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    #1

    Advice/links please?

    Hi all, I am still really struggling with my husbands attitude to me for the past few weeks, I appreciate that he has been hurt by my past drinking in the respect that he has felt pushed away etc... but really he is making me feel like I was the worst drunk ever, that I was drunk every day morning, noon and night and I have committed mass murder or something! I have asked him if he still loves me and he says he does but thats as far as it goes, he hasn't shown me any affection at all for the past few weeks, he is usually very touchy feely and loving but he is barely kissing me goodbye now He was very supportive in the first month, even bought me flowers and a well done card and said how proud he was of me. I know that I have a lot of work to do to say sorry and to make up for the way I have been but he seems like he doesn't want me to try I feel so lonely and upset, struggling to eat and having nightmares again

    I guess I just want to know has anyone else been treated like this after quitting? If you have any similar experience or know of any threads of any please please post and help me, I feel like I am losing my mind
    One day at a time - this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has yet to come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering...
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    1 Reasons Your Marriage Fails After You Quit Drinking Alcohol

    There are sublinks in there to Madon that I hope may help, I do hope you get through this as I know how hard it is.


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      #3
      Is your husband a drinker and were you a drinker when you got together?

      Regards


      Bacman
      I am not a Doctor - I am an alcoholic.
      Thoughts expressed here are my own, often poorly put together and littered with atrocious grammar and spelling.

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        #4
        Originally posted by Baclofenman View Post
        Is your husband a drinker and were you a drinker when you got together?

        Regards


        Bacman
        He does drink and did drink more when I was drinking but he isn't an alcoholic, I have been a drinker since I was in my teens so yes, I was when I met him
        One day at a time - this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has yet to come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering...

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          #5
          i just found this and it makes a lot of sense!!Recovering a Relationship after Addiction | Living Sober
          One day at a time - this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has yet to come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering...

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            #6
            Just wrote a long post that got lost...

            Was going to ask what Pauly did.

            Also, The Bubble Hour (thebubblehour.com) podcast has episodes on detachment and relationships.

            Good luck.

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              #7
              Originally posted by madonmehndi View Post
              He does drink and did drink more when I was drinking but he isn't an alcoholic, I have been a drinker since I was in my teens so yes, I was when I met him
              Do you think he might be missing "his old friend" and be resentful towards the changes your new found soberdom has had on your relationship?

              Regards


              Bacman
              I am not a Doctor - I am an alcoholic.
              Thoughts expressed here are my own, often poorly put together and littered with atrocious grammar and spelling.

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                #8
                Originally posted by Baclofenman View Post
                Do you think he might be missing "his old friend" and be resentful towards the changes your new found soberdom has had on your relationship?

                Regards


                Bacman
                I know that my ex really struggled when I became sober as I was the one who had made HIS drinking "normal".

                He also loved the person I was when a bit tipsy, as I was never a troublesome drunk.

                He lost control over me when I was sober.... he had to look at himself and I regained my analytical powers and questioned him a lot more.

                Sobriety is often a double edged sword.

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