One Step at a Time - April 2019

[Rusty]

Re: One Step at a Time - April 2019

Good Morning, Everyone and Happy POETS' Day!

Yay….I am home and even though it is still cold with temps in the 30s, we don't have snow and the sun is shining.
[MENTION=19302]Lizann[/MENTION]-wow, your niece is in a complicated situation. No wonder your sister is beside herself. I am sorry but I have no words of advice for you. It almost sounds like your niece has hooked up with this person to rebel against her parents or something. I suppose if we looked at it from an addict's point of view, your niece wants to be with someone who shares her addiction and has totally blocked out anything else about this person which would be negative. I have known a few people over the years who have been alcoholics/addicts who have chosen partners just for that reason: they think they are choosing someone who has something in common with them, rather than sharing addiction. Your niece probably isn't really in love with this person and that is sad. All you can do is support your sister and I am sure she appreciates it.:hug:

I am home but working on the computer. I must answer a client's question.

Back later. Big hellos to all my friends here! :-)

[paulywogg]

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Morning friends,Nora,that's sad it still goes on in this day and age too so much judgement on if someone is gay or brings home someone of a different race,etc my parents hated Bobby when we started dating but we showed them haha how's your kids and grandbaby doing? Feeling better I hope,Liz,I know you hafta taper off any steroids even that nose spray with steroids has to be tapered,I went off it once and had wicked anxiety! NS,thanks for popping in with words of wisdom,yep no drinking at people that's stupidity and I know if I did drink it'd be like you said headache, regret,throw in some barfing, tiredness and irritation to the mix! No thank you! Bird and Rusty what's up for today? Wishing us all a fabulous AF Friday!!

[paulywogg]

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X-post Rusty, enjoy your day

[Rusty]

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X-Post Pauly! Cute pic of you and Lou on FB. You have such a beautiful smile and skin. Would you please grow some wrinkles or something???!!!! Hahaha! Hey, did you see my post about my new client in Kansas who is located next to a ton of Indian reservations?? Your hubs isn't Native American...was that why your parents didn't like him? I think I told you once that my friend Rachel is half Apache and her brother started dating a Navajo and OMG....his parents disowned him for dating someone from a rival tribe.!

[paulywogg]

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Rusty I did see that post on FB my parents didn't like hubs cuz his family was on the "poor side" jeezus like we were any better but I guess my parents thought we were haha Nora, I was dropping Lou off at school and this little girl had canvas unicorn slide ons! They had the face on them,ears and then at the top was a little horn! They we're sooooo cute and I thought of you cuz you have a granddaughter you get to buy cute things like that for

[bird]

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Hi all,
So sick of this prednisone, almost finished with it though and it did help. I have barely been off the couch all week and organized stuff like crazy, threw out so many pics and papers, fixed up scrapbooks, just crazy hehe. I will never take that shit again (I hope). Going to a discussion at the philosophy dept this afternoon on what makes art beautiful or something like that.....Paulie, sometimes I feel I am missing something by not drinking, but I also know I am not missing. So crazy we think 2 different things at the same time. I want it, I don't want it. .....Rusty, that is a long drive, do you ever listen to audiobooks while driving? I do that a lot.......Nora, sorry to hear everyone is sick. Hope it passes quickly. I don't get that 1 beer thing either. ....N.S. I finished that book today, kinda scary....Liz, glad you get to go to a wfs meet. I kinda wish I woulda signed up to go to their conference this summer. Not sure about the niece situation. Maybe you could find some answers online..

[Lizann]

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Yay it's Friday! Haven't left the house all day. My Roman shades came and hubby hung then up for me. I really like them, very modern looking. So me.
BIrd, the talked about the convention last night a lot. Several of the ladies are going and have gone. Apparently it's a really wonderful thing to attend. I will be on vacation again this year at the same time as the conference. The meeting was really good and the topic was Negative thoughts destroy only myself. Not my favorite thing to talk about because fighting off those negative thoughts can be exhausting.
THank you all for your kind remarks regarding my niece, we believe the reason she has latched on to this individual is because they are like minded. Not just with the gaming. K has always been socially awkward, perhaps even on the spectrum of autistic and these two accept each other for who they are. Speaking from K's history, this will not end well. Inspite of all this, we do love her. Time will tell.
Pauly, those unicorn shoes sound adorable. I bought Logan Crocs yesterday. Also cute. He didn't like them at first, but he's wearing them now.
Rusty, glad you don't have snow and maybe you'll get a warm up like us this weekend too.
Nora, just heard on the news that there may soon be a blood test to definitively diagnose fibromyalgia, which is sure to bring better treatments and awareness. Let's hope it's soon.
Have a great AF night, my friends and thank you for letting me share!

[abcowboy]

Howdy ho Steppers near and far! Stopped in quick to see if [MENTION=11089]techie[/MENTION] was lurking about. If you see him hanging around somewhere, be sure to congratulate him on reaching the big 9 years sober today! Huge congrats techie, wherever you are!

[paulywogg]

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Have a happy AF Saturday all,back later

[Rusty]

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Good Morning, Friends!
[MENTION=21602]abcowboy[/MENTION]-Thank you for reminding us of [MENTION=11089]techie[/MENTION] and his 10 year AF milestone! Wow....congratulations to you, sweet friend!:welldone: [MENTION=21602]abcowboy[/MENTION]-you never forget sobriety dates...thank you for being here.
[MENTION=8902]Glass Half Empty[/MENTION]-where are you and how are you doing, love? I miss you!

Well, dear friends, I am going to "cross party lines" here and say I really do understand the one drink phenomena. I really could and really did have JUST ONE drink many times during my worst years of drinking...and I know that sounds odd, but it really depended on the occasion and who I was with at the time. I could have one glass of wine with my mom and then go back home or watch TV and then go to bed when I stayed at her house. When I was out to dinner with clients...it was the same way...and I did not thirst for more. BUT....when I wanted to escape because I was dreading working with a very difficult client, I would get a bottle of something and drink it to numb my feelings of anxiety or resentment. OF COURSE that lead to more anxiety, being hungover, exhausted, etc. A former MWO member used to say that when it came to AL, she had an inconsistent Off switch. That was me to a T. Many of you may remember Doggygirl, who when she was posting had several years of ..and she used to say, "I cannot drink safely anymore." I have used that line to explain to people why I don't drink anymore and they seem to understand without prodding me to go into details. Anyway...just my two cents for the day. :-) ;-)
[MENTION=9757]NoraC[/MENTION]-how are you feeling??? Is everyone feeling better at your house?
[MENTION=19302]Lizann[/MENTION]-the WFS meeting sounded interesting...I agree....negative feelings only hurt yourself. Thank you for telling us a little bit more about your niece. She is lucky to have an aunt as loving as you! Cute pics of Logan and the Crocs and Logan and hubs. :-)
[MENTION=17650]paulywogg[/MENTION], Pauly! how did it go with the bartender who got her hair highlighted at your shop? I know how you feel....there was a bartender at one of my haunts whom I used to think was cool until I met a young woman who used to be a waitress at the same restaurant. This young woman said she had to quit because this bartender almost killed her as she was selling cocaine on the side. :-( Now when I see this bartender around time, I just cringe.
[MENTION=2634]bird[/MENTION]-I am sorry the Prednisone has been so hard on you! :-( How are you feeling? How was the philosophy discussion on art? To answer your question, no, I don't listen to books on tape. I like listening to music.

It's a gorgeous day here and I am off to the gym so I hope everyone has a wonderful Saturday/Sunday!

[NoraC]

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Hi and Happy Saturday.

Rusty - I understand what you are saying regarding your drinking. Thank you for sharing that. I know that many times what I post doesn't apply to everyone so I'm really glad to here another 'side'. I remember Glassie making a post about how her drinking was different than the 'all or nothing' that I talk about.

Well - Mom is antsty and trying to get up so I will have to be back later. nthego:

[Lizann]

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Hey all. How was everyone's Saturday? [MENTION=11089]techie[/MENTION] congrats on 10 years! That's fantastic. I hope to get there in, um, about another 9 years or so! [MENTION=1214]Rusty[/MENTION], do you have XM radio in your car? Back in the day on those long car rides to Florida and North Carolina I would listen to audio books. Doesnt work for me on shorter trips. Not to mention they are so expensive. Our library has some, but not a great selection. Thanks for your side of the one and done drink. Initially for me it was to help with anxiety and I often told myself, if one helps, then a little more is better. Yes, that was my mantra.
Nora, how is your mom? You haven't mentioned her in a while. Can she get around on her own at all?
Bird, how are you feeling? Still on the prednisone?
It was so warm here today. Started the day with jeans, a sweater and a rain coat and ended the day with shorts and flip flops. Managed to keep myself busy and outta trouble.

[paulywogg]

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Morning friends,Rusty,good post I'm sure I did the 1 drink throughout the years but when it got to be one turning into 11+ more constantly than just the one is when it got out of control, someone who used to post here drinks now but I don't think she's outta control with it,maybe she joined KWO when things were getting outta control and took some time off then is able to control it now after sorting stuff out,who knows we're all different I just know how I am with it,the bartender sitch was fine,I just stayed on my side and didn't look at her,she was always a bitch to me anyways but I kept going in the place cuz that's just what I did back then,Nora,I'm with Liz how is your mom? Any fevers again? Liz your living room pic was really nice the other day was gonna tell you then but forgot,Bird are you done with the Prednisone yet? Hopefully you won't hafta go on it again,they gave that to Romeo when he had the flu,can't imagine how he felt but he didn't seem different,much love to all and wishes for a super,sober Sunday!

[bird]

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Hi all,
Had a good time at the play last night, it was very good dd2 and her bf came, dd1 showed us some lights and things she works on. Tonight we are all going to the Chinese opera. Storms moving in and tornado watch. I am off the prednisone, still a bit itchy patch so I am doing anti- inflammatory diet for awhile. Got in the pool yest, it was a little cold but not bad once I got in. It is easier to clean if I'm in it....Liz, your living room looks very nice...the weather is like that here alot, freeze your ass off in the morning, a/c on by afternoon. I have xm in the car. Thinking about getting rid of it though, seems I am always changing the channel looking for something.......Rusty, there have been a few times where I would only drink one or 2 but I sure wanted to keep drinking. It would be because I had to drive or something like that. When I would get home though I'd end up getting drunk. And yes the discussion was on art....Waves to Nora and Paulie..Techie, congratulations

[NoraC]

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[MENTION=11089]techie[/MENTION]

A GREAT BIG CONGRATULATIONS ON 10 YEARS