One Step at a Time - November 2015

[NoraC]

Hello everyone..........

Mama - the Christmas festival sounds like fun! I always enjoyed doing things like that.

Pauly - have you been off or did you have to work the last couple of days? I don't go back until Monday. I'm so confused on my days for the past few days that they have all merged together.

Liz - sounds like you are all set for Christmas. We were just deciding tonight whether we should put up a real tree or our aluminum tree. We decided on a real tree but now that I'm thinking about it, I want to put up the aluminum tree too. That is the tree that Mom & Dad had when I was a little, little girl.

Hope that everyone is having a wonderful weekend. :checkin:

[NoraC]

I'm so glad to have a competent camera man, cowboy! The last camera man was one of our back yard turkeys...I strapped the camera to her noggin, but she was easily distracted, and would start scratching the ground for insects. You wouldn't believe the editing I had to do to get rid of all the footage of her ugly feet!

The pay is peanuts...literally.

:rotlf: :harhar: :rotlf: :harhar:

[paulywogg]

Nora,I've had Thurs,Fri off worked today off tomorrow, I don't know what day it is either, people keep saying Saturday night, hell I thought it was Monday haha,so lost

[NoraC]

And YAY Nora..... I didn't even consider drinking when we were loosing Pop. The thought that we were needed kept me from doing it. The same thing may be happening for you..

I didn't with my Dad either. Then started up again afterwards and declined quickly! I am not going to do that again. I am staying connected with my family here. I am acknowledging the negative things and then letting them go. I told hubby tonight when he was bringing up a negative, that I had addressed it, it was done, could not be changed and I was not going to dwell on it. I am focusing on the positives in these next few months. Spending the holidays together and enjoying our family and not thinking about when son goes in. It is going to be hard. I'm not kidding myself. I might have fallen completely apart but I can't because of Mom, Son, Hubby, GF and for ME. I must do this for ME.

[Lizann]

Wow, Nora, you go girl! I completely fell apart after my FIL passed away. I'm almost afraid to say that things with my parents are going well right now. I don't know if I would be ready to "deal" and frankly that scares the crap outta me.
Had a wonderful evening at big sissys house yesterday! She lives about an hour away so we don't regularly visit out that way, way out in the country. It was just our hubs and us. We laughed a lot, like old times.
Fen, would you consider doing errands for an elderly person or is that under the same heading of care giving? Have you looked into retail? Around here stores are always looking for help for the holidays. I asked hubby if I could take on another part time job at the Christmas Tree Shops. I would love the discount. My sister worked for Saks Fifth Avenue in addition to her full time job. She loved it.
I don't know what day it is either Pauly. I think it's Sunday.
The girls and I are going to a wreath making thing this afternoon. I'm looking forward to it. I don't need another wreath, so I'm going to make it for my parents. CJ will hang hers at the cafe and Erin is the only one who really needs one.

[Lizann]

Fen, sissys kitchen is lovely! Ceramic tile on the floor, dark brown granite counter tops and a tan tile backsplash. She got rid of the kitchen table and added an island with stools! I want one so bad, but my kitchen is smaller. Now we are talking about redoing our bathrooms. Our homes were built in the late eighties so we are pretty much neck in neck in the renovations department.

[paulywogg]

Hey all,I've made up my mind to never drink again,no matter what but there's a niggle in the back of my mind when I think of how I'll deal if someone that I love passes away,I know I shouldn't even be thinking such things but let's face it there's no guarantees,just a year ago Dottie's hubs was still here,she handled his passing like normal people do,meh,too heavy for Sunday morning, gonnafinish pputting up the Christmas decs,Lou and I are putting together a gingerbread train,its set so we get to decorate it today need to get some shiny wrapping paper for presents to put under the tree,need some under there to distract how mis-shapen and sparse it is,hubs bought it at home depot and it was wrapped up so he couldn't see how sad it was,he was pissed and wanted to return it but I'm sure they wouldn't do that,plus Louie already loves it,I just put lots of ornaments on it,whatevs, hello to all and I hope we all have a great day

[fennel]

Fen, sissys kitchen is lovely! Ceramic tile on the floor, dark brown granite counter tops and a tan tile backsplash. She got rid of the kitchen table and added an island with stools! I want one so bad, but my kitchen is smaller. Now we are talking about redoing our bathrooms. Our homes were built in the late eighties so we are pretty much neck in neck in the renovations department.

You know, I always liked the idea of eating at a kitchen island, but the actual experience of it is lacking, in my book. Mrs. Fen and I had an island, which was awesome for kitchen work, like making lefse...but the seats were like bar stools with no backs and it wasn't comfy at all.

I'm sure the re-do is lovely, however. How long did it take?

[fennel]

Pauly, you'll cross that bridge when you get to it...just remember to recognize the AV and quash it. :hug: The more sober time you have, the easier it will be to resist.

Sounds like hubs found a Charlie Brown tree...at least it has a nice home!

[paulywogg]

Fen,that's what he called it haha!!

[mama bear]

Hi peeps...we didn't have date night coz I wasn't feeling well. Headachy,,,but today we ran some errands and are about to head to Nana's.
Nora, you sound so strong! I am proud of you
I have not received my DVD yet Skwerly Butt
I have to meet with a potential client thus week.....yikes!

[NoraC]

Hello all.
Mama - sorry that you weren't feeling well. Hope you feel better soon. I'm still fighting this cold bug. Haven't been sick like this in a long time. Do you have to try to 'sell your company' to this potential client and try to get him to sign with you?

Rusty - where have you been all weekend? Still decorating?

Pauly - I think it's great that you have made up your mind to never drink again. I'm still on the one step at a time and don't know if I'll ever be able to say that. I hope so. How fun for you to have Louie around. My brother got down here from Oregon last night and stayed at his friends house. He came over this afternoon and brought his friend and his friend's granddaughter. 2 years old and so much fun. I brought out all my Build a Bear bears and clothes. We had a blast playing with them.

Liz - how did the wreath making go? That sounds like fun. I was thinking that I would see if there were any craft fairs this weekend and take Mom. But, then with everything that happened, I didn't do it. I'm glad that you had a good time with your sister last night. That sounds like a special bond that you share with your sisters.

Fen - how are you doing? I'm concerned that you are depressed again. We are here for you. Or maybe I'm making the whole thing up. Even if I am - we are still here for you.

[Lizann]

So the wreath making was lots of fun. Decided to take my wreath over to mom and dads, since they don't do a tree anymore. We had the "talk" tonight and I'm a little shell shocked. I am going to the bank with mom and dad tomorrow. I will be able to access their account. I am executor and POA. They showed me where they keep the will and the key to the safety deposit box, plus there wishes as far as funeral arrangements. Mark wants to come with me tomorrow, I know he's worried about me. I'm fine, for the moment but this is a huge responsibility. Hubs knows the deal as he has been through it with his parents. Gonna be strong and deal.

[NoraC]

Liz - that's hard. But, my Dad was so very organized that it helped us so much when we had to deal with things. It's not easy but it's good that you are talking about it.

[Lizann]

Thanks Nora. My inlaws had it all organized too and hubs was able to handle his finances from here while FIL was in Florida. Mark is coming with me. Two heads are better than one.
Pauly I'm sure the tree is lovely. We have an actual Charlie Brown tree at work and it's adorable.
Well off to the bank with mom and dad. Putting on my big girl panties and dealing.