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    #16
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    Gumby, I can relate. I start my day the same way..."no more drinking, this is the day". Then I reach the evening and want the wine...
    Good luck...hope today is the first day of the rest of your life without it and mine too...

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      #17
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      Why?

      The number one reason I want to quit drinking is for me. I do not want to die by drinking this poison. I do not want to waist my life away being drunk, sick and not remembering the day before and I deserve to be happy and healthy and live! Your number 2 resons why is those 3 daughters! My parents were alcoholics, me, my sister and brother are now alcoholics and my 2 children are now alcoholics. Do you really want to pass this death disease down to them? Of course not! Children learn from you and imatate you as they grow up. You will be amazed at how happy and healthy you feel the longer you quit drinking alcohol. Do it for yourself and do it for your girls, who I know you love and want to have a better life than this! YOU CAN DO THIS! We are here to help you!
      I'm not what I should be, I'm not what I could be. I'm definetly not who I want to be,
      but I'm sure not who I used to be!

      There is no pit so deep that God's love is not deeper still.

      "I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS ME." Phil 4:13

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        #18
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        4myhealth...Funny thing that we start out with such strong intentions in the morning, and it is as though all will has been depleted come 5pm....all inhibition is gone and I find my self rationalizing why it is I can have some wine, maybe just 2 glasses tonight then it becomes three and so on and so forth. I refer to this as the the nightly battle followed by the AM blues. I'll be glad to have that out of my life...it is just not worth it anymore!

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          #19
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          Gumby,

          Good luck at 5:00. Luckily, I will be at my son's swim lessons, so no chance for wine...then shopping for shoes for my other son. Maybe I can make it. ...maybe I'll come to this site if I feel I want a glass, to help me avoid it. Wait the 20 minutes, hope it goes away. I saw that you ordered the Bac. I've been thinking about that or the Topomax (bc weight loss would be a nice side effect However, this is only the 2nd day I've been on this website and actually never even knew there were drugs to deal with the cravings. It scares me a bit. I may have to wait a while to get up the nerve to order. Side effects scare me. Let me know how you do with it.

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            #20
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            4MyHealth,

            The drugs scare me to....but so does the thought of continuing with this self destructive drinking behavoir. I have three beautiful girls and a wonderful husband that I need to be there for...this is why I want more then anything to quit forever! Sounds like you have enough to keep you busy tonight....good luck and you are in a good place to start! I will keep posting!

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              #21
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              Why:

              I want to be sober more than I want to drink.

              I want to live more than I want to die. (there was a time when I wasn't so sure about that)

              DG
              Sobriety Date = 5/22/08
              Nicotine Free Date = 2/27/07

              One day at a time.

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                #22
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                I can't say it enough

                I bet you are doing better than before you were on this site. Look at hte small successes- less is better and you are not afailure for having none. Heck my in laws have drank daily since the age of 16-- scotch at 5 (1 or 2) then wine with dinner-- so do I think it is good or right? Well no-- but they have managed to not beat themselves to death about drinking daily-- they look at it as a way to connect and socialize. Again-- I do not necessarlily agree ith them and my MILs parents were both alcoholics who died of cirrhosis in their 50s so there is a reason to stop. Still they are highly functioning, old and living life. Why do I say this? Because you WILL come terms with it. If it can't be one glass or 2 then stop then you will deal with it becuase you have realized you should. Inever knwo how much fols are drinking. I kill myslef over 3 or 4 galsse o wine a day if I do that-- some would not-- it is all personal. But the facvt that you are here-- well-- that shows you CAN do something!

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                  #23
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                  Day 3 dawning and it feels good to sleep well. Not falling into a heavy sleep only to wake up 4 hours later and watch the clock for the rest of the night!! My # 3 reason for doing this is SLEEP!!

                  Sick of being Sick: You are so right about ME being the # 1 reason to do this. Other times I have tried I have focused on doing it for my girls or my husband - VERY important but to make this work I have to focus on why I am doing it for me this time!!

                  Hoping: I am with you AL consumes so much of my thought. I look forward to getting back all the time I spend/spent thinking about that glass of wine!

                  Gumby: I, too always start the day with strong resolve only to find it is gone by 5 pm. I also am gunhoe on the first few days only to get to day 3 or so wondering What is the big deal. I can have a glass of wine like everyone else. Slippery slope!

                  4MyHealth: Keeping busy during that witching hour especially with my kids is the best strategy!

                  DoggyGirl: I have been here maybe longer than you and remember your low times. I am SO glad you are where you are.:l

                  ATLtrash: There are many who chose to be heavy drinkers. I cannot worry about whether it is a problem for them or not. I just have to admit that it is a problem for me. I cannot stop at one glass of wine . . at least not if I have access to the bottle. I drink alone. I hide what I am drinking. I am obsessed at times of thoughts of alcohol. I am not interested in labels but if that makes me an alcoholic then that is what I am. Regardless I have to get a handle on it and move on!!!

                  All, Have a great Wednesday!!!:hug:

                  Reason 1: ME Reason 2: My girls Reason 3: sleep

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                    #24
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                    Hi all,
                    Day 4 and I am going to keep this thread going if only for myself. (After all, it's all about me LOL . . . just kidding!!) :H

                    Day 4 is always my tricky day and will be tonight. I have a social gathering and wine will be served!!!! I am already planning my excuses not to imbibe . . . I have gained weight . . . I am getting over a stomach bug . . . I have a busy day tomorrow. What ya think?

                    At any rate reason 4 . . . . I HATE when I find that I don't remember things because I have had that extra glass of wine . . . little things, plans, conversations. With my perimenopausal brain I may not remember them anyways but I hate to have it be because of the wine!!!!

                    Happy Thursday!inkele:

                    Reason 1: ME Reason 2: My girls Reason 3: Sleep Reason 4: Memory

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                      #25
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                      I'm in peri, too, reboot... It's hard enough without throwing alcohol into the mix! I say to tell folks whatever you have to tell them tonight to avoid the wine. Pretty much everybody knows that wine lessens the effects of antibiotics, so you could always say you're on one of those, too. Whatever it takes. I'll be thinking of you!

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                        #26
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                        reboot, :goodjob: well done on day 4. i hope your evening goes well, if you can do this you can do anything. anti biotics is a good excuse, not that it is anyones business anyway.
                        Today is the tomorrow i worried about yesterday and it turned out fine
                        Keep passing the open windows

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                          #27
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                          Why I don't want to drink:

                          I do not want to drink because I have spent the last 20 years drinking too much.
                          I don't want to drink, because I have woken up so many mornings saying 'today I will stop' only to drink again in the evening.
                          I don't want to drink because I now want to be 'present' in my life and make it work for me.
                          I don't want to drink because, I want to learn to deal with my emotions and thoughts (the ones I have been running from for so many years).
                          I don't want to drink because I LOATHE the feeling of waking up hungover and so disappointed in myself.
                          I don't want to drink because I feel I have wasted so much time already in my life.
                          I don't want to drink, because booze is not my friend....it is a deadly enemy of mine.
                          I don't want to drink, because I am worth more.

                          (I could go on and on...) :-)
                          Amelia

                          Sober since 30/06/10

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                            #28
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                            Fennel and Spuddleduck - good thoughts. I really did not need any excuse. It was my decision. No one pressured me. I did well at first drinking water and then succumbed. No one's fault but my OWN!! I did not drink as much as I could have but far more than I wanted to!!! ARGHHHHHH!!!!!:bang

                            Yesterday I was out walking my dog through a big clear field walking between a softball and a baseball game, enjoying the beautiful spring day thinking about how wonderful it was to be there, be alive, be present and most of all being sober. I really burned that feeling in my mind. I am looking at that as my highlight of my day rather that sipping wine and playing tiles . . . . the tiles were fun . . . the wine NOT necessary.

                            Amelia - I love ALL your whys especially being present in your life and making it worth. I, too have emotions that I numb out and just need to feel.:l

                            At any rate, here goes again but the why list continues until I overcome this!!!!

                            Reason 1: ME Reason 2: My girls Reason 3: Sleep Reason 4: Memory Reason 5: Presence

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                              #29
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                              Reboot,
                              It is great you made it as far as you did, and you can just start right back over. I can tell you it is more then myself....I am hanging on to the excuse I'm waiting till the Baclofen arrives. I had wanted to slow up....but those dam thoughts in my head on the way home from work just psyche me up for a drink....and they have been winning!! If you went the four days, then you can do more.

                              My reasons Myself, My 3 girls, My husband, My parents and Clarity...I forgot what that was like.

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                                #30
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                                Gumby,
                                Hang in there!!! You are right we have great reasons - I have 3 girls too!!!!
                                Reboot

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