Happy Army June

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

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Tabs what's the job you're doing? Is it different from your previous one or have you just gone part time at the same co? How many hours? I definitely couldn't work full time in the same field. Way too stressful. Even my 3 long days is exhausting

Same game in a different, much smaller place and only a 5 min commute. Doing 24 hours a week over 4 days, start early and finish early. I got out of management and back doing hands on. It?s taking a bit of getting used to in being on my feet most of the time but so much easier and less stressful in not dealing with all the paperwork, scheduling, office politics, clients and non stop phones and emails. I made a good really call I reckon.

Great you've tailored your job to suit you Tabs...life is short ...let's enjoy it!!

Thanks Molly, ain?t that the truth. And when I get tired of it I will call it quits to working. No set time for that but I guess I will know myself.

[IamMary]

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Good for you tabbers. You definitely made the right decision. What's it all for at the end of the day..

We were back with the neurologist yesterday and she confirmed Mr M has parkinsonism. The subcategory is still unknown, but I don't think it's lewy bodies, which would be a disaster. Started medication, so let's see. I'm devastated (not on front of him) he's oddly taking it in his stride. Ahhh...:cuss:

Anyway, that's all my craic. The future is unknown. Thanks be to God I gave up the booze when I did.

[starty]

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Oh Mary I am so desperately sorry. I totally understand your devastation and need to keep it to yourself. It is good he is taking it in his stride. Keep an eye in case it takes time to sink in....for both of you. Mr S was similar, there was no tears, and very matter of fact. Over time it has settled for both of us and I hope it is the same for you and Mr M. I cried when we were told together, but not since. I hope the medication offers relief and you both get the support that you need. I found comfort and still do, in the numerous Facebook groups and YouTube vids I found about Mr S condition. I relay him the good bits and push the rubbish bits to the back of my mind. Being out of the booze cycle is an absolute blessing x

[mollyka]

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So sorry Mary...I know little of the condition but I guess from your post it's worrying you greatly...all I can say is a generalisation....but after the shock subsides for you and you find out more of what it will mean for you both...wecadapt...people adapt...we learn to work our life around it.
Try not to overthink it until you find out the full likely implications

Thinking of you and sending hugs xxxx

[rustop59]

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Thinking of you and sending hugs xxxx

Thinking of you also Mary. Like Molly I don?t know a lot about the condition. Thank God you don?t drink and are facing it with a clear head.

Off west in a hired van with a bed and other stuff. Catch up later.

[mollyka]

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Thinking of you also Mary. Like Molly I don?t know a lot about the condition. Thank God you don?t drink and are facing it with a clear head.

Off west in a hired van with a bed and other stuff. Catch up later.

Sun still blazing here Rusters
.bring the suncream!!!

[IamMary]

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Thanks everyone for the lovely kind understanding words. We will adapt, it'll be a slow burner, so thats something.
I've started doing the same thing [MENTION=22456]starty[/MENTION], researching everything and filtering what he should and shouldn't see.

Another warm day. Have to pickup older daughter from babysitting now.
Eldest so exhausted from exams..

Night!!

[mollyka]

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Thanks everyone for the lovely kind understanding words. We will adapt, it'll be a slow burner, so thats something.
I've started doing the same thing [MENTION=22456]starty[/MENTION], researching everything and filtering what he should and shouldn't see.

Another warm day. Have to pickup older daughter from babysitting now.
Eldest so exhausted from exams..

Night!!

I've learnt as I've got older that nothing in life is perfect....and I'm sure you'll learn to work around the condition....I may be speaking out of turn here ....but...I would be careful about how you face up to it...if you take responsibility for telling him what may be next stage it could work against you maybe....as in...I would imagine he will delve into what may be ahead and if you don't say anything he may end up shielding you?
Crikey you know your own relationship best and what works so obviously do what you think is right...it could be hard on you too tho if you've to shoulder it all?

Morning all else xx

[rustop59]

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Good morning everyone

God you were not wrong about the heat Molly. Was absolutely roasting in the west and the midges came out in full force. Little buggers ran me inside yesterday evening.

Slept upstairs for the first time. Much more space but very warm. Two velux windows in it but I was afraid to leave them open in case bats came into me during the night! Need to think up some way of putting a screen over them. The joys of country living.

Up very early and had the van back by 10 am. Think I am just going to chill for the day.

Molly is right Mary, you need support in all of this too. Vent away here if you need to. Hope everyone has a lovely Saturday.

[mollyka]

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Good morning everyone

God you were not wrong about the heat Molly. Was absolutely roasting in the west and the midges came out in full force. Little buggers ran me inside yesterday evening.

Slept upstairs for the first time. Much more space but very warm. Two velux windows in it but I was afraid to leave them open in case bats came into me during the night! Need to think up some way of putting a screen over them. The joys of country living.

Up very early and had the van back by 10 am. Think I am just going to chill for the day.

Molly is right Mary, you need support in all of this too. Vent away here if you need to. Hope everyone has a lovely Saturday.

Are bats in the bedrooms a Mayo thing?:hahaha:
Slightly nosy neighbour across the road SHOT into my driveway as I was LITERALLY moving in with a van to warn me not to leave windows open at night cos of bats!!?
I obeyed last year but couldn't cope with the heat this year so just take a chance!!

[rustop59]

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Are bats in the bedrooms a Mayo thing?:hahaha:
Slightly nosy neighbour across the road SHOT into my driveway as I was LITERALLY moving in with a van to warn me not to leave windows open at night cos of bats!!?
I obeyed last year but couldn't cope with the heat this year so just take a chance!!

Probably because a lot of the county is so rural. Think I will have to take a chance next time too. This cottage was left unoccupied most of the year and bats actually got into roof space at one stage. We have seen them flying around so I know they are there, prefer not to have them in the bedroom though.

[mollyka]

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Probably because a lot of the county is so rural. Think I will have to take a chance next time too. This cottage was left unoccupied most of the year and bats actually got into roof space at one stage. We have seen them flying around so I know they are there, prefer not to have them in the bedroom though.

Oh I agree...I hate when there's a fly in the house never mind a bat in my bedroom!!! Small price to pay for the best county in Ireland!!!

[starty]

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I've learnt as I've got older that nothing in life is perfect....and I'm sure you'll learn to work around the condition....I may be speaking out of turn here ....but...I would be careful about how you face up to it...if you take responsibility for telling him what may be next stage it could work against you maybe....as in...I would imagine he will delve into what may be ahead and if you don't say anything he may end up shielding you?
Crikey you know your own relationship best and what works so obviously do what you think is right...it could be hard on you too tho if you've to shoulder it all?

Morning all else xx

I think you are right in many ways Molls. Yes, its important not to take all of the brunt of worry etc. But for us, I want him to be positive about his condition. His research is mainly what the hospital gave him which is good but not personal experiences which can be very positive. Although I am reading the good and bad, it gives us talking points and he is aware of the dodgy stuff. I think at first, I just wanted to keep him positive but over time he has taken control of his health and I can sit back and relax more. At the beginning though being the person I am, I felt the need to control at bit. Thankfully no real need to do that unless he is on a bit of a downer and I can shove some positivity his way. What I am trying to say and probably not very well is its defo a team effort.

Mary, is Mr M able to work at all? I hope that he is able to find some comfort in knowing what is wrong can move forward from there a bit.

Roasting here this weekend. After the cold weather we have had (heating on again last week) it is a pleasant change. It would be nice if it could settle so its less extreme.

[starty]

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I love bats. Watch them in the garden sometimes diving for insects :haha:

[rustop59]

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I love bats. Watch them in the garden sometimes diving for insects :haha:

Good morning

Love looking at them outside too, just would not want to share a bedroom with them. Funny enough we leave bedroom window downstairs open but the velux in the roof seems more open to them.

Another beautiful morning here. Walked the doggies down by the river. Going to potter about in the garden for the day. Glad Mr S has taken responsibility for his health. Think it?s more of a worry having a loved one ill than yourself. Hope you are ok Mary, you have a lot to deal with, leaving cert etc.