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[Dolly Sunshine]

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I also wanted to say there were times that I wanted to be there and I wasn't there b/c I was trashed. I KNOW you don't want that to happen. So just follow on the course you are on and you will be the best support system you can be I truly don't want to be harsh but this hit close to home and I know how I reacted and what it led to and I don't want you to throw away what you have accomplished. I won't sugarcoat anything it sucks. But drunk it sucks and you have regrets and a long road back.

[gyco]

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wishing your neice well my nephew justleft sick childrens they removed a brain tumor its been a year he seems to be doin well hope this gives you some hope shes young that i think gives her better odds

[meditation mama]

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I am so sorry!

I am very happy you had an AF beer handy. I have had a few slips this year and I cantell you, they made NOTHING better. Stay strong, stay close and know that you have support here.

I will keep yor niece in my thoughts and prayers.

Namaste,

MM

[Accountable for Me]

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I am so sorry for the horrific news you, and your family have received.

Nothing is more devastating than an ill child. It breaks my heart.

Thank goodness it was found early and they can start treatment right away.

Sending all affected prayers and strength. :l

[Ripple]

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oh dear.

OMgodness that is shocking! don't go to extremes yet. we live in a day and age where cures are right at our finger tips...thinking about you. :l

[LVT25]

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Wanted to offer my support also. Cancer sucks! I will say a prayer for you and your family.:h Wish there was more I could do.

[KateH1]

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4theboys,
I am so very sorry to hear this. Yes, it is terribly sad when a child gets seriously ill. I am happy to hear that they caught it early and I pray that she will be well, very soon.

So very proud and happy that you are maintaining your sobriety through this! That is one of the best gifts you can give your niece. Stay strong and take care of yourself as well.

XX Kate

[Finding My Self]

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Thinking of you and your little neice and other family just now.....what a horrible shocking shock....

Well done for hanging in there - nowt wrong with an AF beer - just don't let Al into the picture....you're doing so well. It's natural to seek something to fill that comfort need - just like a feed for us as a baby did - chocolate, cake, mashed banana!, hot-chocolate, even an AF beer..... You don't need alcohol and you knew it....good on you!

I'm sending prayers and thoughts to you tonight...
Love FMS xx

[Prest4time]

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4TB,

I'm seeing this late, but just wanted to say I will say a prayer for your niece and know that you have a lot of support here. My Mom had cancer a year-and-a-half ago and was told she had six months to live. She pursued treatment anyway and she is completely cancer-free and is getting married in August! Everyone here in this community was so supportive to me during the roller coaster of emotions I was on. I drank myself numb on more than one occasion and it certainly made me more depressed and things much worse. You are doing fantastic!

I'm very sorry and I am believing this will have a wonderful outcome with the treatments available to her now.

Take care,
P4T

[Lucy Van Pelt]

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4TB-

I just caught this thread. I can so understand your fears. My niece had cancer as well, and so I know how scary this is. Hang in there, cause your sibling will need you now more than ever. It sounds like an early diagnosis, and this is VERY good, with a potential for return to full health. But not an easy ride. Drinking will just make it worse for you, and you won't be able to provide the necessary support.

So good for you for not caving!! I am praying for the health of your niece and for your whole family's well-being!!

With love,

Beth

[greeneyes]

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I'm so sorry 4tb.... Keeping you and your family. Stay strong!

[Determinator]

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4thboyz, so very sorry to hear of this. Extra strength to you bro. your very right...being healthy is not just for you...kudos for realizing that.

see you on ABs and stay the course.

[dove]

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i am hugging you and crying with you......so sorry
dove

[AMELIA]

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I have only just read this too. Sending you my love and best wishes 4theboyz.
xxx

[4theboyz]

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This is so great, ask for help, *and you get it*!!

Stuff like this really hits hard especially when you have your own little ones to watch over. This news came at a time when we were all to get together on Saturday with my nieces family but they obviously stayed away for the attention it would bring.

Anyway all us parents are all in collective shock praying for the best. We don't yet know everything and it is all speculation until further testing is completed this week. More test on Saturday didn't completely rule in or rule out Leukemia, something *good* about white cell levels did come up but there are concerning images on her x-rays that are fairly definitive of a cancer growth in the area of her knee and her back pain which brought this all to the for front is still of big concern.

But this girls is a scrapper and will not let this just roll over her and her parents will provide for the best care possible.

Why is it that it seems to take tragedies to come our way for us to take stock in what is important in our lives? Suddenly kids toys all over the family room are a blessing, when the kids fighting and tussling during the Cubs game I join in instead of telling them to take it outside. I want to tell my own kids why I feel this way but I don't want to burden their little lives yet with life's cruel curve balls quite yet as those moments will come soon enough.

I took time this weekend to reflect a bit on my drinking and how alcohol would have made this moment somehow less real. AL would have numbed out the immediacy and provided a secure distance from the emotions involved. I would not have felt that rush of shock the way I did on Friday, I would not have felt the pain in my gut over the cruelness of the days ahead for this girl. It seems pitiful that my life once functioned on such a disconnected emotional level but for these same moments, I can see is why many including myself prefer the comfort AL can provide when the realities of life force us to experience things and be accountable for feelings we would otherwise prefer to avoid.

In closing I will say with all sincerity that everyone here at MWO really made a difference for me as knowing that so many others do go through their days and life's struggles AF gave me strength to ride this one out AF as well!