One Step at Time-Feburary 2016

[SKendall]

Mama, as a former H.R. Manager I can relate, no one wants to deprive a person of their living but when an employee is totally non-productive or egregious, they are stealing from the company.

Fen, I'm so sorry this is painful.

Surprise! I received a personal letter from the Apt. Manager wanting to be friends again and backpedalling on her 10 day notice.

Hello to everyone.

[Rusty]

Hi Gang,

Long day today and it feels GREAT to be home.

Skendall!:hug: Great to see you here! How are you doing? Wonderful news about receiving the letter from the Apt. Manager...You get to stay...YAYYY!:yay::applouse: You were an HR Manager, too? I did it and I HATED it. Hiring, disciplining, firing....YUCK!

Mama-I bet you are a fabulous speaker. Wish I could have heard you today.

Fenny-I sure hope you meet somebody fabulously compassionate and kind...someone who is a match for your personality and will treat you the way you want to be treated. You deserve the best.

Liz-I am so glad that slacker co-worker was called out on the carpet. Wayyy overdue! It sounds like your life is really balanced between work, family, and fun. Nice! :-)

Pauly-are you feeling better giving up artificial sweeteners?

Nora-the big day is coming up...how are you feeling, dear friend?

NE-Pop in and say "hi" please. I posted on your Progress Thread. NAL made me nauseous unless I took it after I eaten a REALLY hearty snack...cheese and crackers, raw veggies and dip..etc. Also, try taking it with sparkling water. That will help, too. :-) Better yet....club soda, mixed with a squeeze of lime, orange and lemon, and a splash of Angostura bitters...settles your stomach. :-)

Off to the gym before I change my mind. Night all!

[Lizann]

Welcome home Rusty! I have never heard of Angostura, what is it? Hope you made it to the gym. I ran this morning and am glad that's done. A little sore from yoga last night.
Skendall, yeah on the note from the manager. I wonder why the change of heart.
Mama, good for you for getting that firing done. Was he/she very upset?
Fun day with Erin shopping. Bought a few shirts for spring, which of course I didn't need.
Anyway, tomorrow is my early day so off to get ready. Hope your all doing ok.

[SKendall]

Rusty I loved the H.R., it was a large telecom co. in Dallas (3300). They were very progressive and believed in building people.

Lizz, I went into the apt. manager's office and it was awkward - she wanted a hug? She told me she has so much respect for me blah, blah. She was just reminding me of her power, but it was all very inappropriate.

Actually saw the sun yesterday, but rain back today. Seeing the ortho guy today.

[NoraC]

Morning - another quick check in :checkin:

So very busy with life at the moment. But, at least, I'm not drinking, right? Work is very hectic. My friend isn't here anymore. Plus, we're having a follow up audit in a couple weeks. So, more work.
Busy trying to get read for the shower & the wedding. Imagine if it was a big wedding?!?!? We were working on the little wedding favors last night. Somehow I have to find time for a trip to Disneyland to get her bridal Minnie Mouse ears. Casey wants to give them to her on the plane. They are going to Massachusetts. They leave at midnight the night of the wedding.
Did I tell you that I had a random thought the other day? I think I did but I can't remember. Anyway, things will never be the same again. I love my DIL so very much. But, it will never be the 3 of us as the core family again. I don't know how to explain it but it made me a little sad - thinking about our little family thru the years. But, then I thought of all the new memories we'll be making.

I hope that everyone is doing well. I hope that I'll be able to check in again later.

Happy Friday. :hug:

[mama bear]

I am here. The termination went fine....she started crying and then demanded a letter on letterhead as to why.I am leaving that up to HR. She dropped off keys today and said "Ya'll haven't heard the last of me".....whatever.
I came home and went to bed early. Today was another busy day, but all is well.
Hubs is at the bar and I am chilling.
Nora - can you order the ears online? I understand your feelings about Casey leaving. I would be in a funk too.
SK and Rusty...I didn't know you were both in HR?
I m glad you are home safe and sound, beloved Rusty. Get some rest. Speaking was fun.
I think I am off for a nap....love you all!

[fennel]

Oh, geez...mama, I'm sure there was more than enough cause for her being fired. Let her yap all she wants. I hope you had a good nap!

Nora, I can understand being a little wistful of the family dynamic changing. I have a question, though...why on earth are the two of them going to Massachusetts in the wintertime for a honeymoon?! :egad:

Hey, Rusty, Liz, Pauly, SKendall...

I had a crazy busy day, but am home chilling.
I am going to view a condo in the morning...time to start looking for Chez Fennel!

[Lizann]

Looking at a condo, I'm so excited for you Fen! Busy day equals fast day, at least for me.
Nora, I so understand what you are saying. I felt the same way when Erin got married. Yes we expanded our family but it's different. She's not here to take a walk with or just talk to. It's bittersweet. If she's happy I'm happy. It was easier for her to move out, everything new and fun. Me, I just had a hole where she was. So yes things are different but our relationship has new facets to it and you know, it's ok. I think you probably could order those ears online. Maybe even rush delivery.
Skendall, that seems a little odd to me. As long as it works in your favor I guess alls well that ends well.
Mama, I'm home chilling too. Does it bother you that hubs is at the bar? I hope that employee isn't gonna be back to bother you guys. You just never know these days.
Pauly, Rusty, Ne and everyone else, enjoy your Friday night.

[SKendall]

Nora, I felt exactly the same when Christmases were shared. It takes a little melancholy thought but it's best process it so no odd feelings creep up suddenly. New leaf.

Fennel, I am happy and excited for you. Will be a happy new leaf for you too.

I haven't posted re my pain lately. I got an appt. with the ortho guy and describing my pain he said it was kidney pain. Halleluja! I was taken to hospital via ambulance Jan. 2nd and he e.r. dr. said I had a dent in my kidney - there is no denting a kidney only tearing and I was peeing blood.. It was not addressed and by now it could be infected or abscessed by now and was probably torn by the impact and seat belt.

I was also told to keep active to help my spine to heal, kidney damage requires the opposite - rest. I was torn btn. crying that someone saw it and fury that the follow up appts. didn't address it either. There is a doc shortage in my area and it's been a cock up in my health care.

I am seeing a lawyer Monday re my missing luggage. No one knows nothin'.

Where are you Ne?

[Rusty]

Good Morning, Friends!

Yesterday, I worked in the morning and all of a sudden, I was overwhelmed with exhaustion and took a long nap...I was a total slug.

Nora, I think ordering the ears online and have them express delivered sounds like a good plan. I have no idea how far Disneyland is from you but it sounds like a hike! I agree with Fen...why MA for a honeymoon in the winter?

Fennel-I am so happy that you are looking for a condo. That will really help you heal. How exciting!

Mama-Firing people is not fun...I guess she was threatening a lawsuit since she said "Y'all haven't heard the last of me." Yes, I was in HR twice...short stints. NEVER AGAIN.

Skendall-I can't believe those doctors MISSED your torn kidney!! UGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! Good job on hiring the lawyer to get your luggage back. Also, never feel like you can't discuss your pain here. We are good listeners and we want to support you all we can.

Pauly-I saw somewhere that you were looking for a good orthobiotic. Several people I know, including my mom, take Floragen. You can get it at any Walgreen's. I take Orthobiotic by Ortho Molecular Products but it is expensive! It does the trick, though.

Liz-Angostura Bitters is used in Manhattans and Bloody Marys. Yes, it is alcohol, but on the label it says to mix just a few drops with tonic (I don't like tonic so I use LaCroix sparkling water) and a squeeze of a lemon, lime or orange and it is a great NON-alcoholic drink because you only shake a few drops of the bitters in the soda and the alcohol content is LESS than NON-AL beer or wine. Plus, it is amazingly effective at settling an upset stomach. I heard a couple of people (not on this forum) say, "Oh you can't drink that, it has alcohol in it," but believe me, it does not stir up the AL demon in me at all. It's low calorie and looks pretty in a glass, too.

NE-check in, please!

Work out today, errands, and cleaning are on the agenda today. Happy Saturday, everyone and

[Lizann]

Hey guys! Beautiful warm day here. Ran this morning and later today took Lucy for a nice long walk. Erin came by today as her hubs is still out of town. Her and CJ were making bath fizzes and body scrubs. I've got the softes lips in town! I don't know where the day went, but it was an enjoyable one.
Ne I hope you did get out tonight and had a nice time. It's so nice you get along well with your in laws and your parents. I do miss my inlaws. It's been three years this week that my FIL passed. Seems like yesterday, but also like forever ago. We'd go visit them in Florida often. It was like our home away from home.
Rusty, I'm glad you got a nap in. I fell asleep on the couch last night. Been awhile since I've done that. You just gotta do what your body needs.
Fen, I'm dying to know how the condo shopping went today. Did you have to work today?
Skendall, how long ago did this happen to your kidney? Did you just now see the blood in your urine. That is seriously scary stuff. Hope now you will be on the mend.
Nora can't wait to hear about the shower!
Pauly, how was work today?
Mama, I saw you did have date night tonight. I hope you enjoyed it!
Think I'll read a bit before bed. Sweet dreams.

[paulywogg]

Hey all,jeez,hubs is being a bitch!bringing up old stuff,whining about work, pouting around, I have horrendous anxiety from him! My hearts pounding in my ears,I have a pressure headache, didn't think about drinking AT him but I guess my body had the thought I've got to figure out a way to block stress out,oh and listen to how stupid this is, he doesn't want to file taxes cuz he will owe!such an idiot, I don't know why he's acting weird,I'm ready for bed

[Rusty]

Good Morning Friends,

Wow, it was quiet on here yesterday!!!

Pauly-so sorry hubs is being a pain...I can imagine your anxiety is off the charts. Deep breaths. :-)...GREAT job in not drinking AT him. You have come so far, Pauly...so proud of you.

Liz-sounds like you had a lovely day yesterday...I never tire of your stories about days spent with your family.

NE-so glad the NAL seems to be working for you.

SKendall-forgot to mention that I thought the apt. mgr. asking you for a hug was inappropriate and soooo lame. Good for you, though. How are you feeling?

Well, gang...I am not going on my vacation to South Carolina this week. :-( My favorite uncle passed away yesterday at the age of 93. He was the oldest of my mom's siblings...she loved him so much. I am going to the wake and funeral in Maine Thursday and Friday. It's the right thing to do. My mom is too weak to go and she is delighted that I am going in her place. My mom did not want to ask me to go, so I offered. She knew how much I had been looking forward to this vacation, but I have great piece of mind knowing that I am making my mom so happy and I am doing this sober. So many gifts that come with sobriety and one of the greatest is making tough choices and then remembering that you made them. ;-)

Nora-you must be busy with the wedding because you didn't pop in yesterday. Hope you are ok?

Fenny-how did the condo shopping go?

Mama-tell us about date night..I want to hear all the juicy parts. ;-)

Big hellos to Red67, Techie, Mr.G, and other lurkers and visitors!

[Lizann]

Gee Pauly, what's up with hubby? Maybe he's just overwhelmed. Can you get out for a bit, just take a walk or go to the dollars store? Good for you not drinking, that is definitely one of my triggers. Honestly, sometimes a good cry is all it takes to relieve that anxiety. I'm sure hubby will file taxes even though he owes. It's frustrating to work so hard and have to pay. Sadly it happens to us as hubby is self employed. I get it!
Rusty, so sorry to hear about your uncle:hug: I'm glad you are going and that your mom is relieved about that. How old is your mom? I know how disappointed you are about your South Carolina week. Can you postpone?
Happy Sunday. I'll check back later.

[paulywogg]

Hey all,Liz I wanted a good cry but it just wouldn't come he keeps accusing me of cheating too which is really pissing me off cuz I don't have the time or desire for that bullshit!! I think he's having a midlife crisis or something, he's talking about quitting his job too,just weird crap,Rusty,sorry about your uncle but sounds like he lived a good,long life,hope everyone has a great Sunday,I'll try but dealing with this bipolar bastard who knows