One Step at a Time - March 2016

[fennel]

Your find is so funny! I had to show Scott. You know he's Swedish.

Sorry that you had to deal with all of that moving yesterday. Have you almost got everything now so you don't have to keep going thru this? :hug:

Did Scott like it? :welldone:

Most of my stuff is now in boxes. I still have some stuff in the china hutch. Over the years, friends have given me squirrel tea cups, matching cookie jars, etc. Tons of squirrelabilia. I have some fancy glass bowls I need to pack, too. Upstairs, most of my clothing is packed. I still have my irish bodhran drum and an antique cookie jar and some odds and ends that need to be packed. J packed up all of my books. I have to double check to make sure she didn't keep any of mine. Eighty percent of all our books belonged to me, amazingly.

I will be taking along some cooking stuff. Just ugh. We have two "Le Creuset" dutch ovens...I will get one. I have my latte maker at the house, still. Nearly all of the herbs and spices are mine. J doesn't vary her cooking much.

[red67]

Well you guys got chatty while I was gone

I am very excited for cake!! It has been an amazing 5 years and I have grown so much during this time. I could have never done it without the support of my friends here.

So, the roommate, no he does not pay any rent. He barely makes enough to pay his own bills. I just bought this beautiful home in the suburbs, partly because I wanted a nice safe home for his daughter. His attitude has gotten so bad this last year, probably in part due to his business is not doing well. I try to help him as much as I can and even had him do some of the remodeling at my home to work off his debt to me. Nothing I do is good enough though. It breaks my heart because I try so hard and he just doesn't care or recognize. My biggest hesitation is his daughter, I love her to prices and I really look forward to her being here every other weekend. She is my little buddy. If I kick him out, I worry he will not let me see her. And he really has no place to go and no money to get a place. If he didn't have a child I would not hesitate to get him out. Just am lost about all of this.

I will write more tomorrow. It's getting to be bedtime and I need my rest after losing the hour last night.

Later gaters!!

[actiongirl46]

Hi all!! I'm here and doing well . . . Sorry I didn't check in this weekend. I went to Chicago with hubs. It was long overdue and we had a fabulous time. Saw two shows and walked a ton.

I'm not sure if I shared on this thread that we have been struggling, primarily due to my (prior) AL escalation. I feel we are in a much better place now.

I'll have to catch up tomorrow . . . I need to get some sleep as Monday am will be here too soon!

[mama bear]

I was slug most of the day yesterday and napped a lot. I have three very busy training days ahead of me.
Red67 - we are for you to help you through this next phase in your life.
Skwerly - my heart is breaking imagining you having to pack. When do you move into the condo?
Nora- what's wrong? Glad the kids made it home safe and sound.
Good morning beloved Rusty,
Lizz - enjoy your trip and I am sure Lucy will be fine.
Pauly - Hope you are feeling stronger.
NE, SK , Mr V and Action Girl...have a great Monday!

[red67]

Morning everyone! Hope you all have a happy productive day.

So, just a little more on the home front. My sister and roommate got into a huge argument and nasty things were said on both sides. Neither one is willing to back down and now neither one are talking to me. I tried to stop this and neither one would back down and now I am being punished. I would love to just hide away for awhile, anyone got the blanket fort set up??? And I need chocolate

So, again I will forge ahead and try to just be the best person I can be.

Happy Monday!

[NoraC]

Hey Red - I am assembling the blankie fort right now. I've got popcorn!

[Adina]

Hi Everyone! I promise I won't go missing again! I'm just a lot busier these days than I used to be I am almost completely moved into my new house with Albert. He bought me a Jeep Patriot on Saturday. I have never been so spoiled in my life! Maybe this is how it always should have been and I just never realized it because I was always with selfish idiots (LOSERS). LOL

Anyway, it's not about the material things (although it's nice to feel more secure financially). He is a kind man and he's very, very MELLOW so it kind of balances me out. Sometimes I need to kick it down a notch. LOL

Sorry to hear that some of you are having a hard time in life right now. I've been there and done that. At times I felt like life was just beating the shit out of me. But it DOES get better. Please hang in there and keep us posted.

Love to all of you!

[NoraC]

Hey K9!!!!! So great to hear that you are doing well. Glad that you have a good guy. How's Adina doing? Is that what we are still calling her? How is the drinking going? I FINALLY have some AF time under my belt. Feels good!!

[NoraC]

I posted this on the Army thread this morning:

I just wanted to say thank you all for sharing your stories. I need to keep reading these to keep it clear in my mind that I do not drink. I've been worried that I've using other things addictively. (I'm sure that's not a real word but you know what I mean)
I've never had a problem with pot. Been around it for 40 years and can take it or leave it. But, I've been using it more often so I'm avoiding that for right now. Just like I've had to start avoiding cookies.
I've decided that anything in my life that leads me to act compulsively isn't a good thing. Neither one of these things is a problem but I'm being very cautious. I NEVER want to go back to that addictive life.
Thanks for this. Very helpful right now.

Anyway, it's very interesting how I am recognizing my behavior. Especially over the stupid cookies Geez -

[SKendall]

Hello all. My computer was on the blink for almost 2 weeks! I missed the WWW a lot. I use Google for answers and didn't realize how much.

I seems as though many of us are dealing with "stuff", so let's build an extension to the blankie fort, I have a very special blankie to donate.

How about we go down memory lane and post about how we can remember from childhood just when blankies and forts became important to us.

[fennel]

Red, WTF? As soon as I got a job, I started paying rent to my friends. Not what I'd be paying in the real world, but 300 bucks a month. I know your friend has a daughter, but if he can't make enough money to pay his bills, he needs to get into another line of work. I know you love his daughter, but maybe you could work something out with her mom where you can visit? I would never leech off anybody for that long! Does your sister live with you, too? Holy frijoles on the homefront...

Mama, thanks. I know that I will get through this process and bloom once I am in my own place. Yeah, it's really hard right now...but I know that I will be just fine, eventually. It was hard separating all of the photos...and really, I was so there for her mom and dad when J's dad was dying. I will never regret what I did for them and I know that he would HATE that this is happening right now.

What doesn't kill us makes us stronger, yes?

Nora...:hug: It's a process. I am so proud of you.

As an aside, I am prone to addictive reading....escapist reading...whatever you want to call it. It helps to remove me from my situation, but I think that's okay...at least I'm not drunk, right? So, whatever gets us through the hard parts helps. We can deal with the rest later.

[fennel]

Today was frustrating. I was trained by a very cranky lady in her area today. She doesn't clean worth squat and doesn't believe in high dusting. She's short, so I found myself wiping off all the light fixtures in her apartments today by hand. She constantly critiqued my work and found me lacking, despite the great ineptitude that she shows.

Worse, she doesn't drive and needs to catch the bus at the end of the day. She gave me her radio, plus (accidentally) her locker key to put back on her cart on the second floor. When I got back downstairs, she frantically told me that I'd put her locker key onto the cart and she couldn't catch her bus without getting her stuff out of her locker! And she was making this MY fault. I ran back up, and sprinted down and gave her the keys she needed.

After work, I went to mom's house to dose up her cat, but Alice had already been there. It turns out that my sisters were not at mom's home to clean things out last weekend, just to attend a friend's sons' baby shower. Mom has decided to rent out a storage unit to hold the remainder of her hoard (this means that I will rent out a storage unit) and I will have to deal with it after she dies. I was hoping to dismantle the hoard now, but if wishes were horses, beggars would ride. Ugh.

I then went home and shot some baskets while the sun was out briefly. I have so much energy, even after working a physical job all day.

I am training the new person all day tomorrow, so I likely won't be able to talk with my boyfriend, LOL. Maybe I will tuck my phone number beneath his windshield wipers.

I saw the daddy owl out back tonight, but not the fledglings. The frogs are out already!

[techie]

Hi Everyone! I promise I won't go missing again! I'm just a lot busier these days than I used to be I am almost completely moved into my new house with Albert. He bought me a Jeep Patriot on Saturday. I have never been so spoiled in my life! Maybe this is how it always should have been and I just never realized it because I was always with selfish idiots (LOSERS). LOL

Anyway, it's not about the material things (although it's nice to feel more secure financially). He is a kind man and he's very, very MELLOW so it kind of balances me out. Sometimes I need to kick it down a notch. LOL

Sorry to hear that some of you are having a hard time in life right now. I've been there and done that. At times I felt like life was just beating the shit out of me. But it DOES get better. Please hang in there and keep us posted.

Love to all of you!

I am so very happy for you Niner. I would attribute your current situation and happiness to your spirit guides. You know the power of intention, etc. Embrace it all because you are not spoiled, just deserving. I've thought of you often. It does my heart good to see you thriving. Peace!

[techie]

Now that I do see some of you beauties struggling please take a cue from Adina. Positive intention can have a profound positive impact on our lives. Give it a try. We are ALL worth it. Have a wonderful rest of your week

[mama bear]

Techie my, you are so right. I believe in the power of positive intentions. especially I regard to my career and my current financial mess;.
I new Jeep??? WOWee!!! That's awesome K9!!
Red- sounds like you have a hot mess on your hands! It's so complicated....I am not sure where to start or what advice to give.
Fenny - hang in there friend. How is your Mom? Nora - how is yours?
Hey SK!!
off to work.....my boss is in town.