July Army Manoeuvres

[satz123]

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Shhiiiiit the bin men are empyting the recycling. Just heard what sounds like a huge bin full of bottles being tipped in. Wonder whose that is :haha:

MORTO for them whoever they are !!!

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Yes, he is fine thanks.
No part time just yet. Full on, full stress pound of flesh type work. I was going to leave or go part time and then they promoted me so that is on the back burner for a bit. Wont be too long till I ask for reduced hours though. I do not want to be doing this when I am 60! How about you? Full time?

Full time, yes. Loathe it. Really basic work too. Yack.

[starty]

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MORTO for them whoever they are !!!

They clearly do not give a shit otherwise why do they not distribute them in other bins around the locality like any self respecting alkie :haha:

[starty]

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Full time, yes. Loathe it. Really basic work too. Yack.

I thought you were a nurse? Or did I get that completely wrong ?

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Yeah Bridge I wondered about WD's too.
I see Young Satz and he is in 'bits' with shakes and anxiety when he decides to stop.
I wasted 2 lovely Zanex I was saving for the plane trip on him - 'cos he drank anyway. grrrr

On the plus side he' s been sober 2 weeks now - says he has a plan.
Got a job and I hope the plan is to earn money & move the feck out :haha:

Like Stirls says I am looking after number one these days first - let them all solve their own shit out -ask for help but DO NOT expect me to fix it..
This REALLY sounds hard but that includes my mother - and the knock-on shit that family are at at the moment - hospital visiting 'schedule' etc. FFS !!

I NEED to keep my head straight ... then deal with their stuff if I have time. :llama:
I have saved my own life by getting sober and I am not about to give it away to anyone....

Good for you Satzy. Self preservation is going to be my new mantra. I remember young Satz. Still having struggles then? He'a week ahead of me so tell him that. He's winning!

[byebyebridgetjones]

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I thought you were a nurse? Or did I get that completely wrong ?

I was for years. Now moved into another field. Got to take the shit with the sugar I suppose.

[byebyebridgetjones]

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They clearly do not give a shit otherwise why do they not distribute them in other bins around the locality like any self respecting alkie :haha:

Yeah or buy plastic for the love of God. I suppose they go to the same bottle shop every time too. Amateurs...

[starty]

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I was for years. Now moved into another field. Got to take the shit with the sugar I suppose.

I would like to do something else. Just got no idea what that something else is

[byebyebridgetjones]

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I would like to do something else. Just got no idea what that something else is

Youdid an addiction course a long time ago though, right? I thought you were working in that field for a bit?

[starty]

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Youdid an addiction course a long time ago though, right? I thought you were working in that filed for a bit?

Yep did that for a while. And in the mental health field. Did my head in to be honest

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Yep did that for a while. And in the mental health field. Did my head in to be honest

Go see a careers councilor. I'm not kidding. Why should the kiddies get all the help. We're all working.

[stirly-girly]

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God that's it EXACTLY. I have never been able to put my family in their correct hierarchy . They all go out there and live wild and free until there's a massive problem, then that problem somehow becomes mine! You've just struck on it. Were you always this wise?:happy2: [MENTION=22456]starty[/MENTION] they are my biggest problem and the only thing that could completely derail me beyond very minor lapses in all that time.

So what are plans for the weekend folks?

Good on ya Bridge for bypassing the AL store and going home. You see, already your mind is pushing in the right direction.

No, not wise, just practical, really. You can't fix other peoples lives, solve their problems or take their woes away. They live their own lives, no matter how closely connected to us they are. Whatever decisions they make are theirs, whatever road they chose is theirs. It's their life, their problems. Not that we shouldn't be sympathetic and helpful, but only to a point.I can't cure my friend's cancer, nor can I put a big bandage on my son's marriage and make it better. So there is no point in me worrying myself to death over it. Supportive and actively helpful, yes, but the involvement stops at a certain point. At the point right before we make it our problem. Lord knows we have enough of our own without taking on the troubles of others which are, in the end their own problems. We can give advice, if sought, but again, the advice we give is based on our own personal experience and not on theirs. And many times, and I have said this before, when we want to help someone, when we let their problem become ours and therefore want to become part of the solution, we do it for ourselves - for our own satisfaction. We help out others to make ourselves feel better. Plain and simple. This of course is only my own personal opinion but that's my take on things.

Morning Bridgeeeeeeeee,
Here's a question.............do we take on the problems of our families because we were drunks and just about tie ourselves in knots trying to make amends.
I know I did expecially with Jenny and finally exploded last weekend and the S&H the weekend before.........A few home truths were told, lots of tears were shed on both sides. The air was cleared........until the next time. One of my favourite lines from me was.............I didn't actually choose this as a career path....put that at 200 decibels.

Right I'm off to get my hair cut.

I stopped the guilt thing years ago, Jackie. Yes, I caused anxiety and I wasn't always as present as I could have been. But I didn't ask to be an alcoholic and I won't apologize for it. No more that someone who has a chronic lung disease after chain smoking for 30 years. What was, was and what is, is. Life goes on. I can't take back the years and I won't bend over backwards trying to make amends for something that I couldn't, during those years, control. What do we do now and where do we go from here? We move forward. We do the best we can from here on in, always keeping in mind that our sobriety comes first and if something threatens that, we have to distance ourselves from that situation or that person. We keep close to us the people who understand and care and we keep at a greater distance those who don't. We can't isolate from society and still function properly but we can chose with which people we want to share our life. Simple as that.

Anyway, enough of my philosophizing for today. It's taken me over an hour to get this finished, with so many interruptions. Time to get back to work again. Hoping you all enjoy the rest of your day. Bridge - wishing you a restful night.

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Thanks Stirly. Just experiencing that early sobriety exhaustion. Could seriously sleep for days. I know it goes though. I feel much better already and will jump up another level at about three weeks. The stuff you are talking about though, that will take longer.

[stirly-girly]

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Didn't read back before I posted and I see I've X-posted with Starty-pants, Satz-bum and Bridgey-poo! :harhar:

I thought I remembered you being a nurse, too, Bridge but wasn't sure if I remembered right or if Mr. G called you Nurse Bridge and it was some fantasy of his!!

Satz - good to hear about young Satz. Yep - hopefully he moves out soon and at least you won't have that in your face.

Starty - what Bridge says - a career councilor. Seriously, there could be something out there that is perfect for you that you would never have thought of or considered.

[stirly-girly]

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Thanks Stirly. Just experiencing that early sobriety exhaustion. Could seriously sleep for days. I know it goes though. I feel much better already and will jump up another level at about three weeks. The stuff you are talking about though, that will take longer.

Yeah, I know. We wimmen are conditioned to take care of others when the thing is we need to take care of ourselves first. And I don't mean it in a selfish way. I mean it in a nourishing way - both mentally and physically...