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[manOman]

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Hi Raven and Hi Kate,

I am Katesm. I had a hissy fit and resigned my membership. I have still logged on and read posts but never felt a need to reply. I do not want to misrepresent myself, which is why I am saying who I am.

But you guys have it right. There is nothing stronger than choice. "Trying" doesn't cut it for me. You do it. And you choose to do it.

The moment you use the word "slip" or "trying" is the moment you allow yourself lack of control. That is why I use "choice".

I get to choose if I screw up or fight.

And I fight.

[KateH1]

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KatesM.....Thank you for letting me know it is you!! So happy to see you, my friend from down under! I am happy that you decided to come back to mwo.....you contribute so much here. Your "Voddy" thread is one of the most powerful threads every written here......it brought me to my knees in my early days of sobriety.

XXX other Kate!

[manOman]

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Ha! Hi Kate other one.

Massive hugs right back at you!

[Guitarista]

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Hi KateH1, and Man o man! and thank's as alway's for the thread Mario.

KateH1,
I have a request of you. How would you feel about posting a bit of a speil on your thought's, and feeling's/life etc, on being almost 2.5 yrs sober? I reckon many here would benifit, and if you feel a little embarressed by doing it, you can blame me.....;-)
I trust all's well, Greg.

[manOman]

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Hi Greg,

I'm not KateH, I'm Katesm. I started sober in Jan 06. Had a massive crisis in July 07 and immediately put myself in hospital. I have not touched alcohol since. But it's a fight all the time. Not so much anymore, but I am concious that I would be succeptible if I didn't concentrate on choice.

I choose not to drink. I have a friend at another forum that uses the catchcry of "Never pick up the first drink". I believe this is silly. We need to not WANT to pick up the first drink.

Again, back to choice.

You sound like you're heading in the right direction, and I can only wish you the joy of sobriety. It's a good place to be.

Best to you.

[Guitarista]

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Thank's Katesm,
Best wishes to you on your journey.

Oh, have you read that great piece in the 'toolbox' thread about 'gratitude thinking vs. deprivation thinking'?
Take care.......G-Force.

[KateH1]

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Hi Greg...
Next week will be 2 years sober for me....so, needless to say I am in quite a reflective mood! You have hit the nail on the head with this one! Like most of us....for the first few months of sobriety, I felt deprived...yes, I was also grateful....but mostly deprived. I would sometimes overwhelm myself with the thought of "never being able to drink again". But, somewhere along the way...coming up on year one of sobriety, I changed my thoughts to GRATITUDE!! I now understand that I am not missing out on Anything with alcohol out of my life. I have truly Gained Everything, by removing alcohol! Yes! I am truly grateful!

Another huge key for me was to stop the battle......just surrender. I simply could no longer "Battle the Beast"....because, for me...staying in the battle was to give The Beast way too much power in my life.

At about the one year mark, I read a post written by Starlight Impress. It hit me full on! In this post, Starlight wrote about the need to "Change the Way that We Live" when Truly Living with our new found Sobriety. I have found this to be 100% True.

Today I am Grateful....Today I am Happy, Today I can accept any challenge that life brings...Today I am Truly Living in the Moment.

xxx Kate

[manOman]

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Yeah Kate, surrender is good. I surrendered to the fact that I could not drink. Period.

And yes Greg, I've watched the tool thread. But I sincerely have a great faith in myself, and a greater belief that I can overcome. And I have.

If I consider that from Jan 06 and the dreadful night of July 07, I have actually been sober for 3 and a half years. If I hadn't had that shitty night (my bad choice!) I would feel a lot better about myself. As it it is, I've been sober since July 07 and if I have my say (my choice) about it, I will never be drunk again. Can't promise, but I will certainly do my best.

I choose where I am. And sober is truly good.

[mario]

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if I have my say (my choice) about it, I will never be drunk again. Can't promise, but I will certainly do my best. by manOman

they would be exactly my thoughts. thanks

[Guitarista]

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Kate and Kate!
You gal's are rockin' it. I will forever bother everyone senseless, long termer's and not so, with the Gratitude vs. Deprivation thinking stuff.
I know, we know from experience, how important it is, how we tackle this issue. And i never underestimate the power, and lifesaving qualities of our beloved 'Toolbox' thread.

Best wishes folk's! Did deep, and enjoy.........G.

[Guitarista]

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And Mario, don't think folk's haven't noticed your approaching milestone either, my friend! Bravo!

[tylyr]

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Wonderful posts. I'm here after doing well for me - 10weeks AF - is the most - and then falling off. I need to get through December, and Christmas. Looking for the support I know is here. Thanks everyone.

[Hefty]

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I've been sober 7 years and just lately I've been really strugglin with sobriety.The 'festive' season is hell on earth . One drink for me would not be slipping cause as someone else said here there was never one drink for me. I'm hoping one day I will be completely free of this problem. One thing is certain right now I cant forget that I am an alcoholic cause a slip would be a crash.
its been a long hard climb getting out of the hole I was in and I just feel like it would be too easy to fall back in

[Guitarista]

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Hang in there, Hefty!
Lot's of inspiring reading on this site to re-charge your batteries. Some folk's here go in to 'chat'. It might be useful to you to get some real time conversation? Stay strong, and careful not to get complacent. Distract yourself from this thinking bud.

[manOman]

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Again, thanks for the the thread Mario. Good suff.

And WOW Hefty, seven years!!!! I think I want to paint you in gold and put you on my mantlepiece. Hang in there buddy. Look yourself in the mirror each morning and think "Nah, I'm a good person and I like me sober, so I will absolutely not drink".

The festive season approaching is a biggie for anyone with addiction. Let's choose it as a challenge. We are tougher than anything thrown at us. And that means AL shoud be seen as a loser.

Faith to all.