Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

[Enough!]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

Hey all!

A huge welcome back to MB... Lots of hugs from me. I hope your daughter gets better soon. The most important thing is you are back. Keep in touch!

ST... Hope you are doing well. Try not to miss the drink. Don't give it any control.

Juja... I hear you! I hate shopping period. Cross a few things off that lost off "to dos" especially the sex.

I am reading the book... Also still drinking some wine... But feel a little different- it's not as consuming! Does that make sense? I may drink a little, but I am not obsessing as much.

On a positive note... Family is off to the beach for the weekend. Ahhhh. Normally I would be "planning the bar" 3 wine... Or should we bring more... 1 case beer, some vodka... Not this time... what ever hubby brings is fine. Can't wait to relax.

I am around and will check in later.
Enough!

[shueaddict]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

Hi all,

Just checking in. Made the gym and having a manicure now. I am determined to make today AF.

Mby, we're here for you, recognizing where you are is a big step forward onto itself.

Enough, come on, girl, we need to get our mojo back on. I scored ZERO AF days in Oct, terrible.

Juja, i find it that it takes me a lot less energy to just have sex rather than constantly fighting to dodge it, just saying.


Have a good weekend all

[shueaddict]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

enough ... enjoy the beach .... tomorrow we get the first snow:upset:

[mby82266]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

I made it through the 1st day. not really sure it counts because I was so sick, really bad migraine spent most of my day in agony and vomiting. slept good and woke up feeling much better. Today will be my 1st day trying to stay AF and dealing with the world. taking supplements and drinking lots of water. I hope everyone has a good day!

[Juja]

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Hang in there, mby! Don't let it beat you!

Glad you're feeling better.

[athome]

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Hey all, its meeee again! Feeling great this morning! Went to the dreaded mothers 60th birthday bash last night and sailed throught the night without a drop of alcohol passing my lips! It was a bit hard to get into the spirit of things as the baby had me up at 530am so by the time the party started i was well and truly ready for bed. If i was drinking it would have kept me awake and i would have been the life and soul of the party but i just ate food and drank lemonade. Could have had more fun if wasnt so tired i guess. EVERYONE was drunk by 9pm.....snippets of conversation here and there, but making less and less sense as the night wore on. For the first half of the night i kinda wanted to say feck it and drink but by that time i was glad i wasnt stupid and talking rubbish! My partner got very drunk and wouldnt leave at 11pm as he promised he would...had to try to drag him out at least 5 times which i found quite embarrassing. I had asked him that if he was going to drink, it would be noticed that i wasnt and not to make me into the party pooper when we were leaving by making a scene about going home. Thats exactly what happened tho so am a bit annoyed about that! He's still unconscious in bed while im up and at em tho, punishment enough i spose.
Anyway....10 days now for me and am feeling good. Dont give up everyone, its only hard occasionally but if you persevere the rewards the next day are worth it! If i had drank id have woken up this morning with numb hands and feet (which happened regualarly) a horrible head full of guilt and running the evening around in my head (the bits i could remember) and cringeing and regretting the whole thing. Instead im feeling grand and going to get on with my day as its nice and sunny here for a change Talk soon xx

[hadit]

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Hello Athame !and well done staying AF during a party where booze is calling you!! Yes, it can be really hard, but the next day is just so good without a hangover. Just imagine how all the other drinkers were feeling the next morning?:goodjob:

[athome]

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Thanks boozer...am delighted with myself How are you getting on?

[hadit]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

I am good thanks. I have been lurking around MWO for a couple of years and just recently realised that IF you read the posts and are prepared to take all the wonderful advice,IT can make a difference. I used to drink everyday..... a bottle or 2 of wine. Had done for years. But since I have been with MWO and particularily in recent times I am notching up more and more AF days. I dont get to stressed about counting tha days 1,2,3etc af,I just look back over the week/fortnight and say, OK, I have one bottle of wine on 2 occassions during the last week. thats a hell ov a lot better than I was !!! I also try and notch up AF weekends and have had success there as well. ODAT or is it OWAT seems to be working for me. Hpe this helps started L glutamine 2 days ago but to early to tell if it works)

[athome]

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Im not sure what ODAT or OWAT mean >> WEll done....you're doing well alright, hard to break habits we've had forever! I also drank bucket loads of wine....even started disliking it but drank it anyway Am loving how im feeling AF but do find it tempting to just throw in the towel for one night and get drunk.....I havent yet but do get tempted! If i drink 'one' night then ill be into the viscious cycle of one more night wont hurt etc..... gotta keep it together xx

[Sick'ntired]

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Hi all..

Back from my weekend away and didn't remain AF free, couple of ciders (light) at lunch followed by a couple of sparkling wine early afternoon and then a couple of (large) glasses of red with cheese and biscuits and....... I had a blast, remebered everything, lots and lots of laughs with mates, went to bed, thank goodness with the aid of AL as I was sharing a double with all 4 kids as their blow up mattresses had been eaten by rats (joy), no hangover Sunday, one G&T for lunch, back home yesterday thought about finishing wine, didn't feel like it so threw it way (shock horror!) so starts another AF week. I know some out there will look at it as a failure, however 8 nights AF is still 8 bottles of wine less than usual, I was more aware of how much I was drinking on the weekend which made me slow down.

Congrats Athome for staying AF at the 60th! Mby, you have had stacks of stress don't beat yourself up I think it is best to look the future. Shue looking forward to hearing that the 10th, 11th, 12th and 13th are AF days for you. Enough I am begining to wonder if the obsessing about AL isn't our problem, hubby seems to think it's that!

Lastly thanks everyone for being encouraging. Happened to read a post by Mauritiusdodo and she had a negative comment and I think her last reply to was she is going to try and do it alone, best of wishes to her, I just know seeing that there are others out there in the same boat (sometimes tippsy, sometimes calm and steady) has made a world of difference to me....

[Sick'ntired]

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Crickey Shue, I dont' even know what day it is!! Maybe the drinks had more of an effect than I thought.... lets make 17th, 18th, 19th and 20th AF, ha ha....

[Sick'ntired]

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Just went to brush my teeth and am worried that my comment about me having a blast may be taken the wrong way so just want to clarify, the only reason why I enjoyed the drinks I had is because I drank in moderation (perhaps not in everyones books but mine) and I didn't get blind drunk stumbling around with black-outs (which was the norm for me and def not to be recommended).... I would hate!!! for anyone to think 'feck it' that is what I am missing out on (because you're not and I am envious of Athome staying stronger than me at the 60th!), this sort of weekend was very rare for us, esp. not having to drive (we are so remote there isn't even an option of taxi's)! Hope this makes sense.. Cheers for now.

[mauritiusdodo]

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Day one again for me, am sticking around the boards cos I NEED the support of all you lovely people, hope everyone is having a good day?

[hadit]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

Athome, Sorry, ODAT = One Day At a Time. I also use One Week At a Time. In the very early stages for me, it was One hour at at a time. I am still struggling, but I find it better now not io get to stressed about counting the days after you have 3 or 4 under your belt. I just do a reality check everynow and then and look back where I was... 1 to 1.5 bottles a day to now......... 1 bottle in over 10 days. I think it does get easier as u rid your body of the drug. The main thing is to read as many posts as you can...I think it is very much a learning process. After a lifetime of drinking it isn't going to be easy, but lots of others have achieved success so it can be done! The other thing I have learnt is to pick yourself up, dont punish yourself if you do have a slip. Good Luck!!