One Step at a Time - June 2018

[bird]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Hi all,
Nora that is awesome that your mom was having a good day.! I think mine forgot who I am. Haven't heard from her in awhile. Glad it was just your battery.....Lizann, glad you got some pool time in......the cats have something under the computer desk . Oh it was a poor frog from the little pool out back. I put it back. ..yes, it is Georgia. I am moving closer to the kids. DD1 packed her car up last night and I haven't even closed on the house yet. Guess she is very excited. Welll to get started on my day.....b

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Well - did you close on the house, Bird? Since dd1 has packed her car already. LOL
When is dd2 coming home?

[Lizann]

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Happy hump day! Found out today that I am off until July 9! Not thrilled about that, but oh well. I only work two days a week now, no Saturday's until September and next week Doctor took off the beginning of the week for the holiday. Not sure what I'll do with all that time. I may go down the shore with one of my coworkers on Monday. I haven't been down the shore in since I can't remember when, it's been awhile. That would be fun. Tomorrow we meet with an elder attorney and try and figure out what we can do about mom and dad. Please send positive thoughts, I am nervous about this. [MENTION=5628]Nora[/MENTION], may I ask why your mom no longer qualified for hospice? It may be an option for my dad. Just want to be as informed as I can. Whatever happens we need to make sure that both of them are taken care of.

Hope everyone had a good day. Damp and dreary here today, but I got plenty of sun yesterday!

[bird]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Hi all,
Lizann, will be thinking of you today with the appt. And is that the Jersey shore? I lived in Camden for a bit and we would say we were going to the shore.......closing is on the 9th but we may be able to move in this weekend. The realtor will let me know soon. Walked down the road yest to pay the rent. Had a nice chat with my landlady. I will miss her. My boy cat Bruno caught a squirrel yest. They love to eat squirrels. Really disgusting to watch though...

[NoraC]

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I'm on my phone so excuse typos.
Mom didn't qualify anymore because of extended life. Wasn't that term but it meant that they didn't expect a rapid decline.
Good luck today. Sending good thoughts

[NoraC]

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Liz - been thinking of you all day.

Waves to all. Will catch you tomorrow. My neck is giving me fits so I'm laying down. I'm waiting for chatty Gladys again this weekend

[Lizann]

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So the meeting today went well. It was a bit overwhelming. There was also an apt with the hospice lady, and a psychiatry consult again. Dad would definitely qualify for hospice, but we think that may not be enough help for mom. Right now we will follow the advice of the elder attorney and see how dads progress goes. It's a long story but we are making sure that there is enough money to care for each of them. Dad was a a lot more alert tonight and ate well. He will not drink and they may have to start the IV again. Our only consolation is that for the mot part we don't think he is aware of what's going on.
[MENTION=2634]bird[/MENTION], good luck with the closing and moving. How exciting. Yes here in NewJersey we refer to the beach as the "shore". kinda unique I suppose.

Hope everyone had a good Thursday.

[Lizann]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Cross post [MENTION=5628]Nora[/MENTION]. Feel better. Hubby would recommend a rolled up towel for your neck when laying down, for some support. Hope that helps.

[Rusty]

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Good Morning, Friends!

The pre-wedding festivities are underway and yesterday was a complete success! I brought lunch for all 12 kids and 11 adults, and then Great Aunt Rusty went out on the boat with all the kids...ooh, what fun! It was a blast. The weather was perfect for swimming and boating. My Mom was feeling well and she was delighted to meet a few of her great-grandchildren for the same time. Tonight I am taking Mom to the rehearsal dinner and she will meet my niece's husband's family for the first time.

Liz:hug:You are taking all the right steps when it comes to your parents. I read on one of your earlier posts that you won't be working until July 9th. :-( Good for you for planning fun things. I am not working until July 9th either but it's my usual vacation time. :-)

Nora-hope your neck feels better soon, dear. HUGS

Hi To Gladys, Pauly, [MENTION=2634]bird[/MENTION] and anyone I missed...happy AF Friday.

[techie]

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Liz - been thinking of you all day.

Waves to all. Will catch you tomorrow. My neck is giving me fits so I'm laying down. I'm waiting for chatty Gladys again this weekend

Feel better, Nora xoxo

[Glass Half Empty]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Hey all

I’m afraid I have to be a Not So Chatty Gladys this weekend. I have a mountain of work to get through but will pop in when I can.

Wow - you all have too much happening for me to comment on individually.

But I do want to say - Nora – how lovely that your mother was aware of you. And if you want to pick a country to move to, I can recommend this one!

Rusty - gosh you sound busy! I love hearing about weddings.

For any of you who are still having occasional lapses with drinking – would any of you like to join me in committing to Dry July as a new day one?

But more importantly (and anyone else can join this too) – a Happy, Healthy July! We are all so busy looking after everyone else, so let’s all make this the month we commit to giving ourselves the same love we do to others, with whatever we know we need to do. For me the main things I need to focus on are nutrition, hydration, daily yoga and talking to myself the way I would to my loved ones. I’d love to hear what you all think are the things you need to do to self-care.

[bird]

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Hi all,
Glassie, I will do dry July with you....so we packed the whole house up and are up here to move in. The owner had me sign a bunch of stuff to move in before closing, but then after I was on my way said I needed to insure the place as well...wtf...my realtor thinks something fishy going on, since we are still having trouble with some other stuff. Her and the attorney recommended I back out of it. Too much weird stuff with it. So I did and cried so much. Back to the drawing board, but have a place I really love on radar. Will put all my stuff in storage for now, except the basics. So much work to pack the truck...oh well, I accept what happens....Nora, my neck hurts a lot. I use icy hot...Lizann, glad the meet went well...Rusty, you are making me smile!...hi Techie....off to bed

[NoraC]

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Hello everyone.

Techie - Always so happy to see you.

Glassie - sorry that you can't be chatty this weekend. We will try to carry on....... :sad:

I love, love, love your idea of Happy, Healthy July. I am in.
I am going to concentrate on the daily yoga and water and then go from there. But, I am definitely thinking about what would be good for me.

[NoraC]

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Oh Bird :sad: :sad: :sad:
I am so sorry. But, I do believe that this was meant to be. I truly do.
Hubby & I have never bought a house but once back in the 70's, we found one we loved. We were going to put an offer on it but someone else already had bought it. Turns out that the earthquake that happened a couple years later would have demolished that house. All of the homes in that area were condemned. We would have lost everything.
So, things happen for a reason even though it's so sad and hard at the time. :hug:

[NoraC]

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Liz - I'm sorry that you are having to deal with all of this. Have you looked into a daily caretaker coming in for a few hours? I know that is so expensive. Hospice was great but I also wonder if that is going to be enough help for your Mom. The nurses came in twice a week and the CNA came twice a week. But, the hands on daily care came from us. I'm sure that is overwhelming for your Mom. :heartbeat:
I tried to bathe Mom tonight and she just absolutely refused. Looked at me, stuck her bottom lip out and said no, she was not going to do it. Went in the bedroom, pushing her walker in between the basins of water I had prepared and laid down on the bed. I tried to talk her into it but she was adamant. She wouldn't even sit up to take her pills. I leaned down to kiss her and said I love you. She said no you don't, you wouldn't treat me like this if you loved me. :sad: I looked her right in the eyes and said Mom, I love you more than you will ever know. Then she smiled.
Some days are harder than others.