Join the Army Against Alcohol - January '17

[JackieClaire]

Good morning AAAers.

Maddyme, you're a glutton for punishment............soft play. :egad:

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

Morning army! Hope you're ok lovely tabs ? Need to stop sleeping in - half the day gone

I'm ok thanks for asking. Had a brief moment when I felt I could have drowned my sorrows yesterday but that was never going to happen. I need to deal with my emotions and not run and hide in a bottle. Years of doing that as my default setting will take a long time to fix but like all of us, be it one week or a year I guess, are a work in progress.

Hi all

Tabbers I am so sorry to hear about your dog, it is so hard to lose beloved pets ((hugs))

Feeling sad again today, trouble with my DH again trying to keep strong and focused on my recovery and not stress about him though, I know I cannot do anything but wait for him to sort out his feelings!

Mady, if I may call you this, otherwise you may get all sorts or variations with my spelling abilities? I have seen your thread and I take my hat off to you at how you are coping. It is still so early in your recovery and emotions are still very raw I would guess. If I may comment from a mans perspective I would imagine your DH is all over the place. We are the ones who are brought up to be the strong ones, the protectors and to find we aren't capable of helping the person we love the most to stop destroying herself must be so hard to accept. We don't stop loving the person we married because they have a problem, it doesn't work like that and I would guess he just needs time and maybe space to see the person you are is returning and that you are here to stay. Trust will take a little time to return but if he was going to call it a day surely that would have happened when you were at you worse and not now you are in recovery.

Morning Mr G & JC

[JackieClaire]

Tabbers, you were on my mind last night. Not sure how I would cope when Bess's time comes. I'll follow your example.

[madonmehndi]

Thank you so much for that tabbers, I know he has felt responsible for me and he has been the sole provider for the last 7 years since I have been a stay at home mum so you are probably right about that, he did say that he feels my recovery is something else he will have to be strong for but I have told him that I only need him to accept that I am trying to be sober and that my support is AA but maybe in doing that I have hurt his feelings?! Oh why is life so complicated?

Thanks very much for your help anyway tabbers, I really appreciate it and from everyone else too x

[madonmehndi]

Thank you so much for that tabbers, I know he has felt responsible for me and he has been the sole provider for the last 7 years since I have been a stay at home mum so you are probably right about that, he did say that he feels my recovery is something else he will have to be strong for but I have told him that I only need him to accept that I am trying to be sober and that my support is AA but maybe in doing that I have hurt his feelings?! Oh why is life so complicated? Thanks very much for your help I really appreciate it and from everyone else too x

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

Tabbers, you were on my mind last night. Not sure how I would cope when Bess's time comes. I'll follow your example.

I have no doubt you will JC, you are a shining example of how this horrible thing can be battled on a daily basis.

Thank you so much for that tabbers, I know he has felt responsible for me and he has been the sole provider for the last 7 years since I have been a stay at home mum so you are probably right about that, he did say that he feels my recovery is something else he will have to be strong for but I have told him that I only need him to accept that I am trying to be sober and that my support is AA but maybe in doing that I have hurt his feelings?! Oh why is life so complicated?

Thanks very much for your help anyway tabbers, I really appreciate it and from everyone else too x

Is it possible he misconstrued your saying that your support was AA as you didn't need his being strong and will do this on your own with or without him and his support? Also maybe he is feeling badly affected by all of this and feels he needs to step up to the plate and help you overcome this.

[JackieClaire]

Fabulous post there, our Molls.

[IamMary]

Evening all..
Excellent posts Molly and Tabbers.
Its funny, we can all relate to each other here, to one degree or another, bottom line being that none of us have a normal relationship with Al.. When I started here and still now, I was amazed how I could have written so many stories. But we all have a different story going on the 'other' side.
Everything is better eventually Maddy, whatever happens. Keep doing what your doing..


Climbed the sugar loaf today, TWICE! Try doing that with a class A hangover!!

[IamMary]

I'm ok thanks for asking. Had a brief moment when I felt I could have drowned my sorrows yesterday but that was never going to happen. I need to deal with my emotions and not run and hide in a bottle. Years of doing that as my default setting will take a long time to fix but like all of us, be it one week or a year I guess, are a work in progress.

WELL done you. Hope your doing ok today:hug:
You seem really determined Tabbers, its not going to get the better of you, is it...

[madonmehndi]

Thank you Molly, I am glad you have sorted out your marriage thanks for sharing that with me, I hope I can one day say the same of mine x

[madonmehndi]

[/QUOTE]Is it possible he misconstrued your saying that your support was AA as you didn't need his being strong and will do this on your own with or without him and his support? Also maybe he is feeling badly affected by all of this and feels he needs to step up to the plate and help you overcome this.[/QUOTE]

No, I don;t think so, he has indicated he is going to focus on his own 'personal development' as he put it and that things are going to be different from now on, I think he is happy he doesn't need to help me with it!

[madonmehndi]

Anyway, I am dragging down the positivity of this thread so i must pull my socks up and get on with my life, onward and upward as they say!! I am getting the hang of my AA serenity prayer and using it in day to day life, also feeling a lot more spiritual which feels a bit weird to me but good!

[IamMary]

Anyway, I am dragging down the positivity of this thread so i must pull my socks up and get on with my life, onward and upward as they say!!

You'll never drag this thread down, YOU ARE the positivity here - look at how far you have come! You might even get cake soon :happy2:

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

I want cake, just sayin...:yay:

[JackieClaire]

I heard the need for this across the miles.............