM

Oh Hank is so darn cute !!

**open halo** · February 14, 2015, 11:40 PM

Lizann,
We are here for you! Beachygirl made a great point, does your Family know you are here and trying to find ways to kick AL to the curb? I think they would feel good knowing that everyone is on the same page, they want the best for you, a better life for you and finding ways to accomplish this for you. It's not easy Lizann, and we all know this and struggle and understand you. But it can be done and you are deserving of a better life. Sending you strength and hugs and understanding. You can do this Lizann.

**Lizann** · February 15, 2015, 08:57 AM

Good morning. It's freezing here and the wind is howling. Off to lunch today to celebrate the birthdays. Sissy will be there and I really don't even want to see her. No on will be drinking, because of me and I feel bad. I don't Even know how to act around them all.
Last night an old "friend" texted me. We live directly across the street from a garden store who has been our neighbor for 29 years. They have recently been trying to rezone the property ect. She said that they will be closing in June and bottle king (liquor store) is moving in. But I'll be strong by then right? Can't make this stuff up.
I'll check in with you all later. Thanks for your support. I feel accepted here and as much as my family loves me, not feeling it at home. I spent hours here yesterday, just reading. I can do this.

**paulywogg** · February 15, 2015, 10:27 AM

Hey all, seriously Liz a liquor store? I have it pretty bad here in Vegas, every gas station, grocery store, drug store sells al 24/7 plus there's a bar on every corner plus of course all the casinos, you can put 5 bucks in the machine, bet one nickel at a time and sit there and drink for free all night, we just have to be strong enough to avoid the temptation, I NEVER have al in the house, that's why I wrote on my personal thread that if I have a bad day I'll give Brady my keys and go to my room, if I can't drive to get it I won't go,I sure as hell ain't walking to get it haha,what's everyone's plans for today? Think I'll just have a Lazy day again, Beachy and OH,those were good posts

haven't seen Chief in awhile and where's Min? Hope all have a good Sunday, I'll be on and off throughout the day

**abcowboy** · February 15, 2015, 10:31 AM

Howdy all! Sunday mornings clear headed! Don't you just love it!

Liz, never feel bad that you are doing something for yourself! My son and I were also "drinking buddies" and best friends! He got his love for Budweiser from his dad, but thankfully he didn't get the addiction along with it! When I first started on my quit over a year ago, I told all my kids not to change their habits over me, that would just make me feel worse. My son said that if I could go through the day/evening without having a drink, they could do the same out of respect for me! And the day will come when they can enjoy that drink around you without it bothering you! So, if they choose not to drink around you for now, don't feel bad, feel grateful that they are doing it out of love and respect for you. It's been said over and over that we have to change our life, out lifestyle, and our whole way of thinking to accomplish this goal that we have, and here is just one example of that. Instead of thinking that you are the reason they can't drink, and thinking you are spoiling their good time, change your thinking that you have people that love you so much, that they will change their habits for you! A liquor store across the street, every time you look at it don't think of how nice it would be to walk across and do some shopping, pat your wallet and think of the money you are saving by not taking that walk! Think of all the healthy choices you are making for yourself and your loved ones. It's all in the way we look at things.....we can make it as easy or as tough as we want...

Have a great sober Sunday everyone!

Ginger, how is your mom?

**abcowboy** · February 15, 2015, 10:35 AM

Pauly, missed you on the xpost! Lazy day for us here as well, except that we're having our Valentine's dinner today. Our son and daughter-in-law are joining us and I'm doing all the cooking so that my Valentine can have a day off!

**paulywogg** · February 15, 2015, 10:57 AM

Sounds nice Cowboy

whatcha gonna cook?

**abcowboy** · February 15, 2015, 11:52 AM

Doing bacon wrapped filet mignon and lobster tails on the smoker, stuffed potatoes, salad, and butter garlic mushrooms, cheesecake for desert! No wine or beer glasses on the table! The only drinker in the group will be our son, but around me he has water with the meal and hot chocolate after, so no big triggers for me today!

**paulywogg** · February 15, 2015, 12:20 PM

I'm booking a flight to Alberta ASAP! That sounds amazing yummy

**open halo** · February 15, 2015, 12:56 PM

Set a plate for me too cowboy! Must be something about this cold weather and comfort food, we are having smoked ribs, crab cakes, sweet potato and regular potato mashed, green bean salad and warm apple pie. No AL here either! Lizann please don't feel bad about the family gathering, I agree with everyone else, they are doing it for love. Sending you big hugs this weekend, so glad you feel safe here, it is going to help you kick AL out of your life for good.

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