What to do?

[8Ball]

Hi There,
I am happily married to a Great woman and loving mother of my two teenage boys. I need a little advise though, My wife drinks alot and I have also noticed that when calling her threw-out the day her words get alittle boggled . In the past four to five months I noticed her acting funny. I on many occassions have gotten upset with her and told her that she is drunk and that she has a problem. My two boys also noticed the change in her. I have thrown out all the alcohol in the house . She got me nurveous this morning the way she was acting that I made her get dressed and was on our way to the hosiptal, thats when she started to cry and said she won't drink nomore. I am at my witts end, I love this lady with all my heart and will do anything to support her. Could somebody please lead me in the right direction.
Thank you for the shoulder
8Ball

[Accountable for Me]

What to do?

Hi 8ball. You are a wonderful husband to seek out support for your wife. I have to say that is fantastic. She is a lucky woman. I would maybe have her see her doctor? If she is in the pit of this disease, she will need all of the support she can get. Her doctor maybe able to prescribe her something for the cravings and also he might be able to talk to her to see if maybe something is wrong - like depression. I think a good place to start would be to have a heart to heart with her if you can. Express you care immensely about her and you want to help her. If she is bottling up some emotional issues, she may feel comfortable discussing them with you. The next step would be for her to see her doctor. These are my suggestions. She is lucky to have you. I hope everything will work out well. Keep us posted............. and I am sure others will have good advice for you too.

Also, I was wondering if she would be willing to participate on these boards? There are a lot of women (and men) here who would be a great support system for her. It really has helped me.

[Noella]

What to do?

8ball: The best things my bf said to me when I finally faced the fact that my drinking was out of control and I had found this place was "I'm glad for you - I was really worried" He is also very supportive when we go out and I choose not to drink... if anyone asks why I usually say I'm on a diet. If they press me, he's the one who (jokingly of course) says "back off man!" It helps so much!

Also, I'm sure you've noticed, but just in case - there's a section of this site specifically for family members (and friends) of people who drink. That may be a great place to get some answers/support from people on the other side!

-N

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[Finkle]

What to do?

Hi there,

You sound to me like my other half. He is also very supportive and has also decided to moderate his drinking for the sake of myself. I would tend to agree with accountable, take your wife to her GP, she will more than likely refuse at first due to the embarrassment of it all. Just remind her that she has nothing to be ashamed of whatsoever. Good luck, keep us up to date.