One Step at a Time May-2016

[Glass Half Empty]

Great work on the puzzle Nora - how many pieces was it?

G - thanks for the link. I do think relying on processed food is a huge part of the problem. That said - I think the way we live these days makes it difficult for many of us to do otherwise. And now that my kids have left home I don't spend much time cooking fresh stuff because I don't take care of myself as much as I did for them.

I hope everyone is getting their painful tooth problems sorted!

Rusty - I took Gabapentin for a while and it was really helpful. Let me know if you have any questions.

[Rusty]

Hey Friends and Happy Monday,

In a rush AGAIN....off to Michigan! My Mother's Day was spent setting up a new printer for my mom. Thank God my IT guy was available to remotely help us on Mother's Day...what a gem. He is getting a nice chewy check from me for rescuing us. Mom was so grateful, though, and that's all that matters. I have to say, you guys....I honestly do not know how I found time to waste an entire Saturday or Sunday drinking....many times just getting drunk and sitting there. I scramble now to juggle my career, my mother, and some brief down time for myself and how in the hell did I get ANYTHING done back then? Geeeezzzz....

Mi Mr. G!!:heartbeat:

Techie-glad you had a great day with your Mom!:heartbeat:

Glassie-I told Mom about Gabapentin and she started taking it 3 days ago and already she is sleeping better. Great to see you! That picture of your 20-week-old granddaughter....WOW, that is powerful! I showed the picture to my Mom. Miraculous!!! You'll be a fantastic GLAMMA. I picture you as stunningly beautiful.

Big hellos and hugs to everyone else!! Sorry to be such a fly by today. I'll try and be back later. :-)

[Rusty]

Nora-What a COOL puzzle!!!! LOVE IT!!:applouse:

[actiongirl46]

Hi all - Just checking in. I am not doing well. My husband just got home but it is way earlier than expected as he took a bad fall. We'll know more after doctor visits today.

So, how have I been coping? By drinking. I am more than disgusted with myself. I know what to do but I just don't do it. Sorry. I HATE this.

If anyone is on the fence, hopefully this will help remind you how you feel. I'm going to try posting in the roll call. Sigh.

[Rusty]

AG:hug::hug: Oh please let us know how your husband and YOU are doing. What happened to your husband? Is he seriously hurt? Are you taking the Naltrexone??? I know, I know...you have to wait an hour before you drink to take it. MANY times I didn't wait the hour and started to drink anyway because it was 9:00 AM or 10:00AM on a weekend...until I got serious about STOPPING. We have all been disgusted with ourselves. Think about how you will be NO help to your husband if you're drinking. Please trust me on this. If you have to take Naltrexone with breakfast, then do it. Seriously. Just for today...know that helping your husband to the BEST of your ability means you don't drink...no matter what, OK????? With a clear head you will be able to help him through this crisis. You will be PROUD of yourself tomorrow, not ashamed. The shame is what leads us back to that first drink. Reach out to one of us if you feel like you're going to pick up that drink. We'll talk you out of it. If we're not around....pop on the Army Thread. Lots of fabulous folks there who have incredible radar when someone is struggling.

[paulywogg]

AG,sorry to hear this I hope hubs is ok,take Rusty's advice hon just take the NAL,it can't hurt right?and please do reach out,I know it seems like if you've already made up your mind to drink its pointless but you never know,in the few minutes it takes to post your craving to drink may vanish,we all understand!we've all been in your shoes,please don't feel disgusted with yourself, it only breeds more reason to feel like drinking,trust me I've been there,hello to all,Mondayitis for me,woke up with TOM and a headache, yippie, wish it would've started Friday so I could lay around all weekend but no,has to mess up the beginning of my week,grrr,have a nice day guys

[aihfl]

Good morning everyone. It's a beautiful morning here in Central Florida, but it's going to be a scorcher later, so I'm sitting outside while I still can. I wasn't able to spend Mother's Day with mom (she moved back to Tennessee after my father died), but I did send her a nice bouquet of flowers. She paid for both my rehabs, so it's the least I could do.

AG, I will pose the same question that I was asked by a friend in AA after I was discharged from my last detox and rehab. What is going to be different this time? As is often brought up in AA, insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.

Hope everyone has a great day!

[mama bear]

Good Morning loves. We cooked for Nana yesterday and smothered her with attention. Hubs made me breakfast in bed and they boys (via Dad) gave me some red, sparkly Uggs slippers. They look just Dorothy shoes!! I love them. I am on my feet and running around so much that I love fun flats.
AG - Is your husband ok?? Poor thing. You have to be sober to take care of him, honey. When there is a crisis and I am Superwoman.....I tend to drink when I am bored.
Nana was in good spirits last night. I was selfishly dreading the evening, b/c she obsesses over everything and the accident has consumed her, understandably.
Ok....off to write a budget..yippee!

[SKendall]

AIG, please read the Toolbox again. AIHFL is right, you might want to change your plan. Do you surf the urges? I think it would help your husband greatly if you were there for him 100%. Throw everything at the wall until something sticks. As Rusty says, take the nal!

If you rely on your husband for anything, please reciprocate for him.

[actiongirl46]

Thanks all . . . I will take the Nal and read back through the toolbox. And dust off the plan. My witching hour is 5-8 so I'll take it around 4pm

[aihfl]

Thanks all . . . I will take the Nal and read back through the toolbox. And dust off the plan. My witching hour is 5-8 so I'll take it around 4pm

AG, I used to be on Nal, and just wanted to offer a word of caution. If you take it daily, it might be a good idea to have written on your emergency medical information that you are taking it if in case (God forbid) you are rendered unconscious in an accident of some sort. You could be overdosed on opiate pain medication to overcome the nal by the treating physician. I was advised to do this by the psychiatrist who prescribed it for me.

[NoraC]

AG - I just want to give you a big hug. I UNDERSTAND!!!

Hang on TIGHT here today and let us help you get Day 1. :hug:

I have been trying for years. Don't let yourself fall into my trap. I finally have some sobriety and it is wonderful. My days haven't all been wonderful. But, I am able to deal with it all better because I am not laying all that guilt, shame, remorse on myself anymore.
:hug: :heartbeat:

[actiongirl46]

AG - I just want to give you a big hug. I UNDERSTAND!!!

Hang on TIGHT here today and let us help you get Day 1. :hug:

I have been trying for years. Don't let yourself fall into my trap. I finally have some sobriety and it is wonderful. My days haven't all been wonderful. But, I am able to deal with it all better because I am not laying all that guilt, shame, remorse on myself anymore.
:hug: :heartbeat:

Thanks so much Nora and everyone. I appreciate having you even if I'm struggling to put my plan into action.

AIHFL- what was the thing that changed this time for you? If you are comfortable Shari g

[SKendall]

Hi all, I may take some time out for larger than life issues. I will lurk once in a while. You all stay well.

[Rusty]

Hey Skendall....I am so sorry your life is overwhelming, but I understand. Would love to stay in touch if you want to as well. Take care of yourself and I will be thinking of you and I will miss you!:hug::love::hug