Join up!! Army against the grog !!! April 2018

[JackieClaire]

Re: Join up!! Army against the grog !!! April 2018

Been tracking the London Marathon..........Mrs A is at 28k and Arsey at 40k about 10 mins ago. :welldone:

[mollyka]

Re: Join up!! Army against the grog !!! April 2018

Hey again - was out doing the garden - roasted I am... now just hoping for a bit of rain to bed my new plants and veg in.. not sure I'm much full of humour at the mo. Judey! Bit of a wet rag - but pulling myself up by the aul bootstraps and onwards and upwards and every other cliché I can think of :happy2:

Had a christening yesterday - was sort of really dreading it for various reasons - but actually it all went off grand so one 'event' ticked off
Now must read back properly and see what everyone else is doing..

[mollyka]

Re: Join up!! Army against the grog !!! April 2018

Been tracking the London Marathon..........Mrs A is at 28k and Arsey at 40k about 10 mins ago. :welldone:

Xpost there Jacks - that sounds good yeah? (not sure how many K's in a marathon... must check - I know it's just over 26 miles)

[paulywogg]

Re: Join up!! Army against the grog !!! April 2018

Ooh thanks pauly ! Is yours menopause related?

Starts,I think it is hormones for me,I'm 44 so at "the age" of starting the hormones war Molly,great to see you waves to all

[IamMary]

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Afternoon,
Great news on the Marathon runners.. both home and dry now Id say. Well done both, fantastic!

Great your back Molly.. How's it going?

Starts,I think it is hormones for me,I'm 44 so at "the age" of starting the hormones war

just slightly ahead of you Pauly, we can compare notes over the next couple of years while the experts laugh at us. Ah maybe it wont be that bad?

Car falling apart. Think the way I drive it doesn't help (can I blame the hormones?), I would much prefer to beam myself up. Sun is out so I'll think about that tomorrow. :radiate:

[IamMary]

Re: Join up!! Army against the grog !!! April 2018

Got an M&S voucher for my birthday so going to be at their door when they open at 10am.

So, did you blow it all????!!

[satz123]

Re: Join up!! Army against the grog !!! April 2018

Just home from work - young Satz is at it again - last 3 days - FFS !
Found the odd wine bottle over the last 4 weeks - but found empty bottle of vodka from yesterday.
Says the urge to drink is all consuming when it takes over ...... I dunno what to do or say any more........... I'm getting scared for him tbh.

[mollyka]

Re: Join up!! Army against the grog !!! April 2018

Just home from work - young Satz is at it again - last 3 days - FFS !
Found the odd wine bottle over the last 4 weeks - but found empty bottle of vodka from yesterday.
Says the urge to drink is all consuming when it takes over ...... I dunno what to do or say any more........... I'm getting scared for him tbh.

In truth there is little you CAN say or do - the 'doing' part is what I presume you are already doing - not leaving money or drink around - no use of a car etc etc..... but other than that - he has all the power actually contrary to what he feels - he has the choice not to drink before he picks up the first one - we all had that.. but he chooses to pick it up - whatever else he tells himself (as many of us told ourselves too) is a nonsense - but that's no help for you... what are you scared of most? It's a truly horrible situation to be in - I understand that.. xxxx

[starty]

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Im so sorry to hear that satzy. Very hard for you and your family. What do the experts say you should do? If it was me i would try and put as much distance as possible i think but not had kids so probably different

[starty]

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How are you doing molls?

[mollyka]

Re: Join up!! Army against the grog !!! April 2018

Im so sorry to hear that satzy. Very hard for you and your family. What do the experts say you should do? If it was me i would try and put as much distance as possible i think but not had kids so probably different

I'm inclined to agree with you about the distance Starty - but when push came to shove - dunno what I would be able to do... I do know that making life easier for the active alcoholic is considered enabling which is the worst thing anyone can do.. and obviously support is necessary - until we lose the arrogance of 'going it alone' - it's nigh on impossible imo... sorry - not speaking for you Benjy - just my tuppence worth...

How are you doing molls?

I'm okay Starts -- consumed with anxieties - a lot went wrong all at the same time - a lot has been rectified - but now I'm still anxious about shit I can't do anything about - and I'm supposed to know better..... ach - getting there!!! Are you on your hols away??

[starty]

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Lots of us seem to be struggling with anxiety at the mo. It really is a bugger isnt it. I hope you get some peace soon

Yep staying in a beautiful barn. Walked for almost 7 miles today with 2 82 year olds! Put me to shame with my aches and pains ��

Holiday is doing me good i think

[mollyka]

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Lots of us seem to be struggling with anxiety at the mo. It really is a bugger isnt it. I hope you get some peace soon

Yep staying in a beautiful barn. Walked for almost 7 miles today with 2 82 year olds! Put me to shame with my aches and pains ��

Holiday is doing me good i think

Smashing! Think you needed a break - should help put work issues into context too hopefully xx

[satz123]

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what are you scared of most?

I'm scared Molls - that he's never going to be able to stop - and end up in the gutter.

Here's the scenario in my head :
He's the drunk son and I'm that cliched mother I've hated who puts up with it - 'cos I don't want to see him on the street.
And then I will die from the stress of it - no-one will want him and he'll die like this poor 41 year old alcoholic the other day.
His brother said : (and it scares me it's so close to home ......)

"He was in residential care for his alcohol addiction.
There’s six of us, six kids here. He had lovely parents, he had a good upbringing. We’re all hard working, everybody in the family is a hardworking person, he just had his demons.
“He lost his mother last year, he fell off the wagon. It’s his third stint in Simon so he was trying"

Brother of man found dead at Tallaght Hospital questions how his brother wasn't noticed for hours

[mollyka]

Re: Join up!! Army against the grog !!! April 2018

I'm scared Molls - that he's never going to be able to stop - and end up in the gutter.

Here's the scenario in my head :
He's the drunk son and I'm that cliched mother I've hated who puts up with it - 'cos I don't want to see him on the street.
And then I will die from the stress of it - no-one will want him and he'll die like this poor 41 year old alcoholic the other day.
His brother said : (and it scares me it's so close to home ......)


Brother of man found dead at Tallaght Hospital questions how his brother wasn't noticed for hours

I understand - but for all the people who end up in dire straits there are so many who get themselves sorted - the key is for him to truly realise it can't go on - at the moment unfortunately - it can - he's manipulated you and Mr S exactly how he needs you - worried enough that you will let him drink and he still has a roof over his head - however I see why you are doing it - and I don't know that I would be able to do otherwise either - but time might tell - its not that long since he had a salary and there was drink in the house ( or shed!) - and now that's all gone - so presumably life isn't as convenient as it was? Don't despair - but maybe Insist that he at least attends meetings every day if he's to be allowed stay at home? Something or somebody there might make sense to him? Xxx