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[nancy]

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rock bottoms

Sounds like both of you have been through very rough nights.
I hope you will try to have compassion for yourselves, that's the way out.

At the same time, bad behavior like that (even if you have compassion for yourself about it), has an obviously bad effect on your close relationships. So you should try to use this as a way of making change, better life and better relationships, while also not being overly judgmental of yourself. Use this to motivate change. Have compassion about the cause but also realize the effects.

I agree witih DG that it's important to avoid free-flowing booze situations. If you are aiming for abstinence avoid and if aiming to reduce drinking/reduce harm, cut drinking in those situations out.

[mauritiusdodo]

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Hello everyone, I made it through my first day AF and determined not to drink today, I downloaded Jason Vale's book and am already 101 pages in, it is so well written and I relate to almost every point he makes!

Did my car boot sale and we made ?125 so I am really pleased

[Unwasted]

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Mauri, you sound so much better! That's great news. So glad you're relating to the book. It will help you, I really believe that!!

[Doggygirl]

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Good going MD! One day at a time is good.

DG

[mauritiusdodo]

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On page 134 of the book now and it is just amazing! it is like he has crawled into my head and is reading my thoughts, I honestly didn't think reading a book would affect me so much but it has moved me to tears!

I am having a bad day so far with my small son waking at 4.55am and not going back to sleep despite numerous attempts and consequently he is being a little monkey cos he is overtired I am feeling reallly down and depressed which I think is probably AL related but I was AF again yesterday so hoping it is all soon out of my system and I can start to rebuild my health and my life, I honestly don't think I am going to drink again, I really think this book has changed me, I can't wait to finish reading it, going to see if my mum will have my son today for a couple of hours to give me time.

[mauritiusdodo]

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Thanks mollyka :l

[kaza]

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Hello Mauri
Well done on the book. Pop into the Undies drawer - remember "MyHappyPlace" come talk to us there as well, Remember you and Happy were both there for me in February this year, so I would love it if you got together with us again there too. Keep hanging in there friend, it will get better, that I do promise you. Remember - baby steps - one day at a time, don't push yourself and don't overdo anything, don't beat yourself up either, we are all in the same boat and are all trying to do the same thing, so please, be kind to yourself and Love and Sunshine Kaz xx

[Unwasted]

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Mauri - THRILLED about the book for you! It did it for me and I haven't had one single solitary moment of wanting to drink since finishing it. I think it's that powerful!

I hope you can get a break today - don't let being tired be a catalyst into making you drink. It will pass. Hang in and finish the book - it's the best think that will ever happen to you IMHO.

:l:l

[Accountable for Me]

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Ah, I so can relate to what happened to you, Mauri!

I was where you are a few years back. I had a VERY similar experience at my sister's house; hallucinations, wetting (the bed), screaming bloody murder in the middle of the night.

It didn't stop me from drinking for a few years though. But, it was really the start of a reality check that my drinking was really, really affecting me.

I wish I had of quit drinking then and there. If you can, you will be so much better off!!! I kept chancing. Thinking I could 'moderate' for years. That was a joke. I wish that I had heeded the warnings back then. I typically go many months of sobriety, then have a binge. My last one being in April where I ended up in the Emergency Room not knowing how I got there. That scared the pants off of me. Whoa! Don't let that be you!!

One foot in front of the other. One day at a time, one minute at a time..... if need be.

Sending you tons of strength. xo

[Boots]

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Jason Vale book

Hi Mauri,
Its me Boots from our first day together! I am on day 3 AF. And I too can not put the Vale
book down. It seems to help . I was just at the grocery and had to walk through the wine
and beer to get to the cheese section and all I kept thinking was was this poison was doing
to me. I have tried AA, Topamax, Moderate, gaba, L-glutiminte, you name it. But the cravings were always there. Last night my husband had a drink and the smell nausiated me.
Hope this feeling stays. Of course that smashed up car in the driveway is helping too!
Good luck to us!

[mauritiusdodo]

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Boots - :goodjob: IKWYM I went to buy groceries today and saw a guy buying gin and wine, usually it would have made me succumb but today I actually wondered why he was buying so much and if he was having a party or drinking it all himself! I had NO desire to buy any at all

BSPCA at least you have finally seen the light

[Boots]

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Day 6th!

:thanks:I know we should not count the days (Vale) but I've never made it this far! And I am enjoying it! I definitly have my triggers, especially getting the kids homework done, dinner on the table, kids washed and to bed and house clean and laundry done after a days work! That is usually when I started with the first vodka shot. I was up to at least 7 a night. But I am enjoying it as know I look at it as my adjusment period, and a quick run into my room to reread a chapter! Mostly I enjoy the mornings, free of headaches, stomachaches, shakes
and foul temper and bad breath! Off to the gym!

[looking for peace]

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Great going Boots and MD!

[Unwasted]

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Nice post AFM - and good for you Mauri and Boots! I hope the concept of freedom is sinking in for you -- you're both sounding very positive. Wishing the best for you!

[Doggygirl]

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Hey all - and especially Boots. I haven't read Vale's book - I'm glad to read around the forum that it's helping people. There are lots of different ways to slay the beast. Some people count and some don't. I'm sober, and happy, and I count! Day 1,239 for me. Whatever works.

DG